AEE - Do You Have FOMO? YOLO!

Hello, Aubrey. How are you?

>> I'm great. Lindsay, how are you today?

>> Good. Aubrey, I'm curious. Do you often get FOMO? Are you someone that

get FOMO? Are you someone that experiences that emotion?

>> Absolutely. I get FOMO all the time. If

I can't go to a party or if I miss out on something, I know I'm missing fun times. I hate it. Like, I would almost

times. I hate it. Like, I would almost rather go somewhere sick >> in [laughter] order to not miss out.

>> Really?

or if I'm too tired, I'm like, I'm going to go anyway because I don't want to miss out on all the fun.

>> That's so funny. And so, what is FOMO, by the way, just in case any I mean, I don't I think our listeners all know what it is, but just in case.

>> Yeah, it stands for fear of missing out.

So, I get that. I get that. Fear of

missing out on something fun if I'm not there.

>> Yes. And Matteo's asked a question which is inspiring this episode today. Um,

I'll go ahead and just read the question. Matteo said, "I've been

question. Matteo said, "I've been hearing the word FOMO a lot lately.

Could you help me out with this word? I

hope you can make this one crystal clear to me as always. Have a great new year.

I'm closing out the year with an Allers's English episode." Mateos,

amazing. Sounds like a super fan. We

love that. Matteos has sent in a lot of amazing questions. I loved this one. So,

amazing questions. I loved this one. So,

we're talking about FOMO today and also YOLO. These are both so common in um the

YOLO. These are both so common in um the states at least right now and you should be using them.

>> They've both been common for a couple years now, right Aubrey? Um they've been around for a little while for sure.

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>> Exactly. Good stuff. All right. So,

again, it comes down to fear of missing out. I feel like I used to experience

out. I feel like I used to experience this a little bit more when I was younger than I do now. I feel like it's kind of dissipated for me a little bit.

>> Interesting. Now you're okay to miss out on things >> kind [laughter] of rather like great. I

would love to miss out. I would love to miss out. Please. [laughter]

miss out. Please. [laughter]

>> It's interesting. This is written. It's

an acronym. It's always written in all caps, right? So capital F O M O.

caps, right? So capital F O M O.

>> And yeah, it's interesting. It's we'll

use it like if someone makes plans and we can't attend, we often use it very playfully, right? We'll just be like,

playfully, right? We'll just be like, "Oh, I have FOMO." meaning like you're sad you can't make it. You know you're going to miss out on a fun fun time. But

often like you might even say this Lindsay if you're actually glad you can't attend because it's such a way to make someone it's it's more about building connection to let them know you wish you could be there. You would love

to attend.

>> That's a good point. Here's a question about this usage here. Can we use it when it refers to something that's already happening? Like someone's

already happening? Like someone's telling a story and maybe for whatever reason you didn't go. Yes. Right. Just

interrupt and say, "Oh, that sounds so fun. I have so much FOMO right now." Or,

fun. I have so much FOMO right now." Or,

"I have FOMO right now." Yes.

Absolutely.

>> Okay. Good. What else do we need to know?

>> Yeah. So, we we'll also use this when someone is sharing, like you said, about a fun time you missed, right? Just be

like, "Sounds amazing. I have so much FOMO." And I think it's important to

FOMO." And I think it's important to point out that it's not just slang that's used by like teenagers and young people. Like you said, Lindsay, it's

people. Like you said, Lindsay, it's been around a couple of years. It's very

much been adopted into the vernacular.

Anyone of any age can say this.

Everyone's going to know what you mean.

>> Yeah. And I think this these two YOLO and FOMO have kind of transcended this uh pitfall where it becomes uncool when adults adopt it. Like last week we talked about 67 67, right? We don't know

what that means. But now that adults are trying to know, you [laughter] know what it means. Now that adults are trying to

it means. Now that adults are trying to know what it means, it's not cool anymore anymore. But these acronyms,

anymore anymore. But these acronyms, especially FOMO, really kind of transcended that trap, >> don't you think?

>> Exactly. Yes. So, let's use um let's share a couple of examples here, right?

Um so, for example, I went to the party because I had FOMO even though I was exhausted. This is me. I could be so

exhausted. This is me. I could be so tired like I'm going anyway. I have

FOMO. [laughter]

>> That's so funny. That's so funny. Um or

his FOMO kicked in when he saw everyone traveling without him. I mean, social media is ultimately the worst with this.

It's what? Yeah,

>> it's really compounded it, right?

Because once upon a time, we didn't know that much what other people were doing, what our friends were doing. So, there

wasn't as much FOMO. Now, we can see their posts on social media and be bummed that we're missing out on all of it.

>> And it can show up anywhere. I mean, for me, I said earlier, I don't experience it as much as I used to, but actually now I pref I experience professional FOMO. So when I go to LinkedIn and I

FOMO. So when I go to LinkedIn and I scroll the the feed in LinkedIn, I see this person presented at this conference or this I get a little bit of [laughter] FOMO for that kind of thing. It's

>> I'm glad you're pointing that out because it's not just about parties, right? Someone could tell me they were

right? Someone could tell me they were able to sneak in an afternoon nap and I might be like have FOMO.

>> Oh, sure. Sure. [laughter]

I'm missing out on napping.

>> About anything you missed.

>> So you could have FOMO for someone's not doing anything, right? Is that

>> right? I wish I had was able to do nothing. Right.

nothing. Right.

>> Totally.

>> Then yolo. And I love this one.

>> Yes. This one's fun. It stands for you only live once. So we often use this to justify taking a risk, being spontaneous, doing something indulgent

or adventurous. Or maybe like if you

or adventurous. Or maybe like if you have FOMO, you're going to go even though you're tired because yolo.

