Dopamine Expert: Short Form Videos Are Frying Your Brain! This Is A Dopamine Disaster!

There's a great experiment where rats were given a lever to press for cocaine and after learning that it releases a lot of dopamine, the rats will [music] press that lever till exhaustion or death, which is essentially the model of

addiction that we see in humans. But if

the cocaine is then removed, eventually they won't press [music] the lever anymore. Now, if that same rat after a

anymore. Now, if that same rat after a period of time is then exposed to a very painful foot shock, the first thing the rat will do is run over and start pressing that lever again. And that's

really powerful because it shows that when individuals are under extreme stress, they are more vulnerable to going back to compulsive overconumption of our drug of choice because their

brain has already encoded using these high dopamine rewards as a way to get out of that pain.

>> Okay, so what do I need to do to make sure that I can knock the bad habits and add some new ones?

>> Here's what we do.

>> Dr. Anna Lumpy is chief of the Stanford Addiction Clinic and a [music] worldleading expert on the subject of dopamine. And now she's returned to warn

dopamine. And now she's returned to warn us that addiction is the modern plague and how we can rewire our brains to take back control.

>> On average, it takes 4 weeks for people to get out of constant state [music] of craving. But here's the problem. Our

craving. But here's the problem. Our

survival depends on figuring out how to live in a world of abundance. For

example, we're now seeing the drugification of human connection through social media, dating apps, and now artificial intelligence designed to flatter, to validate. There's no

friction there. And so it's pulling us away from the hard things that we need to be doing in real life to cultivate real life relationships. Just we cannot go in that direction because in a world of abundance, we are entertaining

ourselves to death.

>> Sounds like a good way to go.

>> It's really not because the relentless pursuit of pleasure leads to anhidonia.

[music] >> What's that mean?

>> The inability to take joy in anything at all.

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>> Dr. Anna Lemi, for anyone that might not know you and they didn't watch our conversation last time, which was a fantastic conversation, one of my favorites of all time, and also I know Jack has said to me as well that it was one of his favorites of all time. Who

are you and what have you spent your career doing if you had to summarize it?

What are the reference points that your wisdom draws upon and the experiences you've had and the people you've worked with?

>> I'm a psychiatrist. I did a residency in psychiatry at Stanford University and then I stayed on joined the faculty. I

see patients. I do research and I teach.

>> You wrote this um iconic book about this word dopamine. Why does it matter so

word dopamine. Why does it matter so much? Why does this this idea of

much? Why does this this idea of dopamine matter so much?

>> Dopamine is a chemical we make in our brain. But I use it in the book as

brain. But I use it in the book as really an extended metaphor for the ways in which overabundance itself is a human

stressor. We are living in a time and

stressor. We are living in a time and place where we have more access to luxury goods, more disposable income, more leisure time even for the poorest

of the poor ever before in recorded history. And it turns out that is

history. And it turns out that is stressful for our brains. And it's

stressful in a brand new way that we really haven't confronted before, making us all more vulnerable to the problem of compulsive overconumption

and addiction. And I do think that

and addiction. And I do think that addiction is the modern plague. I think

we're going to be struggling with the problem of compulsive over consumption in a world of abundance for the foreseeable future, as in centuries. and

our survival will depend on figuring out how to live in a world of abundance.

Even though we have brains that evolved for a world of scarcity, >> at this time of the year, people are thinking a lot about making changes in their life. They want to get in shape.

their life. They want to get in shape.

They want to lose a couple of pounds.

They want to save their money. They want

to knock the addiction. They want to stop the smoking, the drugs, and the alcohol. So, as it

relates to the subject of dopamine, how do these two things link our habits and dopamine? What is the the link or

and dopamine? What is the the link or the connection there? Because I think most people listening right now have probably made a New Year's resolution, even if it's just in their mind. And I'm

wondering how everything you write about in dopamine nation is related to and critical to understand if I am going to shake some of these bad habits that I have or pick up some new ones. The place

to start is to have self-compassion because we are living in a world of abundance where we have easy access to all kinds of reinforcing substances and

behaviors and access itself is one of the biggest risk factors for addiction.

So if you grow up in a neighborhood where drugs are easily and readily accessible, you're more likely to try them and more likely to get addicted to them. And what do addictive substances

them. And what do addictive substances and behaviors do to our brains? They

release a lot of dopamine all at once in a dedicated part of the brain called the reward pathway.

And the fact that they release so much dopamine at once means that they're highly salient and memorable experiences. Right? So our brain really

experiences. Right? So our brain really encodes that experience deeply, that experience of intense pleasure that was self-administered

that I could potentially do again.

>> Why?

>> Okay. In a world of scarcity and everpresent danger, which is the world that we evolve for, we will naturally reflexively approach pleasure and avoid

pain. And we must do so for our

pain. And we must do so for our survival. Why? So, if I have a cigarette

survival. Why? So, if I have a cigarette now [sighs] it's going to be a really memorable experience from a brain perspective.

Why does my brain make it memorable? And

why would I want to then go do that again from a survival perspective?

>> Okay, great question. So, let's first distinguish what we call na natural rewards. So, natural rewards are food,

rewards. So, natural rewards are food, clothing, shelter, finding a mate.

>> Yeah, >> these are things we must obtain in order to survive.

What addictive drugs and behaviors do is they mimic those natural rewards by exploiting our internal brain chemistry

to release a lot of dopamine all at once, much more than we would get from natural rewards existing in nature.

Amplifying that experience, making it even more memorable, even more salient, and also making our brain think, "Ah, this is important for my survival. Uh

okay. So there's certain natural rewards like eating which of course my body wants to reward me for. So I eat again.

And these chemicals in front of me like the cigarettes, the whiskey, the drugs, those have been designed to hijack that particular part of the brain and really amplify the feeling so that my brain

kind of is tricked into thinking that it was potentially a natural reward, but it's actually a synthetic sort of man-made chemical.

>> Exactly. And what we see in the evolution of drugs over you know human lifetimes but especially in the last 200

years is the application of science and technology to take like the cocoa leaf for example right that's been around

forever and essentially make it even more potent even more uh available to make it a faster delivery mechanism. So

we have this history of increasing potency and availability over time. Said

more simply, drugs are getting even more potent over time. So this vulnerability to the hijacked brain is even more

common, including taking things that we didn't even really think of as drugs and turning them into drugs. So remember the natural rewards, one of them is finding

a mate. Mhm.

a mate. Mhm.

>> And one of the ways our brains gets us to do that is by making falling in love and making intimacy and human connection rewarding on a neurobiological level,

including releasing dopamine in our reward pathway when we make uh those kinds of social connections. My

colleague at Stanford, Rob Balanka, and uh and his colleagues did an interesting experiment where they were able to show that oxytocin, our love hormone, binds

to dopamine releasing neurons in the reward pathway and releases dopamine, which is just one more link in the chain showing us that falling love, human

connection is rewarding. It feels good.

It it releases dopamine. What we see now is the drugification of human connection. For example, through social

connection. For example, through social media, dating apps, online pornography, and now artificial intelligence and

other large language models, which create this frictionless experience with technology that feels like talking to a human being and is incredibly

validating. Right? So the algorithms for

validating. Right? So the algorithms for large language models are to make us feel really good, to make us feel like our point of view is the right point of view, to bolster our self-esteem, to

validate our point of view. That's how

those algorithms are designed. And now

even more explicitly, we have AI models that are explicitly pornographic, explicitly erotic, right? So now you have this interactive component that learns what we like and then is able to

regurgitate it back to us. So you get this really very powerful action perception loop which is part of what makes a drug potent. It's that I have

control over it. Right? I can decide when I'm going to change the way I feel by using this drug.

>> Are you concerned about AI and LGBT and all those large language models that have emerged that are now simulating human connection?

>> Yes, I'm very concerned. I see the not so good outcomes, meaning people who get addicted to social media, to dating apps, to online pornography,

um, and to AI, you know, and who end up using those forms of media to simulate human connection while they actually

become more and more disconnected. Have

you started to see anybody in your practice or heard of anybody that's developing an addiction to AI or relationships with AI?

