25 things I learned at 25 (i wish i knew earlier)

You need to realize that if you want to do something, there's not going to be a special moment. I feel like people are going to [music] make fun of me and

special moment. I feel like people are going to [music] make fun of me and yeah, people probably going to, but it's okay. Who gives a [ __ ] If you don't ask for it, you're not going to get it. If you don't [music] work for it, you're not going to get it. It's just that simple. Okay? So, you have to go for it.

Number 12. You do not need to be friends with everyone. It's [music] okay to lose friends. There's going to be some XYZ some friends to save me. Like, no,

friends. There's going to be some XYZ some friends to save me. Like, no,

[ __ ] You save yourself. You do everything for yourself.

[music] Okay, guys. Welcome back to my channel. Okay, you might be like, "Wow, you look

Okay, guys. Welcome back to my channel. Okay, you might be like, "Wow, you look really fantastic today. You You might be ovulating." Yeah, you're right. I look amazing because today's my birthday. I am turning [ __ ] 25, babes. 25. So,

in honor of my 25th birthday, I want to do some of your guys' personal favorite videos of my journal entries. Okay? So, I wanted to just do this topic. 25

things I learned at the [music] age of 25. I know, super cringey, not original at all, but it is currently 4:48 in Korea right now. And you know what's crazy? I started this journal in January today. I filled her out. Guess what? I'm

crazy? I started this journal in January today. I filled her out. Guess what? I'm

on the last page. This is exactly what I wrote. Okay, I wrote down a bunch of stuff that I'm going to talk to you about. And if you're like, what are the stickers about? The stickers are basically my mood. I bought this like

stickers about? The stickers are basically my mood. I bought this like sticker and I never used it in my journals, like ever. [music] So, basically, yeah, I wrote down everything. I went to a cafe this morning and I was like, you know what,

everything. I went to a cafe this morning and I was like, you know what, let me just write down some stuff. And I'm not going to lie, for those who follow my Instagram, you would see that it was kind of hard for me to write down anything to be honest at the beginning. But then once it started flowing, it just started flowing. So I also want to have this edited like my usual journal

entries. So, you know, feels kind of nostalgic. I don't know. So, let's just

entries. So, you know, feels kind of nostalgic. I don't know. So, let's just get started because I feel like personally for me, I don't think 25 is a very very special special type of year, at least for me. But I do feel like it's still a number. I mean, it's the oldest I've been, which is I I mean, for every

single birthday that you go through. But I just feel like 25 is just an interesting number to me. Like, it's like five is just right in the middle.

You know, you're in your mid20. Literally in your mid20. And so, yeah, I just want to say some stuff to you guys or at least some stuff that I wanted to tell my younger self that I didn't know of. Number one, I wrote down once you want it, it'll become true. You can become what you want. The only limit is

you. And I think that that was something I realized in college, maybe a few years

you. And I think that that was something I realized in college, maybe a few years ago. And I think that when you grow up in a certain environment, people put

ago. And I think that when you grow up in a certain environment, people put limitations onto you, right? Because they themselves don't believe that they can become what they want to be. So of course, they put that limitation onto whoever. You know, when you believe something, you tell other people to

whoever. You know, when you believe something, you tell other people to believe it as well. So when you're younger, of course, you're going to believe that because you know who cuz you're a kid, right? But the thing is that when you really want something and you always act on it, it's bound to become true because from my experience, it's just it wouldn't work the other way

around. So that is something that I think a lot of you guys need to know.

around. So that is something that I think a lot of you guys need to know.

Like if there's something that you really want to do, like I always say on my channel is just you should do it. We don't have infinite amount of time on earth, so you might as well do it. You can just be a little cringe because I think being cringe is very freeing, you know, and if something you do are like,

oh, I feel like people are going to make fun of me and yeah, people probably going to, but it's okay. Who gives a [ __ ] You know, you're going to be living the dream life and the people who make fun of you are going to be the exact same people who are going to slide into your DMs and be like, "You want to

hang out?" Anyways, uh number two, a day is very long. a lot you can accomplish.

hang out?" Anyways, uh number two, a day is very long. a lot you can accomplish.