>> Yeah. I only live once.

>> I know. It's funny because I feel like when I was a kid, my dad used to say this a lot. like, "Oh, order the banana split. You only live once. Come on."

split. You only live once. Come on."

Right. But then I don't think it was an acronym then when I like in the 80s and the 90s.

>> They had to say the whole thing. What a

waste of time.

>> I know. But it almost feels more authentic before it became an acronym in some ways.

>> That's true. [laughter] Now just yellow.

>> It did become sort of more light-hearted and fun sounding with the acronym.

>> It did more Instagrammy kind of. Right.

Um so for example, I'm headed to Australia next month. YOLO. Right. So,

you you kind of say it as a way of justifying what you're doing, that you're living your life, sort of. And we

often do use that sing songy tone that you're hearing there, right? YOLO. Kind

of emphasize it like that.

>> Exactly. And how would you say the next one?

>> So, they decided to quit their jobs and move abroad because yolo, >> right? So, it doesn't always have to be

>> right? So, it doesn't always have to be yolo, >> right? And yeah, the intonation is

>> right? And yeah, the intonation is different there between the two examples because you kind of paused after because and then you sort of pause there when you're giving it as a reason. Right.

>> Exactly. Right. I'm like, yeah, they're doing this big change because you only live once. Right. But you can also say

live once. Right. But you can also say yolo there sort of a little more seriously.

>> Yeah. Interesting. All right. What else

do we need to know? What emotions does this come from?

>> This is interesting. So, this is sort of a pro tip to remember the difference between them. FOMO is sort of a little

between them. FOMO is sort of a little more anxiety driven. I don't want to miss out. Whereas yolo is sort of about

miss out. Whereas yolo is sort of about risk embracing or fun embracing, right?

I should do it now because I only live once.

>> Exactly. I love it. They're So, they are different. The meaning is different, but

different. The meaning is different, but they're both rampant and common, right?

>> Totally.

>> Yeah. All right, Aubrey, let's let's Yeah, let's get into a role play. We are

college buddies, college friends.

>> I'll start us out.

>> Okay.

>> Are you coming to Jaime's birthday this weekend?

>> I'm not sure. I have so much studying to catch up on.

>> Same. But everyone's going.

>> Oh, now I'm getting FOMO. I know I'll regret it if I don't go.

>> Me, too. I think I'm going to go and you should, too. We could both use a break.

should, too. We could both use a break.

>> True. You know what? YOLO. Nice.

>> Nice.

>> I feel like college is probably where people are often like at the worst FOMO that they have.

>> Yeah, cuz there's so many fun things going on and they're so busy with school and work and they're not able to go to all of it. you have to miss out on some things.

>> Or even just if cuz I remember in college the kids would go together to dinner, right? Go to the dining hall and

dinner, right? Go to the dining hall and like if they went without me, I would get FOMO for sure. Be like, "Oh, I missed out on that." It was just a group going to dinner, right? But it's

something [laughter] so simple just because there was constantly something fun to do with peers. Right.

>> For sure. It's true. College is a trip for sure.

>> But if you didn't have FOMO at least a few times in college, you probably failed out [laughter] >> because there are so many things you're going to have to miss if you're studying. I don't

studying. I don't >> It's so true. True. It's so true. Um,

all right. So, we used both here. And

so, you said, "Oh, are you coming to the party?" I said, "I have to study." And

party?" I said, "I have to study." And

you said, "Come on, everyone's going."

[laughter] Yeah. Everyone's going. And

then I said, "Oh, now I'm getting FOMO."

>> Right.

>> Yep. And I said, "Me, too. I'm going to go." And you should, too. And then I'm

go." And you should, too. And then I'm like, "We could both use a break from studying. You can only study for so long

studying. You can only study for so long before you need a break."

>> Yeah. And our listeners who have the transcripts from today's episode are going to see I'm going to go. But what

Aubrey just said is so native and natural. She said, "Me, too. I'm gonna

natural. She said, "Me, too. I'm gonna

go." Right. I'm gonna go.

>> So, let's cram it all together.

>> Yes. And you guys can learn more about that in our pronunciation course. Right.

Go to allersenglish.com/prononunciation.

We cover that in a really key part of the course. And the feedback from the

the course. And the feedback from the course is turning out to be really good, Aubrey. We've had some really nice

Aubrey. We've had some really nice feedback.

>> Amazing. And that's so true. One, this

is one of the most native natural things you can do is to find out when you should be dropping letters, when you should be assimilating sounds. So many

things that natives do naturally that a lot of language language learners don't realize they need to do.

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>> Yes, this is amazing. those phrases like same, me too, where you're connecting by agreeing but in a really natural way.

>> Yeah. I love when we can just I love the episodes that are just so connectionbased, Aubrey. Absolutely.

connectionbased, Aubrey. Absolutely.

Because it reminds us why we're here and why we publish this podcast.

>> Exactly. Right. You guys don't want to have that FOMO that comes from missing out on all of these connections and conversations, right? and you're just

conversations, right? and you're just sort of in a group but not able to participate. You have FOMO even though

participate. You have FOMO even though you're right there. That's happened to me before. You want to be able to

me before. You want to be able to participate.

>> Interesting. Interesting. I feel like even dogs can get FOMO. I think my dog gets FOMO when he sees two other dogs playing and they don't want to play with him. You know, [laughter]

him. You know, [laughter] such a universal not just human, but it's like universal an aspect of being alive.

>> It's such a Yeah, I'm sure. Right.

Animals, humans, we all feel this.

Nobody wants to be left out. We want to feel included.

>> It's so true. All right, great topic today, Aubrey, and we'll see you back on the show soon. All right, have a good week.

>> You, too. See you next time. Bye.