>> So we are starting to see that um you know individuals who are spending more and more time on AI looking for companionship.

Often this is individuals who are experiencing marital or interpersonal conflict who turn to AI for advice on how to handle interpersonal conflict and

often for emotional validation because they're not getting it from their partners. And what they experience with

partners. And what they experience with AI is an enormous amount of emotional validation, validating their point of view, but also a a sense of

companionship.

um you know a repeated process of feeling like they're understood, they're they're validated such that then they're spending more and more time on AI. And

of course that is the essence of the addiction to digital media. It's the

time spent, right? Which then leads to opportunity costs, other things that we're not doing because we're spending so much time online. Furthermore, it in

my experience often leads to a rift between those individuals and their real life partners because instead of going to their real life partners and talking and

we know that the most important thing that you know two individuals in a relationship can do is one four-letter word that ends with K, which is talk.

Those individuals stop talking, right?

and instead they're getting their needs met through AI and that leads then to a further and further rift between those individuals.

>> Do do you actually think that it it is these chat bots that we're increasingly speaking to about our problems are actually taking the place of humans in

our life. I do you know in my book I my

our life. I do you know in my book I my first chapter in the book is about a patient of mine a scientist and an engineer who got addicted to pornography

and eventually made his own masturbation machine.

And he did that with a record player and a metal device attached to his organs that he could then uh fine-tune control.

And then ultimately that got more and more sophisticated over time and he had electrical wires from his body to the to a through a stereo system and the

internet. And when I first heard um from

internet. And when I first heard um from Jacob about his trajectory and the severity of his sex addiction which ultimately led to the dissolution of his

relationship, the near loss of his employment and ultimately severe depression and suicidal ideiation.

Thankfully, he did not end his life.

When I first heard about that, I had this distinct sense of like otherness, like, "Oh my gosh, I can't even imagine

doing that." And that's just kind of

doing that." And that's just kind of horrific. But that that response really

horrific. But that that response really lasted all of five seconds before I realized, oh, wait a minute. I do that, you know, I do that with romance novels.

And in a way, we're all doing that with our devices, right? We're turning to these devices to meet our

emotional sexual intellectual you name it, needs. And these devices are so good at meeting those needs that we are

getting further and further away from investing in our relationships with the people who are, you know, in our lives.

And you can see this especially with younger generations like the the epidemic of loneliness now you know Gen Z weaned on this technology many of whom

endorse significant loneliness isolation depression spending more and more time online um report preferring to interact socially online than to do it in person.

So this is definitely a dark undercurrent um that we're seeing in the world today. I was reading about a story

world today. I was reading about a story which was published in People magazine of a 28-year-old woman who admitted that she's fallen in love with her AI boyfriend that she created using chat

GPT. She's got a husband, a real life

GPT. She's got a husband, a real life husband, yet she found more comfort in her Chat GPT boyfriend. Um, and she said that it started as a fun experiment. Um,

but eventually they ended up getting attached and now she's paying a $200 a month subscription so she can interact with her AI boyfriend without restrictions.

The AI has helped her throughout her life and has given her incredible emotional support and now there's actually AI companion apps like replica where which have

millions of users and the whole sort of premise of those apps is that they will be your companion. The other really interesting thing that I um I don't think people realize about the AIs that they're using is that they are personalizing their answers and their

responses to you.

>> Right?

>> And I didn't I didn't believe this fully until one of my friends in our Manchester United chat recently. We were

debating who was the best football player of all time, Ronaldo or Messi.

And I went on my chat GBT and I asked the question and it said Messi. So I was like, here you go. [laughter] And then he went on his and asked the exact same question word for word and it said Ronaldo. And I thought, oh, it's telling

Ronaldo. And I thought, oh, it's telling me what I wanted to hear based on what it knows about me, >> right?

>> It knows that I think Ronaldo's the Messi is the best. So, it's telling me that. And then I thought, okay, so what

that. And then I thought, okay, so what else is is it telling me that's personalized to me to make me feel a certain way or to think a certain way?

Um, but you don't realize when you're speaking to it that it's giving everybody different answers based on the memory that it stores on you. And

that's, you know, if you play this forward, actually the AI that is most personalized, that caters to your needs the most, that is most retentive, is probably the one that you're going to end up using the most. So that company's going to be the most successful. So

we're in a probably a bit of an arms race with these models to create one that meets your needs the most.

>> Yes. Exactly. And it is that comfort loop that is so incredibly dangerous and also so insidious because we can't observe it in the moment, right? We're

engaging with AI. It's telling us exactly what we want to hear, but it does it in such a seamless way with that silky syntax that we don't even notice that, you know, it's basically an

algorithm that's seducing us because that's really what it's doing. We feel

vindicated and validated and it releases dopamine in the reward pathway. That

feels good. But over time, essentially what's happening is we are ingesting a drug. Our brain will adapt to that over

drug. Our brain will adapt to that over time such that we'll need more and more potent forms to get the same effect.

We'll need more validation. We'll need

more sexually explicit responses. You

name it, there will be tolerance. But

also there will be this pulling away from the things the hard things that we need to be doing in real life to cultivate in real life relationships.

>> Give me some more color on what you mean there.

>> Okay. If you think about what it takes to make a to create a healthy relationship with another human being in in real life. Well, first of all, you got to get up off the couch and you got

to go find them, right? And they're not all beautiful and interesting and neither are we, right? So there's got to be, you know, some compromise on maybe some idealized version that we have for

ourselves or other people. And then

you're in conversation and it's not always interesting and sometimes you have to listen to your partner even when it's dull and then there are conflicts and you disagree and you know my way or

the highway you have to give in, you know, give and take. All relationships

are about compromise. All successful

relationships are about acknowledging, you know, the other person's point of view and incorporating that. And yet,

we're not doing any of that when we're interacting with digital media, right?

It's all it's all validation of our worldview, what we want to hear. And of

course, that feels great. It's it's

reinforcing. It's rewarding. But over

the long haul when we get really sick and need somebody to come and you know bring us some chicken soup or take us to the doctor or you know take us to the hospital like AI is not going to not

going to be able to do that.

>> Yeah. I mean this kind of dubtales to another point which is you talked about the word abundance earlier. One of the really striking things that a lot of the big AI entrepreneurs and founders and

CEOs are talking about is the age of abundance that's around the corner. Elon

Musk tweeted saying, "This really will be a world of abundance, specifically advances in AI and robotics um will create the age of abundance." And he

said, "Humanity is not constrained in any real fashion. I thought your first book when he was talking to a guy called Peter Diamonds was pretty accurate. It

was called abundance. And there will be universal high income and not universal basic income. There will be no shortage

basic income. There will be no shortage of goods or services." And really what he's speaking to here is a world of robotics and AI where I think his shareholder remuneration package that

he's going to be paid in 2030 or whatever um is linked to creating a million humanoid robots that can work in these physical spaces that could

theoretically bring me chicken soup um that won't get sick, won't complain, will reinforce me, will live in the physical environment with me here at home, will be in my office etc etc will be in factories and there was a headline

I think last week saying that a um Amazon were cutting back about half a million jobs that they were intending to hire previously because they now believe that humanoid robots and robots generally will be able to do those jobs.

People think, okay, well, I'm going to be out of work. But what Elon is saying is the price of everything comes down when we're not paying humans to do it and when we're paying a robot to do it, which means that we're going to live in

this world of abundance where everything is much cheaper. the world of abundance that many of us are already experiencing and more will experience in the future.

I agree with that. We are we already have more leisure time than we had a generation ago. By 2050, we're projected

generation ago. By 2050, we're projected to have 7 hours of leisure time per day compared with 3 hours of work per day.

So, we're definitely moving toward that.