And the mood that I put for that one is literally this face. Okay, just this face, which is like honestly a very bad mood. Okay, I think that's a good thing.

Like you can think of it as a good thing because you can get so much done. But I

think that I've gotten to the point that I feel like sometimes like I feel like an hour feels very long. Like I can accomplish a lot within an hour. So

hence when I do take a break, it's just it's very weird for me because I'm like I'm wasting time wasting time. I can do so much within an hour. What I want to get at is just that you can do so much. There's so many different possibilities I can do and you can improve yourself in so many different ways. Like within a

day, so much can change. And I don't want this to come off as I don't know toxic positivity or toxic like productivity. Like if you don't go to bed exhausted, then you're not doing enough. Like I' I've seen people say that. And lowkey like I get sold into that too. But like there's also moments

that. And lowkey like I get sold into that too. But like there's also moments where you just have to be like, "Hold up, hold up. I got to I got to I got to I got to rest." Because you will get burnt out. You need to have a healthy balance of the two. Number three, I said that you don't know how hard other people have it. And I put in quotations, don't romanticize/ idolize others. I

think that sometimes like when we see people, right, especially online, you idolize them. You're like, "Oh, they're like doing like the best. They're living

idolize them. You're like, "Oh, they're like doing like the best. They're living

like the dream life." But the thing is that I say this, but it's like I feel like we don't practice it enough. You see celebrities like, "Oh my god, if I have her face, it's like so simple." You don't know that. Maybe she gets constantly sexualized. Maybe there's like predatory ass men going for her.

constantly sexualized. Maybe there's like predatory ass men going for her.

And then when you think that way, when you idolize someone, you feel really [ __ ] about yourself. And I'm not saying this to make you feel better about yourself, like, "Oh, they have it super hard." It's just that we're all human at the end of the day, so you just might as well focus on yourself, okay? We all

have our own issues and when you see someone, I don't know, celebrity, whatever, you only see the peak. You only see what they want you to see. You

never know what people are going through, right? It's just you don't know that. And I think that that itself creates a sort of like connection in a

that. And I think that that itself creates a sort of like connection in a way like like we're all human at the end. Okay? I think that's very important for us to remember. And there's also a sense of like empathy towards others as well. You don't know what the they're going through. You know what I mean? Oh,

well. You don't know what the they're going through. You know what I mean? Oh,

number four. I think I already mentioned this. Everyone's human. We're all like in other countries more than others, there's like this very intense like idolization. Like people like to idolize people, people like to put people on

idolization. Like people like to idolize people, people like to put people on pedestals. I don't think I'm an odd person out, but I think that there's

pedestals. I don't think I'm an odd person out, but I think that there's some people who do it to the very extreme that I don't understand. Like

don't get me wrong, back when I was in high school, I love celebrities, you know? It got me through school. I love that obsession over people. They bring

know? It got me through school. I love that obsession over people. They bring

me entertainment. It's like, you know, whatever. Yeah. As I gotten older and also just also making content as well. I just feel like they're literally human.

I personally just don't like when people put other people on pedestals. I just

don't think it's healthy and I just don't think it makes sense. You know

what I mean? Everyone has flaws. Like what makes you think that just because you look a certain way, just because you're this person, life is perfect.

Life might be easier for some other people. You know, they might not have to go through certain struggles, but everyone has your own very like certain struggles that you probably just can't comprehend. Number five, I said that if you don't change, it won't change. The thing is that you need to realize that

if you want to do something, there's not going to be a special moment. If there's

not going to be a rainbow in the sky or somebody knocking on your door being like, you have to do this. Like maybe maybe if you do have that, then that's great. If you have a great friend who inspired you, whatever, great. But for

great. If you have a great friend who inspired you, whatever, great. But for

most people, that's not really the case. Like if you want to do something, you have to be the one willing to do it. And that is the hardest part. It just takes time to keep practicing and practicing like this is your life. You call the shots. It's exactly that simple. And it's also just like closed mouths don't

shots. It's exactly that simple. And it's also just like closed mouths don't get fed. I think I saw this one model say that before and that's very true. If

get fed. I think I saw this one model say that before and that's very true. If

you don't ask for it, you're not going to get it. If you don't work for it, you're not going to get it. It's just that simple. Okay? So, you have to go for it. Number six, I said, "Nobody's saving you. You save yourself." Which is

for it. Number six, I said, "Nobody's saving you. You save yourself." Which is basically like number five. I don't know. I think especially for us women, I don't know, like back then watching a lot of like [ __ ] [ __ ] ass Disney shows, like I always imagine, oh, there's going to be a prince charming to save me.

There's going to be some XYZ, some friend to save me. Like, no [ __ ] you save yourself. You do everything for yourself. Which is why like for me, like

save yourself. You do everything for yourself. Which is why like for me, like even spoiling myself, I don't expect anyone to spoil me. I spoil myself. I do

everything for myself. You know, this ass hotel was so expensive and like nobody got it for me. Got it for myself cuz I'm like nobody's going to get it for me. Like if somebody got it for me, that would be amazing. Like if somebody

for me. Like if somebody got it for me, that would be amazing. Like if somebody treats me out, this would be amazing. But like I don't expect that. I don't

think that we should live life expecting like, oh, like a man's going to come XYZ do this for me. Like we live in 2025, babes. Like I mean like if you want that, like you do you, babes. But I also wanted to say that like we live in 2025.

Us women, like we can do everything for ourselves. You can treat yourself out to a really nice dinner. You can buy yourself that luxury ass bag that you wanted. And number seven, you still feel 14 and 25. You don't feel 25 and scared

wanted. And number seven, you still feel 14 and 25. You don't feel 25 and scared for the future. So, I think that when I was younger, like especially in high school, I or in college, I expected myself to like have everything figured out at 25 cuz like, you know, if you're 18, you just think that, oh, 25 is like

super old, like she probably has everything figured out. The truth is that you don't. Okay, at least for me, I don't. I don't feel like I have everything figured out. I don't feel 25. I still feel like I'm like that 14-year-old kid, like I'm the 18-year-old kid, you know, and like mentality wise, I still don't know what the is going on. I'm still scared of the

mother future. Yeah. I feel like I don't know. I don't know if that's like

mother future. Yeah. I feel like I don't know. I don't know if that's like something people talk about when they turn 25, but at least for me, I still feel young. Um, in number eight, I said that I can't imagine being 35 or my 30s.

feel young. Um, in number eight, I said that I can't imagine being 35 or my 30s.

Same thing when I was 18. Like, I couldn't imagine being in my 20s. Even

like when I was 14, I can't imagine when I was in my 20s that I would be in my 20s. And even now, I can't imagine being in my 30s or like 35. Which honestly

20s. And even now, I can't imagine being in my 30s or like 35. Which honestly

just shows you how precious time is. Spend it wisely. And I think that sometimes I still do think that I restrict myself a lot from happiness sometimes cuz I'm like seeing like how happy I get when I travel and I'm like, "Why don't you travel?" I'm like, "Oh, cuz I'm scared. Cuz I'm scared."

Sometimes you just got to push yourself. you know, you are the only person that can push yourself essentially. Number nine, save up, invest in luxury than poor quality since luxury lasts longer. When I was younger, I would say that I would buy 10 bags and they add up to $1,000 rather than buying $1,000 bag,

just one bag, you know, and I just thought, oh, more options the better.

But the thing is that those things get worn. So, I think that it's a lot better for you to be investing in highquality items. It doesn't have to be luxury items, but it needs to be high quality. Trust me, it's worth the investment. And

I think that as you get older, you know what your taste is. You know what is versatile to you. You know what you're going to wear. Invest in those, okay?