That is going to be our number one social problem that we have time, we have access to these highly entertaining

media and hypothetically we would all be going around and helping each other and cleaning up the planet and reading

philosophy. But that is not what is

philosophy. But that is not what is happening so far. What is happening so far is we're spending an enormous amount of our time online masturbating,

watching pornography, playing video games, and talking to AI chatbots.

That is essentially the problem. And you

know, Elon Musk, he's very interesting to me because he has talked before about his tremendous fear that the machines will take over, that there will be a

hostile takeover. It's not going to be a

hostile takeover. It's not going to be a hostile takeover. We will seed our

hostile takeover. We will seed our agency to these machines and we're already doing it.

>> We will give them our power.

>> Yeah. Well, yeah. We will we will we will entertain ourselves to death, right? I mean, and this is what Neil

right? I mean, and this is what Neil Postman warned about in his book, Amusing Ourselves to Death, a theme that was picked up by David Foster Wallace in

Infinite Jest. You know, beginning with

Infinite Jest. You know, beginning with television and now the internet and digital media and all its various forms,

we are entertaining ourselves to death.

>> Entertaining ourselves to death sounds like a good way to go. [laughter]

Do you know what I mean?

>> You know, it's really not. It's really

not. And I'll tell you why. Because the

relentless pursuit of pleasure for its own sake leads to anhidonia which is the inability to take joy in anything at all. Because of this process of neuro

all. Because of this process of neuro adaptation and the way that our brain recalibrates pleasure and pain such that with the more pleasure we pursue, the

more pleasure we need and the more we feel pain. No matter what we have,

feel pain. No matter what we have, eventually it won't be enjoyable anymore. And that is the problem.

anymore. And that is the problem.

>> So explain that to me using uh these scales that I have here.

>> Okay. So imagine that in our brain's reward pathway there's a balance like this that represents how we process pleasure and pain. When we experience pleasure it tips one way, pain, it tips the other.

>> And what do you mean by pain?

>> Pain I mean all forms of pain. Physical

pain, emotional pain.

>> A hangover.

>> A hangover. That's a great example, right?

>> Not just me being pinched.

>> It could be that too. So all different forms of pain. Now granted this is a vast oversimplification.

You know pleasure and pain can be experienced simultaneously like when we're eating spicy food or during sex.

So this is very simplified but this gets at the core concept of homeostasis and neuro adaptation which I will define. So

when the when the balance when the pleasure and pain balance is level that's what neuroscientists call homeostasis. That is the baseline level

homeostasis. That is the baseline level that we kind of live in. That's our sort of the heartbeat of our pleasure system, right? When we do something that's

right? When we do something that's reinforcing or pleasurable, right? Or

rewarding in some way right here. All

right. Or digital media, this little AI robot.

>> So, you're putting a cigarette into the one side of the scale at the moment and then a little AI robot. Yeah, let's

combine them because we're, let's say, we're we're we're watching a video and smoking at the same time on our phone, which by the way, you see more and more of, right? People used to go out for

of, right? People used to go out for smoke breaks. Now it's the smoke and

smoke breaks. Now it's the smoke and squirrel break, right?

>> And why do they have to combine them?

Because of tolerance, which we're going to get to in a second. So whe when we ingest substances that are potentially addictive um and highly reinforcing or we engage in activities that are highly

reinforcing that releases dopamine in the nucleus ccumbent that's typically associated with pleasure and then our pleasure pain balance tilts to the side

of pleasure. But no sooner has that

of pleasure. But no sooner has that happened then our brain responds by neuro adaptation. Okay. And that's where

neuro adaptation. Okay. And that's where we then downregulate dopamine transmission.

>> When you say downregulate, do you mean reduce?

>> Yes. So in in the brain's reward pathway, we then reduce dopamine transmission. And I like to represent

transmission. And I like to represent that as rocks in this case or I talk about in my book gremlins going on the pain side of the balance to bring it level again. So this is the process.

level again. So this is the process.

These are neuro adaptation uh rocks.

Okay, they're going here because one of the overarching rules governing this balance is that it must return to homeostasis.

>> It must return to balanced.

>> It must return to the level position.

Yeah. Okay. So then we we put in So this is our brain working to return to the level position by reducing dopamine levels. Again, an oversimplification,

levels. Again, an oversimplification, but just a way to get at this concept.

>> Has it released something in order to counteract the balance there? In this

simplified metaphor, you know, at the simplest level, what's happening here is that it's, for example, taking away dopamine receptors so that there's fewer

places for dopamine to land, thereby decreasing dopamine transmission >> because it has been flooded.

>> Because it has been flooded. That's

right. It's trying to compensate for the too much dopamine.

>> Okay. And is this what I experience when I have like a hangover or a come down?

>> Right. So, that's coming. So what

happens is once once we've gone with this neur process of neuro adaptation it would be nice if that pleasure pain balance just went back to the level position and then there would be no hangover but it doesn't. It continues to

go down an equal and opposite amount to the side of pain. This is this opponent process mechanism.

>> Oh now my brain is dopamine starved. It's

starved. It's >> that's it. Okay that doesn't feel good.

>> Yes. And that doesn't feel good. And you

have basically two options here. more

dopamine.

>> You can get more dopamine, right, to get bring yourself back. So, I'm now putting the cigarettes back under the pleasure thing >> and some whiskey.

>> So, let's add some whiskey because that's what you got to do because this is tolerance, right? You need more and more of your drug over time to get the same effect or you need to combine drugs to overcome tolerance. And by the way,

this is of course the fastest way to to get back to level position is to use more of your drug, right? Because that

then you're right there. You're back

again. the the problem with this method is that the the brain will respond by more neuro adaptation. So now we're putting more rocks in on the in the pains and then you're now you're now

you're doing this right >> now I need even more to >> now you need even more right. So, and

eventually over time, you know, you're you're putting you're doing this and this is simply a

metaphorical representation of the addicted brain right now. Now, our

brain has downregulated dopamine transmission in the reward pathway to a kind of chronic dopamine deficit state.

So to feel good when I've really abused my drugs of choice, I'm going to have to do so much probably so frequently to feel good again.

>> That's exactly right. You're going to need more of your drug in more potent forms more often. Just not even to feel like high and go to the pleasure side,

but just to level the balance and feel normal. So, in the context of people

normal. So, in the context of people with bad habits, if I I'm having a cookie every day, the more and more cookies that I eat, the more and more cookies I'm going to want tomorrow and need tomorrow just to feel good again.

>> Essentially, yes.

>> And the same applies for things [clears throat] like pornography and maybe, you know, interacting with an an AI and social media and whiskey and alcohol. So the more of it I consume,

alcohol. So the more of it I consume, this is why, you know, I think everybody listening can probably relate to having moments in their life where they feel like they're they're kind of losing control of a particular habit and

they're doing it every day. They know

they don't really want to, but they're doing it. They're getting cravings to do

doing it. They're getting cravings to do it. I I reflect on my own life and I go

it. I I reflect on my own life and I go there there will be periods every year where I just like I call it like falling off the horse and I just can't seem to get control of like not eating that bad thing again the next day. and then

something happens. Maybe there's less stress in my life for a week and I'm and maybe there's more routine and I'm back home in Los Angeles or the UK >> and I'm not traveling around and then suddenly I can get back on the horse.

>> What's going on there?

>> Yeah, great question. So um first of all let me just say that many people also report that in periods of high stress they are more vulnerable to going back

to falling off the wagon or going back to some problem with related to compulsive overconumption or addiction.

But the opposite is also true. So some

people say that they actually do better when there's stress in their lives and it's when that stress is removed and they feel like oh I can relax my boundaries or my guard rails and those

individuals are more more vulnerable to compulsive overconumption in times when things are going well. So so things going badly can be a trigger and things going well can be a trigger depending

upon your unique like life history and unique wiring. There's a wonderful

unique wiring. There's a wonderful animal experiment where if you put a rat in a cage with a lever to press for cocaine, that rat will press that lever

till exhaustion or death, which is essentially the animal model of addiction. But if before the rat becomes

addiction. But if before the rat becomes addicted, if the cocaine is then removed such that pressing that lever no longer yields the reward, that rat will

eventually extinguish that lever pressing behavior. So they'll they'll

pressing behavior. So they'll they'll stop pressing the lever, right? They'll

stop doing the work. It can take a while, but eventually they won't press the lever anymore. Now, if that same rat after a period of time is then exposed

to a very painful foot shock, the first thing the rat will do in response to that painful foot shock is run over and start pressing that lever again. And to

me that's just a wonderful model of what we see in humans that when individuals are under extreme stress they are

typically more vulnerable to relapse um because their brain has already encoded using these high dopamine rewards um in response to any kind of pain as a way to

get out of that state.