Cuz trust me, those last. Number 10, um, spoil yourself. No one can spoil you more than yourself. I literally just mentioned this. I guess I forgot I wrote that down. But yeah, you are your biggest prize, okay? You need to

that down. But yeah, you are your biggest prize, okay? You need to recognize that. And some people who makes you feel, oh, you spend so much

recognize that. And some people who makes you feel, oh, you spend so much money like like [ __ ] if you earn the money yourself, you're spending it on yourself, why, you know, why are you like, you know, why are people judging you for that? You know like you are your most important thing. You should be

spoiling yourself. Nobody knows you better than you know yourself. So like

spoiling yourself. Nobody knows you better than you know yourself. So like

you know what exactly you like. You buy that for yourself. Okay? Because you are the biggest prize. Number 11. People who are your friends slash nice to you may not have your best interest at heart. That was something that I feel like as I got older I just learned that it wasn't surprising but I think that not like a

black and white thing. You know it's cuz it might be due to their own insecurities, due to their own problems that they're going through. And it's

like we all have problems and that's completely fine. But it's just uh at the end of the day, it's like some people don't have your best interest at heart.

That's just as plain as simple like they might not mean it, which is, you know, it's completely okay. Some people who are nice to you, you know, they just want access to you. They just want access to you as a human. They don't

really want to see you succeed. Like even if they do want you succeed, it's also at a point like I do feel like sometimes they don't want to see you go over a certain point, especially when they're not doing good in life themselves. And which is why personally it's important to choose your friends

themselves. And which is why personally it's important to choose your friends wisely. I'm a strong believer that the people around you strongly impact who

wisely. I'm a strong believer that the people around you strongly impact who you are. So, pick your friends wisely. Number 12, you do not need to be friends

you are. So, pick your friends wisely. Number 12, you do not need to be friends with everyone. It's okay to lose friends. I think that coming from a

with everyone. It's okay to lose friends. I think that coming from a formal people pleaser. I still struggle with it, but I've gotten so much better at it. Is that sometimes I feel really about myself when I see that certain

at it. Is that sometimes I feel really about myself when I see that certain friendships don't work out. Certain friendship died, you know, just lost certain friendships and I'm like, "Oh, I should have like preserved that." I feel like everyone tries to maintain it in a certain way. They don't want to like cut

it super obvious like I'm never going to be friends with you because you never know. like you might see them at a certain occasion or whatever and some

know. like you might see them at a certain occasion or whatever and some people might go on coffee dates with them even though they don't really want to be friends with these friends but they don't want to create bad blood you know there's those type of people and I feel like for me I just don't entertain that and I don't think there's right or wrong answers to this it just depends on

you and I think that for me I just don't have the energy to do that and sometimes I think about it I'm like maybe I should do that maybe I should have just maybe pretend like not in like a bad way but sometimes like feel like I'm making more enemies than friends at the end of the day it is what it is and for me my logic

is just that why put in energy in time when I know that I don't see a future with this friend. You know, there's like so many qualities that doesn't sit with me and am I really just going to pour in time just to avoid the uncomfortableness of us like not being friends anymore, you know? Like the awkwardness and I

feel like people shouldn't take offense to people who don't want to be your friends because sometimes just like the vibes are just it's different, you know?

It's like there's so much people in the world. You can't be friends with everyone. Number 13, people treat you based on how you look. Yes. I think that

everyone. Number 13, people treat you based on how you look. Yes. I think that that is just something I learned cuz of growing up ugly. Quotation marks. It's

like when you look a certain way, people treat you better. It's just how it works, which is sad. Especially in Korea, people really like that that [ __ ] is like true, but like in Korea, it really gets emphasized, you know, like you go out not wearing makeup. Yeah. People treat you differently. It's just

how it is. Which is why I think it's very important to invest in your looks, in your character, in your education, in your career, everything about yourself.

And you might be, "Oh yeah, you're being so materialistic." We live in a materialistic world. I'm just being real with you, okay? You don't have to take

materialistic world. I'm just being real with you, okay? You don't have to take my advice. You can be, "Wow, she's like so toxic. like she only believes and

my advice. You can be, "Wow, she's like so toxic. like she only believes and looks like it's up to you, but I'm just telling you from my 25 years of living, people judge you based off how you look. People treat you better if you look prettier. People treat you better if you look more put together. Okay? It's also

prettier. People treat you better if you look more put together. Okay? It's also

confidence. Confidence is very important. If you're like confident and you take up space, people will treat you according to that. But when you're very insecure, like you know, people will disrespect you. Number 14, don't take advice from people you don't want to become. Very, very important.

Especially, I feel like in the older generation, especially family members, they will literally give you unsolicited advice. Like even friends sometimes they will give you unsolicited advice. I know that like it can sometimes just be for your best interest, right? But sometimes like if I didn't ask, don't give it to me. But even when they do give it to you, if it's like a stranger or whatever

me. But even when they do give it to you, if it's like a stranger or whatever and you're like, what the are they think like why would I take your advice? Like

you know, I don't like that advice. Do you want to become them? Then you really think about it. If you don't want to become that person, don't take their advice. You know, like even if you do want to become that person, still take

advice. You know, like even if you do want to become that person, still take it with a grain of salt. Really think through it. Is this for me? Because

everyone has different sorts of, you know, like context. Like it's like different for everyone situations and so you have to really think through it.

Number 15, don't control slashwaste energy on what you can't control. That I

feel like has really helped me a lot. Like it makes me like feel a lot more relieved when I think about it. I'm like, "Okay, literally it's that simple.

When you passing your test, it's done. Don't stress about it." And I know it's hard. Honestly, it's hard because I remember back then people tell me that

hard. Honestly, it's hard because I remember back then people tell me that and I was still stressed about it. But the thing is that it's just that simple.

Especially as you get older and older, like whatever you put out there, you cannot control it anymore. It's out there. So, you might as well just let it go. And that honestly when I tell myself that or when I clock myself when I'm

go. And that honestly when I tell myself that or when I clock myself when I'm like stressing about it, it really brings me a lot of peace because I do think that I'm like a very like a control freak which is not a good thing.

Like I just feel like things need to go in a certain way and it's like it's a very bad flaw of mine and I really hate it. But these days I just tell myself if I can't control it, I can't control it. Let it go. Number 16. Authenticity is

powerful. It attracts people. Not only is that powerful, I think it makes you happy. Okay? It's just very important. I think that is one of the key things I

happy. Okay? It's just very important. I think that is one of the key things I learned this year is just be yourself. Just do whatever the you want. Just do

what aligns with you. You laugh super weird. Okay, then you laugh super weird.

Like, yeah, I might judge you. [laughter] Then people might judge you, but you be yourself. You being authentically yourself is going to attract people because we live in a society that we try to cover hide a lot of ourselves. And I get it. Like sometimes it's for work. It's just how

of ourselves. And I get it. Like sometimes it's for work. It's just how we deal with that as a society. But at the same time, like at a healthy amount of authenticity, it's very nice, you know? And yes, it's like we're all scared of being judged because we all want to fit in. And so we want to be accepted. Who doesn't want to be accepted, right? sometimes they can make

accepted. Who doesn't want to be accepted, right? sometimes they can make you really miserable because it can make you very suppressed and you're doing things that you don't really want to, you know, do. And so it's very important that you stick true to who you are. Okay. Number 17, stay away from people pleasers as friends. Okay? And it's like I get it. Like especially in work

settings, like you have to like, you know, you have to be nice to your boss.

Like yes, I get that. But like as friends, cuz as a form of people pleaser myself, like I used to like be a certain way to get people to like me. And I

don't even realize how manipulative that is because like I'm literally trying to get you to like me. Literally, I said this in my journal entry on my other channel, my second channel. Kindness without truth is manipulation. Emma

Watson said that, okay, in a podcast, I remember. And you don't realize that.

But the thing is that you're just trying to get that person to like you and you're not even showing your real self. And this also grows seeker resentment because you keep playing and playing this character and then it's like it it builds a certain rhythm. It builds a certain type of dynamic. And then you're like, "Oh my god, why is this dynamic like this?" Like, "How the [ __ ] did it

become like this?" Well, you made it like that. You wanted that person to like you so bad. But the thing is that the people that will be your friends will come to you if you just be yourself. So personally for me, I don't like people pleasers. Everyone can have their preferences. Don't come for me.