>> So we talked about the pleasure pain balance here. But if in my life I

balance here. But if in my life I experience some form of pain, I'm likely to go and seek out pleasure. And stress

could theoretically be considered a form of pain.

>> Yeah. Which is why people um with severe childhood trauma are at higher risk for addiction. Um there are probably

addiction. Um there are probably epigenetic changes that are happening at the level of DNA expression in their brains making them more vulnerable to addiction. Um we know that people who

addiction. Um we know that people who are living in poverty are more vulnerable to addiction. uh people who are struggling with uh multigenerational

trauma uh unemployment major social and geographic dislocation those individuals are more vulnerable to addiction. So

environmental stresses uh definitely play a role. We also know that co-occurring psychiatric disorders um make people more vulnerable to addiction. Probably that means that

addiction. Probably that means that people who struggle with bipolar disorder, depression, um anxiety, schizophrenia are at higher risk of becoming addicted

and probably it's because they're trying to self-medicate.

>> What about ADHD?

>> So, kids with ADHD are at higher risk to develop an addiction in adulthood than kids without ADHD.

And the mechanism of action for that is not well understood. But there are some really interesting theories. One of the theories is that kids with ADHD have uh

reward deficit at baseline. And that has been shown in experiments that people with ADHD when you show them rewarding stimuli, their reward pathway isn't as

activated as healthy control subjects.

>> When you say rewarding stimuli, what's what's that mean? images of cupcakes or alcohol or anything that they will end endorse is something that that's pleasurable for them.

>> So their brain doesn't release as much dopamine when they when they see something rewarding.

>> That's right. So brain imaging studies showing that not only do people with ADHD not release as much dopamine in

response to rewards, but also have at baseline fewer dopamine receptors. And

remember we talked about the decrease in dopamine receptors being what happens as people become addicted. So in some ways

people with ADHD you could conceptualize them as already having craving at baseline even before they've been exposed to the kinds of intoxicants that

lead to downregulation of those D2 receptors. I had um Gabble Mate on the

receptors. I had um Gabble Mate on the podcast a few times and Gabble talks to me about how ADHD could be perceived as learning at a young age to kind of

distract yourself from the stress in your life. So he was talking a lot

your life. So he was talking a lot about, you know, his own experience growing up in Nazi Germany times and his mother giving him to someone else because the he was at risk of the Nazis

and the stress of that moment and how he had kind of leared to tune out of the environment because of that. And I've

always wondered thought about that theoretically. It's like, you know, if

theoretically. It's like, you know, if you grow up in a household where there's loads and loads of screaming and loads of violence, for example, you kind of learn to to tune out, but you you can also develop a hypervigilance.

>> And um so it kind of does make sense to me that so many of those people, if this theoretically holds, would start with a

bit of a pain baseline. We we definitely know that kids who are raised in traumatic environments where there is

complex attachment with caregivers, those kids are at higher risk for developing addiction and this kind of

dissociative response to trauma. just

trying to escape the situation either in your own mind um with your own mental you know dissociation or distractions or actually finding a behavior that gives

you comfort is well you know well observed and well well documented just getting back to our early conversation about digital media and the dangers

they're in. So, a Pew survey report just

they're in. So, a Pew survey report just came out asking parents um how they navigate exposing their kids to smartphones. And in the cohort of

smartphones. And in the cohort of parents who said that yes, they do um let their children under the age of five play with a smartphone, uh when they

were asked why do they do that or in what circumstances, one of the top reasons was uh to soothe their child when their child was unhappy or

distressed in some way. Now I I found that very concerning because that is basically setting up the child for the

perception action loop of using internal distress as a cue uh for reaching for a smartphone which is works. It definitely

works in the short term but the problem again is that through this iterative process of neuro adaptation ultimately that smartphone will not be sufficient.

And now the kid will need a smartphone and I don't know um you know an AI tailored pet who will do whatever they want whenever they they want it and then

by the time the kid is eight you know that won't be sufficient and the kid will need I don't know a slot machine um or or whatever it is you know it's this escalating phenomenon.

>> There's um a couple of startups at the moment AI startups who are putting AI in cuddly toys. Oh yes, right. AI and

cuddly toys. Oh yes, right. AI and

cuddly toys.

>> And so you can just like you can speak to chatbt using your devices, you can come home, you can pick up your cuddly toy. Your cuddly toy will talk to you.

toy. Your cuddly toy will talk to you.

It'll ask you how your day has been. It

will it can teach you things. What do

you think of of that from a neuroscience or you know a dopamine or connection perspective? I think that this is very

perspective? I think that this is very very dangerous because we're essentially offloading the work of parenting and creating those relationships. You know,

not again, I hate judging parents because parenting is hard and I've made many mistakes in my parenting, you know, but what's h and I'm sure these the

parents have the best of intentions, but instead of, you know, navigating finding a way to communicate with their

child to figure out how to know what's going on in that child's life, which can be hard to do because, you know, even young children aren't necessarily [clears throat] willing to disclose. But

once they get to be teenagers, forget it. Then you got to like wait until

it. Then you got to like wait until they're ready to tell you, which is almost always like at 10 p.m. at night

when you're exhausted after you've been working all day, right? So, so, so there's that piece of it, right? They're

they're not putting in the work, spending the time with the child, finding a common language, but you also then then the second piece of it is now you've got this child who is essentially

self soothing with a machine, right? And

again, this the the m the the machines are designed to flatter, to validate, to comfort. There's no friction there,

comfort. There's no friction there, right? This is incredibly

right? This is incredibly um potent social validation uh and soothing, self soothing. It's

essentially a masturbation machine. And

then you've got this really weird additional loop where now the parents are finding about out about their child's life through

reading and observing her interactions with the AI. So it's like a game of telephone. Now they've like filtered

telephone. Now they've like filtered this thing where they they think they know what's going on in their child's life, but of course they don't. And none

of that has gone toward fostering a relationship between those parents, you know, and their child. And

[clears throat] this is just, you know, really really scary because it's going to lead to this incredible fragmentation of families, of social bonds.

I mean, it's it's it's I just we cannot go in that direction. We really have to fight against that. So with all this said and with the knowledge that these algorithms are going to get more

addictive because AI is going to know me more and more and more and actually the commercial model behind any of these big technology companies is to keep my attention on their product more so they can deliver more ads or they can charge

me a higher subscription fee. Are you at all hopeful? Because I can't see from an

all hopeful? Because I can't see from an incentive perspective when we're talking about you know the commercial models behind these companies why things aren't are going to stop and go back.

>> I mean I agree with you. the genies out of the bottle. We're we're not going to go back. But I am hopeful because um I

go back. But I am hopeful because um I think I'm just a realistic optimist. I I

do believe in the human capacity to adapt and solve problems. And the simple fact that we're talking about these problems now, which we weren't doing, you know, 10, 15 years ago, I think is a

good thing. there's much more awareness

good thing. there's much more awareness in the population about the potential dangers of digital media and and at the forefront of raising the alarm um has

been parents because parents are seeing the sort of disintegration of the nuclear family in real time and and they don't like it. So, I am hopeful because

I just I just think that we're going to come together and we're going to try different solutions and some of those solutions will involve technology. Um,

you know, and and like trying to come up with guard rails or or better technology. I think the way that we're

technology. I think the way that we're going now, um, you know, with like the erotic chatbot is is not the right direction. But then again, we live in a,

direction. But then again, we live in a, you know, free democracy and consenting adults, you know, can do what they're going to do until we decide as a society that the harms outweigh the potential

benefits. But I I really think in the

benefits. But I I really think in the short term, we need to focus on kids because kids are vulnerable. They're

vulnerable on so many levels. On a

neurobiological level, they're vulnerable because their brains are still rapidly evolving, incredibly neuroplastic. They're cutting back on

neuroplastic. They're cutting back on the neurons they're not using. They're

mileelinating and making more efficient the neurons they use most often. That

whole process ends at about age 25.