Okay? I'm just saying like I like to know people for who they are. And this

is coming from a formal people pleaser. Okay? Number 18. Be friends with people who match your energy. It's very important. Like especially if you're you're super high maintenance, if you're very ambitious person and if you're very disciplined, be friends with those people because those people will only make you more disciplined. Yes. I think it's like it's good to have friends, you

know, like kind of different all across, but it's very important that your friends share your core values. I think as you get older, I think it's better to be friends with people who are more compatible with you. But it's really up to you because I know some people like having friends for different needs.

Like, oh, I have my ice skating friend. I have my friends who talk about emotions. I have my friends who talk about work. Like, you do you. You know

emotions. I have my friends who talk about work. Like, you do you. You know

that everything can work. Like everything is not black and white. You

know, it's it's up to you. Anyways, so 19 realizing you come farther than you think. I think it's very important especially living in like a I don't I

think. I think it's very important especially living in like a I don't I think we're living in a world or it might just be in certain countries where it's like very fast-paced. So, constantly running, constantly hustling, constantly grinding. You don't really reflect on much, you know? You don't

constantly grinding. You don't really reflect on much, you know? You don't

really think that, oh, I've actually came really far. I'm really grateful for, you know, XYZ. I think it's very important for us to just be like, okay, we came a long way. Like, let's take a moment and be happy. You know what I mean? And like being proud of yourself. And something that I started doing

mean? And like being proud of yourself. And something that I started doing recently is just to say out loud every single morning three things I'm grateful for. It can be soing like simple. I'm like, I'm grateful for my health. I'm

for. It can be soing like simple. I'm like, I'm grateful for my health. I'm

grateful to be traveling. I'm grateful to eat the food I want. That's that

simple. And it really just makes you feel a little bit better. Number 20. I

still don't know what I'm doing, but I have more experience. I think that especially when we're younger, we always think that, well, we have everything figured out. You don't, but you have more life experiences that's teaching

figured out. You don't, but you have more life experiences that's teaching you something. I think life is just what you do with the time you're given. You

you something. I think life is just what you do with the time you're given. You

don't need to have a purpose in this world. It's just you just have time. You

have time, and it's a privilege to be alive, and you just do whatever the you want to do with that time. Number 21, discipline/h hard work is greater than talent. If you can grind, then you will go farther than anyone else. I said this

talent. If you can grind, then you will go farther than anyone else. I said this multiple times, like it's very important that you put in hard work. And again, I always say this, it's not mutually exclusive, okay? You can have discipline, also talent. You just need to want it that bad. You can make up

excuses, all that because we're all played with the cards we're given, okay?

That is just the truth at the end of the day. Some people have it easier, okay?

And some people have it harder, but that is just your cards, okay? You can't be complaining about it because that are just youring cards. You cannot change the cards you're given. only have to just go forward because if you sit and whine about it, you're still with those cards, okay? It's not going to like it's going to change the cards cuz life is unfair. You can't control where you're

born, who you're born with. Like it's just you're born and there you go.

That's just is your life and you go with it. Let me just say this for my Chinese followers, you know? I don't really know how to explain this, but it's like it's like if you can withstand certain obstacles, if you can constantly just keep grinding and like do the most, I don't think anything can stop you in

this lifetime because not many people can go through obstacles. Not many

people can go through the hardships. And I think the hardest thing in life is that you put in a lot of work and you constantly see failure. I don't want to say failure because I always think that you're getting slightly better, but it's like you don't get the outcome you want and you have to constantly keep going and going. I think that is the hardest part and I think that's very scary and

and going. I think that is the hardest part and I think that's very scary and not many people can keep doing that. So I think that for those of you who can do that, it's very impressive. Thing is that I saw this one video I think someone said that you just need to outlast your competition because I've always thought that oh everyone grows, everyone thinks like me. But the thing

is that it's that's not true. Not everyone thinks like that. Not

everyone's that obsessed. There's only certain people who are that [ __ ] obsessed and those are the ones that [ __ ] succeed in life. So, it's very important that you know that and that I don't want to say that you're special.

Like, I don't want to get it to your head, but you are special. You are that, okay? You just have to grind and not everyone can grind. So, the fact that

okay? You just have to grind and not everyone can grind. So, the fact that you're already grinding, you're bound to succeed. 22. How people treat you is how they feel about themselves. Like, yes, if an employee gives you attitude, it sucks, you know, and it's like me telling you this like how they treat you is just how they feel about themselves. I'm sure it's not going to make you feel

better, but that's just the truth. How people treat you, people judge you. Like

yes, it's going to still feel like, but it's genuinely just because of themselves. Like sometimes like when I'm like in a bad mood and when I give

themselves. Like sometimes like when I'm like in a bad mood and when I give people attitude, it's not really because of what they've done. Like yes,

sometimes it could be because of what they've done, but like majority of the time it's like if you feel you didn't do anything wrong, it's just because of they're having a day. Okay? So we shouldn't hold on to that and be like, but it's hard. Like I'm a sensitive ass too. Like it gets to me. It's just what

it is, you know? Number 23. A lot of things in the world is transactional.

Plus, that's okay. And I think that's just something that I learned in adult world especially, you know, it's just what it is. Like some people even like friendships, I'm with you because I have a good time with you or you hang out with that person to be networking like that. I used to be really naive. I'm

like, wait, what the like I just want to be friends with this person like what why is that? But sometimes that's just how the world works and that's like you accepting that just makes it easier, you know? Like it's like you're benefiting from this, that person's benefiting from this. It's just that simple, you know?

And that's okay. That's okay. But I think it's a little different when it's like maybe like the expectations is different around like let's say you're dating someone and you genuinely love this guy. You're like, "Oh, this guy makes me happy and this guy just want to have sex." I don't know. I think it's if it's not like the same, then we have an issue. But if both of you guys just want

to, you know, have sex, you know, whatever, like friends with benefits.

This is such a bad example. Why am I giving this example? But whatever. This

is the one that came to my head. But just like when it's like different, I think that causes a bit of an issue. But you guys need to feel free to disagree with me in the comments, okay? Cuz everything I say is like open for discussions. I am one person. I am one woman saying whatever the [ __ ] I'm

discussions. I am one person. I am one woman saying whatever the [ __ ] I'm saying. And you can feel free to disagree. This is my take. Okay. Number

saying. And you can feel free to disagree. This is my take. Okay. Number

24. The simple moments are key to real happiness. Me waking up, going to a 7-Eleven, going to get that [ __ ] big ass Americana with the winter melon milk. That brings me a lot of joy. That's my happiness. Happiness is not a

milk. That brings me a lot of joy. That's my happiness. Happiness is not a grand thing. Happiness are little bits. And that's just important for you to

grand thing. Happiness are little bits. And that's just important for you to know. And that will just make your life happier because tiny little happiness

know. And that will just make your life happier because tiny little happiness equals big happiness. And happiness is just moments. you I don't think you can be happy all the time because if you don't feel a wide range of emotions, you cannot feel happiness. If you don't know sadness, you're not going to feel happiness. If you're happy all the time, what the is that? That just became the

happiness. If you're happy all the time, what the is that? That just became the baseline then. So, it's very important for you to realize that. 25. You don't

baseline then. So, it's very important for you to realize that. 25. You don't

need to wait for a quote unquote milestone to deserve something. You're

allowed to live and take up space. And that made me happy. I think that just goes for everything, especially in life. Like, you're always waiting for something. You're like, "Oh, it has to be like XYZ. I have to do that in order

something. You're like, "Oh, it has to be like XYZ. I have to do that in order to get myself that." Of course. Yeah. It's like you have to make it like financially make sense, you know? Like if you don't if you don't got a job, maybe don't buy that crazy ass thing that's going to cost you a rent. Just

giving you a little disclaimer here. I'm sure we all know what the I mean, but it's like I can only wear a bikini if my body looks a certain way. I can only be going on a solo traveling if I look a certain way. You know, I can only be talking to so and so or or I don't know, be friends with XYZ if I go into the

certain college. Like stupid like that. Don't make your life so conditional.

certain college. Like stupid like that. Don't make your life so conditional.