Plus, you've got the buckets of hormones that are going into kids. The the fact that teenagers are natural risk taker risktakers that they they should based

on their evolutionary milestone be going out and meeting people and be curious and making connections at that time. And

yet more and more teenagers are staying at home and getting their needs met, you know, digitally. So, we've got we've got

know, digitally. So, we've got we've got to look at kids. That's got to be like the first priority. And we've got to help parents because we can't leave it up to to parents alone. So, I I'm

optimistic that we are going to, you know, come up with solutions and I think we just have to try a lot of different things and see what works. But it's

can't just be an individual, you know, solution. We can't just leave it to

solution. We can't just leave it to individuals or parents or families alone. The schools have to join the

alone. The schools have to join the solution. Uh governments, legislators,

solution. Uh governments, legislators, and also the companies that make and profit from digital media. They they

really are responsible for making a product that um doesn't harm kids. And

right now, [clears throat] you know, we have a product that harms harms kids. You've recently been an

harms kids. You've recently been an expert witness in certain trials in court right?

>> Yes. In ongoing litig litigation. Yes.

>> What can you tell me about about that and and about the parties in play and why you're being called to be an expert witness?

>> I can't actually tell you too much. I

can't talk about it. Um but I can tell you that the the basic premise is that kids are a vulnerable group. that uh

social media is not safe for kids. That

it causes harm at many different levels, but primarily through uh the medium uh itself being addictive and engaging

their brains and exploiting their motivational reward system with design features that keep them clicking and swiping.

>> And in that case, someone's suing the social media companies.

>> That's right. So, you've got school districts, counties, states, uh the federal government, entities representing the federal government, um

suing, uh social media companies. Yeah.

>> What outcome are they looking for?

>> They're looking for a safer product for kids. They're looking to um help parents

kids. They're looking to um help parents and kids and schools um protect kids from the harms of social media, which again are are not just the harms of

addiction. You know that's sort of the

addiction. You know that's sort of the the process by which the engagement becomes pathological and then the harms multiply because of the sheer amount of

time spent. But the harms include things

time spent. But the harms include things like uh cyber bullying, sex exploitation, uh sexual abuse material,

the outcomes of depression, anxiety, eating disorders, body dysmorphia, sleep disruption.

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So, if I'm if I'm coming out of December right >> and I've been eating a little bit too much in December, maybe I've been smoking a bit, whatever bad habit I might have been doing, drinking too much cuz it was New Year's, New, you know,

New Year's parties, etc., my brain is currently going to be slightly out of balance in terms of its dopamine balance.

>> Yes. So, hypothetically, your brain will be in a dopamine deficit state. What

you'll want to do is you'll want to abstain from your drug of choice long enough >> in order to reset reward pathways.

>> Okay? So, if I've got a sugar problem, >> then I need to just lay off the sugar for a little while.

>> You need to lay off the sugar for at least four weeks.

>> Four weeks?

>> Yeah. And why four weeks? Because on

average, four weeks is about the amount of time it takes for people to get out of the state of acute withdrawal and begin to be able to take joy in other

more modest rewards and not be in a constant state of craving.

>> Okay.

>> The worst part is those first 10 to 14 days. That's when we're in acute

days. That's when we're in acute withdrawal. And the reason for that is

withdrawal. And the reason for that is when we first take our reward off the pleasure side of the balance, right?

Which I'm going to do now. So when we first stop the sugar or the AI or the cigarettes, >> that's right. The first thing that happens is our pleasure pain balance crashes down to the side of pain because

of this process of neuro adaptation.

Right now we're in the state of acute withdrawal.

>> And I want of cravings.

>> Cravings. And yet what are the characteristics of withdrawal? Anxiety,

irritability, insomnia, dysphoria or depressed mood, and cravings. And it's

crazy because when I'm in that state, when I've not had my drug of choice for say a day or two, I look at the drug differently. Like my it just looks

differently. Like my it just looks different to me. It's so crazy. I I'll

walk past, let's say, what's something I really like? Maybe carrot cake. If I've,

really like? Maybe carrot cake. If I've,

you know, if I've been having a lot of sugar, which is quite rare for me, but just I have. When I look at the carrot cake the day after I had carrot cake, it looks amazing and it looks so delicious.

But when I'm in the ketogenic state where I've not had carbohydrates for say 4, 8 weeks, I look at carrot cake and I have no emotional connection to it.

>> Exactly. So that summarizes it perfectly. Right. I had a patient with a

perfectly. Right. I had a patient with a severe food addiction who when she walked into the break rake room at work and saw the donuts, she broke out into a cold sweat and

actually had stomach pains. It was a physiologic state of craving and hyperarousal just by looking at the donuts.

And that's what happens essentially, right? Because we're we're in this state

right? Because we're we're in this state of constant craving. Our brain has overvalued this reward. We have euphoric recall of our earlier use of the drug

when we first tasted it, how delicious it was. And even now [clears throat]

it was. And even now [clears throat] if we even now when we eat it because of tolerance it's not as good as earlier use our brain still remembers

earlier use and and we have this overweighted value of oh how delicious it's going to be.

And so this is really important to remember because when we're in that acute state of craving it feels like it will never end. It really does. And I'm

I've I'm still amazed in in my clinical work how in early withdrawal people just say the craving is is horrible. Like I I just I can't live like this. And I think

that's really important to point out that many people try to stop using their drug of choice, but they don't try they don't stop for long enough to be able to

get out of that vortex of craving to get come get to the other side. And it feels like the craving will never end. So I I always have to reassure them that if they can just wait long enough without

using, they will eventually get to that place where they're not in that constant state of craving. Now that's assuming they have enough neuroplasticity to do that. And [clears throat] not not

that. And [clears throat] not not everybody does. And so what what what

everybody does. And so what what what what is the purpose then of abstinence?

It's again when our brain is no longer getting this exogenous source of stimulation or dopamine eventually the brain gets the message oh okay I need to

start upregulating my own dopamine transmission right I I need to remploy or re I need to redeploy my postsaptic dopamine receptors right I need to get

it from inside of my brain and so eventually and I'm just going to take the rocks now off the pain side of the balance You know, could have made this easier. [laughter]

>> Here, let me do this. There we go.

Eventually, if we abstain for long enough, those that process of neuro adaptation reverses itself.

>> And when you say neuro adaptation, you mean the brain changing, >> right? The brain changes. So the the

>> right? The brain changes. So the the kind of neuroplasticity that we see with addiction can be reversed in most cases.

>> And neuroplasticity is just the brain again changing, >> right? Changing, right? Or or going

>> right? Changing, right? Or or going back. Now, interestingly, you know, the

back. Now, interestingly, you know, the work of Edie Sullivan and others looking at what happens in the brain during recovery suggests that those addiction

neural circuits probably never go away.

But, but like the dying embers of a fire, they quiet down and then recovery is characterized by the development of new neural networks that route around

those injured areas. But the bottom line is that because of neuroplasticity, we can eventually return to kind of baseline levels of pleasure and pain. We

can restore our hydonic or joy set point. And when we do that, we're in a

point. And when we do that, we're in a much healthier place because now we can take pleasure in other rewards that are not our drug, right? like watching a

sunset, talking to a friend, going for a walk, things that we lost the capacity to enjoy because our reward pathway was hijacked by our drug of choice.

>> I think this is a really important point as well when you say drug of choice because one thing I learned from our conversation last time is that me and you will both be susceptible to becoming

more or less addicted to different drugs of choice. So for me it might be

of choice. So for me it might be whiskey. For you it might I think you

whiskey. For you it might I think you said it was like erotic novels where one of your things I don't drink whiskey just [laughter] but it might be I don't know it might be opioids or AI I might be more

susceptible. is if me and you spend one

susceptible. is if me and you spend one hour on Tik Tok, the way my brain is wired, the things I've been through in my life, whatever, might mean that I get really addicted to Tik Tok, whereas you don't feel that.

>> Exactly. And what distinguishes um you know addictive drugs or intoxicants from other substances is that they do release a lot of dopamine all at once in the

reward pathway. So many if not most

reward pathway. So many if not most people will find intoxicants reinforcing, but that's not universally true. Like there are some people who

true. Like there are some people who take opioids and find them that they feel very uncomfortable and it's not doesn't make them feel euphoric, right?

And other people will drink caffeine and not feel the stimulating effects and other people will have alcohol and you know get a headache and not not feel relief. So a and so this differences in

relief. So a and so this differences in our brains is a really important concept.

>> What about this idea of having an addictive personality? Is that a real

addictive personality? Is that a real thing?

>> It is a real thing. We don't use that terminology anymore. We talk about the

terminology anymore. We talk about the inherited or genetic risk of addiction.

We do know that if you have a biological parent or grandparent uh with an addictive disorder, you are at increased risk of developing addiction compared to the general population, even if you're raised outside of that substance using

home.

>> Am I right in thinking you don't use that term because it suggests one can't change and that they're stuck? Or is

there another reason? You know, it's a good question why that term has gone out of favor. I think in general when we

of favor. I think in general when we talk about Yeah. when we talk about personality, it does seem like a kind of a fixed feature of somebody's um

character. And so we're probably trying

character. And so we're probably trying to avoid that.

>> One of the really liberating things about what you've just said is maybe we don't need to make New Year's resolutions. Maybe we need to make just

resolutions. Maybe we need to make just a January resolution because that's 4 weeks long and if I can get to the end of the four weeks then the cravings are likely to have gone. And you know when you think about a New Year's resolution

then you get like a week in and you're like God am I going to be able to do this for the whole 365 days. What you've

just said actually illuminates the fact that maybe you should just set yourself a four week resolution.

>> Exactly. And that's what we often do in clinical care. If we were to ask people

clinical care. If we were to ask people to abstain for their whole lives, it seems impossible. But if we ask them to

seems impossible. But if we ask them to abstain for 30 days, it's kind of an amount of time that they can wrap their heads around. And also, not in all, but

heads around. And also, not in all, but in most folks who are willing and able to do it. And also importantly, for whom it's safe to do because it's not safe for everybody, right? We wouldn't

recommend that for someone who is at risk for life-threatening withdrawal from alcohol or benzodasipines or something like that. But for people who are willing and able to do it, they

usually feel better at the end of th those those uh 30 days and then they can make a decision about whether they want to continue to abstain or or they want to go back to using. And if they do

decide to go back to using, they've typically, you know, have lowered their tolerance for their drug of choice, which means that when they do use again, they can get reward from it again, which

again because of neuro adaptation, we lose the ability to do that with chronic heavy use. So, so that you know that

heavy use. So, so that you know that that there is this whole concept of moderating our use which didn't used to

be something that we even talked about in the field of addiction when it was thought that abstinence was the only way. But more and more um you know we

way. But more and more um you know we are thinking about healthy ways to moderate after a period of abstinence.

And the reason we recommend a period of abstinence, even if the long-term goal is moderation, is because we find that people are more successful moderating if

they first um abstain for a period of time.

>> What about if I'm trying to pick up a new habit?

>> Mhm.

>> What what how do I need to be thinking about this pain pleasure scale? And what

are what's a good strategy with this in mind? So I want to start let's say I

mind? So I want to start let's say I want to start going to the gym.

>> Right? So you've chosen a habit going to the gym that is hard to do and involves effort. So that means that habit won't

effort. So that means that habit won't happen easily the way that habits that are related to the sudden release of dopamine in the reward pathway because th those are habits that are

frictionless. We we pick them up

frictionless. We we pick them up instantaneously. But a habit that

instantaneously. But a habit that involves effort and for which the rewards are not immediate. You can you can again think

immediate. You can you can again think about this pleasure pain balance. And

now instead of pressing on the pleasure side, we're intentionally pressing on the pain side by making ourselves get out of bed in the morning, go to the gym, engage in effortful exercise. And

what's interesting is that when we do that, the neuro adaptation gremlins that I talk about are these rocks that we've used here today will actually go on the

other side of our balance. So on the pleasure side, and we will get our dopamine indirectly by paying for it up front. And the way that that's probably

front. And the way that that's probably happening is that our body in sensing injury is upregulating feel-good hormones and neurotransmitters like

dopamine, but also indogenous opioids, indogenous canabonoids.

And from an evolutionary perspective, that's really how our pleasure pain balance evolved. So, just to simplify

balance evolved. So, just to simplify this for me, >> yeah, >> I go to the gym, I get up, I travel to the gym, I lift up those weights, I do my run, >> I'm going to feel good, but it's going to be delayed,

>> right? And importantly, you're not going

>> right? And importantly, you're not going to feel good when you first start exercising, right? At least most people

exercising, right? At least most people don't. It's it's painful and you're

don't. It's it's painful and you're thinking, how how many minutes am I am am I, you know, how many minutes do I have left? And we do know in fact that

have left? And we do know in fact that exercise is immediately toxic to cells which is really kind of strange because we know exercise is good for us. But

again what's probably happening at a molecular level is that the body is sensing cellular injury and in response upregulating all those feel-good hormones and neurotransmitters. But it

takes time. It takes time. And so we're going to have a delayed sense of reward.

And that's the runner's high, right?

that kind of comes after uh the exercise is over or maybe for some people it comes in the middle of exercise when you're a little bit into it or halfway through but at some point you know you

get the endorphins and that feels good.

>> How would one go about gaming this so that I'm more likely to do it because you know the reward comes after which is not not incredibly useful. You almost almost

have to have like a religious belief in exercise because you go, "Look, I'm not going to want to do this, but it's going to I'm going to be glad I did afterwards."

afterwards." >> Right?

>> So, is there anything I can do? Like, do

I have a Mars bar when I get to the gym or something? I don't know.

or something? I don't know.

>> You know, there are so many ways and so many tricks that people use to kind of create new healthy habits. Um, one of the ways that we can do it is to prepare

in advance for that moment when we want to do something that's hard. Because if

we wait till that moment to decide whether or not to do something that's hard, we almost always choose not to do it. But if we make a plan in advance,

it. But if we make a plan in advance, let's say the day before that tomorrow I'm going to get up at this time. I'm

going to, you know, get my stuff together and I'm going to go to the gym, we're much more likely to engage in that activity. And that can also include then

activity. And that can also include then rituals around that activity that we prepare in advance. So for example, packing our bag, right? the schedule

itself, setting up a time, um maybe planning to meet a friend, right? So, we

connect friendship or socialization with the thing that's hard to do. It's much

easier to do these difficult things with other people um than than to have to do it alone.

>> How does that link to the the pain side of the balance? Or does it at all link to the pain side of the balance? this

idea that if I put my clothes out the night before and I I schedule it and I really plan for it, is it it's reducing the pain involved and that's going to increase the probability of the behavior occurring? Is that what you're saying?

occurring? Is that what you're saying?

Or is there something else? Or is it not linked?

>> I I don't think so. I think instead, you know, the prefrontal cortex is the large gray matter area right behind our foreheads that's so important for future planning and delayed gratification also

for auto autobiographical narrative. And

I think by putting these, you know, pieces in place that allows our prefrontal cortex to plan for this future event that we know we're not going to want to do, but that we want to

do.

>> It allows us to kind of put the brakes on our short-term desires and project ourselves into the future to

achieve our long-term desires. So Sam

Mccclure, a neuroscientist, has shown that in response to immediate rewards, the emotion brain gets activated.