Don't put conditions on your life because that makes it so restricting because the thing is that things constantly evolve. When you evolve in a certain point, your condition is going to evolve again. You know, it's never ending. Okay? So, you might as well not put conditions on your life. Just do

ending. Okay? So, you might as well not put conditions on your life. Just do

what you want to do. That was the last piece of advice, but I think I wrote down something in the back. I said that lastly. If you don't feel secure, it'll reflect onto everything plus perception of everything. External things plus money won't make you more confident from within. Maybe it'll make you more

confident in your skills, but internally you need to do the work. And I put a very sad face with that cuz I think that for majority of my life, I always thought that external things can make me happy. Like yes, it brings you closer to happiness, but at the end internal stuff really [ __ ] matters. And it's like, you know, you might be, oh, I feel insecure. Let me go travel. You're still

going to feel insecure. Like yes, it can make you happy temporarily, but like the key issues, the internal issues is still going to be within you. If your issues lied within like external stuff, then yes, you moving to a different place, you changing your scenery is going to fix that because your original issues was due to external things. But if your issues lies within internally, it's

going to stay that way. So it's very important that we look within and it's like can't escape from your issues. So yeah, I really hope you guys like that.

Yeah, I just want to do this in celebration of my 25th birthday today.

I'm very blessed to be turning [music] 25. And I think that I can officially say that my frontal lobe has developed. Yeah. And I think that I am looking forward to more things to learn because I think that right now I'm like, "Oh, I know everything." But I I think like that all the time. Every single

know everything." But I I think like that all the time. Every single

motherucking birthday I'm like, "Oh, I know everything." And then I'm like, "Oh, [music] I didn't." Life is always going to be humbling you, but at the same time, it's going to give you more wisdom. That's just how it works. And I

think that when you learn how much you don't know, that's wisdom, you know. But

yeah, I just want to say that thank you guys for being with me for another year and I'm excited to continue [music] being with you guys for the following year. I'm excited and we can both grow together. I I think back to like my past

year. I'm excited and we can both grow together. I I think back to like my past [music] 2 years or 3 years being online and I'm like, "Wow, things has changed."

See a lot of comments where people are like, "Oh, you grow more confident." Or

there's also those comments, "Wo, she's changed." And [music] it's like, you know, it can be negative, it can be positive. You can be the one sole judge of that. But I do think that for me it's been more positive and it's like, you

of that. But I do think that for me it's been more positive and it's like, you know, I had see comments where people are like, "Yeah, she changed. I don't

like her anymore." That's completely fair. You I'm not everyone's cup of tea.

It's completely [music] fine. You don't have to watch me. You don't have to like me. Completely okay. I don't take offense to that. And I hope you have a

me. Completely okay. I don't take offense to that. And I hope you have a great life. It's just that simple. That's just the [ __ ] that happens when

great life. It's just that simple. That's just the [ __ ] that happens when you pose yourself online. That's completely cool. You know, I know what I signed up for. But yeah, I just want to say that thank you guys for being [music] here. Thank you guys for watching this video. Yeah, wish me a

[music] here. Thank you guys for watching this video. Yeah, wish me a happy birthday in the comments. I would love that. Anyways, I think that definitely when I post this, it's probably not going to be my birthday anymore, but I would love a belated birthday. But yeah, I hope you guys have an amazing amazing rest of your day and rest of your week. And I am [music]

ready to take some bombass photos in this [ __ ] dress. Hopefully the photos I'm going to post on Instagram eat down. Yeah. Anyways, I will see you guys very very soon. And [music] until then, have an amazing amazing rest of your day.

very soon. And [music] until then, have an amazing amazing rest of your day.

Okay, bye guys. Love you. Uh-huh.