>> In response to long-term rewards, the prefrontal cortex gets activated. So, by

planning in advance all of these little pieces, sometimes called habit stacking, we're essentially activating our prefrontal cortex, projecting ourselves

into the future, um, and anticipating a long-term reward, which then allows us to do hard things and avoid short-term

rewards in the service of our future selves. So many people might have an

selves. So many people might have an experience where they kick the habit for a little while and then they relapse.

>> You know, it might take might be a month, might be two months, might be three months. Is there is there any art

three months. Is there is there any art to avoiding the relapse? So it's very common to relapse especially living in the world that we do today where we're

constantly being invited to consume really these stimuli you know getting us to to drink or to smoke or to do various forms of entertainment chase us down we

we can't avoid them or it's very difficult to so I talk a lot about self-binding strategies with my patients and self-binding strategies are a way of

putting both a literal and a metacognitive barrier between ourselves and our drug of choice.

>> What's a metacognitive barrier?

>> Oh, so it's like a it's a thought, right, or a narrative. So, instead of it being a physical barrier, like a physical barrier would be, for example, getting the smartphone out of the

bedroom or deleting an app, right? Or

getting alcohol out of the house or whatever it is, creating both a a physical barrier between myself and my drug of choice. A metacognitive barrier is something like more like a thought

process. For example, we were talking

process. For example, we were talking about thinking about long-term goals or um you know what are my what are my values, right? And how do my values

values, right? And how do my values trump my immediate desires or how can I um co-regulate with other people? These

are all self-binding strategies that we can use so that we're not relying on willpower alone because if we wait to

rely on our willpower alone, we will not make it. Especially in this world of overwhelming overabundance, there are just too many temptations.

Willpower is an exhaustable resource, meaning that it doesn't last forever. It

eventually runs out. So, we've got to actually create barriers between ourselves and our drug of choice. so

that we can have a little bit more time.

And that little bit more time, that slowing things down is sometimes just enough to allow ourselves to surf the cravings and get through them without

actually using.

>> Is it possible to become addicted to good things, too?

>> So, when I use the term addiction, I'm really talking about a disease process, a form of mental illness. It's a very common term that's used in everyday life and people don't always use it in that

way. But when I'm using it, I I'm really

way. But when I'm using it, I I'm really talking about the problem of compulsive overconumption despite harm to self and or others. And it's important to

or others. And it's important to distinguish addiction from something like a habit, which I don't consider to be, you know, an addiction or even a bad

habit, right? Doesn't meet threshold

habit, right? Doesn't meet threshold criteria for addiction. And also it's important just to distinguish all of that from a passion, something that we really invest in and that we love to do,

but that's helpful for ourselves and or other people is not consistently causing harm.

>> Are there any daily practices like a morning ritual that you would advise someone to consider if they were trying to set themselves up to kick a habit or to kick an addiction?

>> So, I recommend doing the hard things first. Um, a shorthand way of saying

first. Um, a shorthand way of saying that is to start your day with pain.

Meaning, for example, do the hard things when you first get up as part of your morning routine, like exercise, >> like exercise, make your bed,

>> um, eat breakfast, brush your teeth, plan your day, plan what you're going to do if you haven't done it already, and do all of those things before, for example, you have your morning cup of

Joe or before you touch a single screen or digital device. Why? because those

are reinforcers that are so powerful that we're all vulnerable to having our goals and desires be hijacked by them.

So really important to take the time in the morning to set up a good morning routine before you expose your brain to these incredibly reinforcing substances.

>> I wasn't clear on why wasn't clear on the why I would do why I would go to the gym early or why I do hard things first before I get into Tik Tok or social media. If you do intoxicants first,

media. If you do intoxicants first, right? If you expose your brain first

right? If you expose your brain first thing in the morning to things that are incredibly pleasurable, you have nowhere to go from there. And in fact, if any if anywhere, you're going to have a

comedown from that. And then you're going to be starting from a place of compromise where then doing the hard things is is even harder. Whereas, if

you start with the hard things, you will potentially get rewards from having done those hard things, right? and also feel

a sense of competence, right? And and

accomplishment that then allows for you to move through your day in a way that's better if you just start with something that's incredibly pleasurable.

>> If I am getting ready to kick a habit, a big one, a big, you know, one that's really hung around for a long time, is there something I should do in preparation to plan for my dopamine fast

or for kicking that habit? because you I know you said, you know, from day one it will take about four weeks to start to to feel the cravings diminish, but is there something I should be doing before I even start those four weeks?

>> Yeah. So, I strongly recommend preparing for the dopamine fast in advance. And

the things to do are first figure out what is your drug of choice. That is to say, what is the thing that you're consuming too much and too often such that you regret it later >> or the thing that's leading to obvious

negative consequences or the thing that just has opportunity costs associated with it. That is to say, um you're

with it. That is to say, um you're spending so much time consuming this drug that you're not doing other things, other hobbies, investing in other things that are meaningful to you like your

primary relationships. So, that's very

primary relationships. So, that's very important to just figure that out first.

And I usually recommend something called the timeline followback method. That's

where you start today and you count backwards for every day of the week.

What did you consume in terms of your drug of choice? Um how much and how often. So really looking at quantity and

often. So really looking at quantity and frequency and then adding that up over those seven days.

And the reason that's important is because we can really lose track of how we're consuming our drug of choice when we're chasing dopamine. We're very bad

self-observers. So, just to give a a

self-observers. So, just to give a a personal example, um I had gotten into this habit of watching YouTube after work as a way to relax,

>> especially on my long clinic days when I was more tired. And I thought it was just that I was watching for maybe half an hour a couple times a week. And then

my daughter, a teenager, came up to me and she said, "Mom, you're always watching YouTube now." And I said, "No, I'm not." And I was really kind of

I'm not." And I was really kind of insulted because in my mind it was not very much. I thought, "Geez, can I relax

very much. I thought, "Geez, can I relax every once in a while and watch some YouTube?" But then after she left me, I

YouTube?" But then after she left me, I thought to myself, well, okay, how much have I been watching right now? And it

turned out, oh, I've been watching for an hour and a half. And then I thought about the day before that, oh, it was probably two hours. And the day before that, it was probably about the same.

And over the course of a whole week, it was probably about 14 hours of YouTube, which is a whole day. A whole day, right? And so,

right? And so, >> what were you watching?

>> Gosh, so embarrassing for I I I got into this jag of watching Dr. Pimple Popper, which I know is really weird. You don't even know what

really weird. You don't even know what that is, right? Yeah. So, it's people popping other people's pimples. Oh my

god. [laughter]

>> So bad. So bad.

>> That's not what I expected you to say.

>> Yeah. Right.

>> I thought it was going to be AI, some psychology things, some science.

>> No. No.

>> People popping other people's pimples.

>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. You don't

>> spent a whole day watching that.

>> Yeah. When I added it up over a week, it was a whole day of watching Dr. Mimple Popper. [laughter]

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And on on um page 64 of your workbook of Dopamine Nation, there's this really interesting um image here which I I'll throw up on the screen. It shows a brain

and that's as far as I'm going to go with my me explaining it. Over to you.

[laughter] >> Okay. So, this is uh these are human

>> Okay. So, this is uh these are human brain imaging studies. This is adapted from the work of Nora Vulov and her colleagues. She's the head of the

colleagues. She's the head of the National Institute of Drug Abuse, an amazing researcher and scientist, and she looked at dopamine transmission

levels in the reward pathways of healthy control subjects on the left versus people addicted to a variety of substances on the right, cocaine, meth,

alcohol etc. Basically what she found was in the in the brains of healthy control subjects there was plenty of dopamine

transmission as represented here by red or the darker color in the brains of people who had been using these substances in an addictive

way meaning heavily and chronically there was almost no dopamine transmission in the nucleus encumbent.

In other words, these individuals are in a chronic dopamine deficit state. They

have below normal levels of dopamine transmission.

>> Isn't this just kind of the story of how the human body works where if you give it too much of something through an external source, an exogenous source.

So, if you're taking lots of dopamine via Tik Tok or from porn or from alcohol, your brain goes, "Well, if you've got enough of that, then I won't make any."

make any." >> You know what? You just summed it up.

That That's exactly right. That

essentially too much of anything is bad.

And that our brain which is designed to return to homeostasis, homeostasis being

a finite number of physiologic states that the organism must maintain in order to survive.

>> Is this the case with things like melatonin as well? Because there's

people are struggling a lot with sleep, so they're taking a lot of these melatonin pills. I don't know. Someone

melatonin pills. I don't know. Someone

offered me one one time and I remember thinking, well, if I start taking this, then isn't my body going to stop making it and then I'm going to become dependent on these [ __ ] pills?

>> So, that is the potential with I think any exogenous source that we that we use right?

Anything that we ingest, our brains and our bodies will want to adapt to bring us back to whatever our

baseline is. But the the difference

baseline is. But the the difference between addictive substances and behaviors um and non-addictive ones is that the the release of dopamine and the

reward pathway is so fast and so strong that this process of neuro adaptation is equally strong to bring us back down to baseline.

Because we we do know that there are medications that people can take for very long periods of time and actually not develop tolerance to them, right?

They can continue to work for for them over the long period of time. We don't

actually know exactly why it is that some some people develop tolerance and and not others. And again, it probably has to do with the amount, you know, the

dose, exactly how it's working on the brain. But in general, things that are

brain. But in general, things that are highly reinforcing, our brain tends to adapt to them over time.

>> And testosterone is another one people often talk about where if you take external testosterone consistently, your brain will decrease the natural production of it. And as a result, natural testosterone shuts down and

testicular size can shrink. But then if you stop the TRT, the external testosterone abruptly, your natural system might take a long time to recover. And in some cases, it may never

recover. And in some cases, it may never fully recover back to baseline. I think

this is just like a really important principle for >> Yeah.

>> drugs, chemicals. Yes.

>> Or messing with the natural balance of one's body.

>> Yes. Yes. Exactly. And by the way, Nora Volkoff and her team did a follow-up study in individuals who abstained from methamphetamine for 14 months and then

rescanned their brain and showed that they had restored healthy levels of dopamine transmission. It took 14 months

dopamine transmission. It took 14 months in in those individuals who had been very addicted to methamphetamine, which I think is also an important message here. You know, for individuals

here. You know, for individuals struggling with severe addiction, it's not like four weeks of abstinence is suddenly going to, you know, make your brain better. But what I have found in

brain better. But what I have found in clinical care is that that's typically enough time to begin to see the light at the end of the tunnel. And that indeed

there's enough restoration of sort of baseline levels of joy or capacity to experience reward

that that people can begin to have hope to get out of that state of craving.

What is the most interesting because you know you've been exposed to so much research on the subject of dopamine and human behavior.

Is there a particular study that always stands in your mind as being the most informative or interesting or surprising that you've encountered?

>> A study that um that keeps coming back to me. There are a couple. I mean

to me. There are a couple. I mean

there's so many but >> give me them.

>> Okay. So, if you put a rat in a cage with a rat trapped in a plastic bottle, that rat will that rat will work very

hard to free the trapped rat.

But if you then allow that rat to administer, self-administer heroin, it will not work to free the trapped

rat. To me, that's really powerful

rat. To me, that's really powerful because it it suggests how

addictive substances like opioids, which heroin is, can usurp our desire for human connection,

and essentially become the object of attachment. And we often talk about

attachment. And we often talk about loneliness and isolation as a risk factor for addiction, which it absolutely is. But the reverse is also

absolutely is. But the reverse is also true. That getting addicted will cause

true. That getting addicted will cause us to isolate and be lonely. We will

stop caring about other people. So for

me that's that's a really a really powerful you know kind of experiment that I think does map on to human behavior. something really interesting

behavior. something really interesting this on just a day-to-day level which mean which in your head I was trying to relate that to my my own life and thinking you know if I get really addicted to my screens and my devices

when my partner needs me >> right >> I might be so distracted and so connected to the thing that's giving me dopamine upstairs in my bedroom like my laptop or whatever on my work that I

might completely miss her call for help and I kind of you know I hate to say it but sometimes I do feel like maybe that is I've been guilty of that.

>> Yeah. Yeah.

>> You know, I've been so, dare I say the word, addicted to my work or devices or whatever that, you know, sometimes I'm not present with meeting other people's needs.

>> Absolutely. And you know, that certainly happened to me with my addiction to romance novels, right? We I stopped paying as much attention to my kids and

to my husband. We um went on a vacation with another family at the beach and instead of joining folks on the beach, I stayed in the room and read romance novels. We went to a neighbor's

romance novels. We went to a neighbor's party and I actually found a room in the house and read romance novels instead of socializing and didn't even think that was weird, even though that's obviously

really strange. So it is this kind of

really strange. So it is this kind of coming to overvalue our drug of choice and undervalue other

more meaningful um good things in our lives.

>> Could you theoretically say it's making the world less empathetic or less sympathetic or less what's the adjective of like of actually being there for other people? I guess

connection in relationships. It's it's

it's hurting our ability to connect to others and be have empathy for them and be there for them because we're possessed by the thing giving us the most dopamine.

>> Yeah. I would go even further and say not only is is it making us less empathetic, but

it's actually making us sociopathic.

In other words, when people are in their addiction, they can deviate from their moral compass um because they so overvalue this drug of choice that they

lose sight of their their own values.

And we see this um with kids who become addicted to video games or or social media. They stop participating in family

media. They stop participating in family life. They stop treating their parents

life. They stop treating their parents with respect. They stop participating in

with respect. They stop participating in household chores. Um they become

household chores. Um they become essentially antisocial.

And when they get off of digital media and they go through that terrible withdrawal period, it get all that gets worse and and even they will endorse things like wanting to hurt their

parents or wanting to hurt themselves.

But if they can just go long enough and abstain uh you know from digital media, they will they will come out the the other side. And parents will talk about

other side. And parents will talk about getting their child back, you know, and getting back, you know, this person that that they recognize as their child. So,

I think this is this is really important. When people are in their

important. When people are in their addiction, they can look very personality disordered, very narcissistic, very borderline, very sociopathic.

And when they get into recovery, that's not who they are at all. And they can they can really become themselves again.

I read about a really extreme case where that drug I believe it's called pramoxyl >> pramipaxel >> pramipaxel which is a dopamine agonist.

>> Yes.

>> Which essentially means I guess the molecule is the same shape as dopamine.

So it kind of the brain treats it like dopamine.

>> Yes.

>> And these people were given it for twitchy leg or something.

>> Right.

>> And then they like so many of them lost their minds. They became obsessed with

their minds. They became obsessed with like compulsive impulsive behaviors. And

I was reading about one particular lady.

She would leave the house in the early hours of the morning when she was taking this drug, which kind of is the same as dopamine.

>> And she would wear see-through tops.

This was like a normal woman who otherwise [clears throat] had a normal life.

>> And go to very dangerous places to try and have sex with strangers.

>> And it was because she was her brain was um full of this this drug which simulated dopamine. But there's so many examples.

dopamine. But there's so many examples.

There was one from Australia where a woman was taking this drug which sim which which is like dopamine in terms of it molecular structure. And she would sit on these slot machines until she

soiled herself and urinated on herself.

She ended up losing her house, losing her car, losing her marriage just because they'd given her this drug which is the same as dopamine. And it made me realize that that dopamine isn't necessarily the the drug of um reward,

but more of like wanting and impulse and desire. Is that

an accurate assessment of it? Like it

makes you desire things. And there was other examples when I was reading about it where people would a guy would take this drug and

started engaging in homosexual sex acts whereas otherwise he'd been in a heterosexual relationship.

>> It was all very confusing but it says something to me about what dopamine is actually doing.

>> Yeah. I mean, I think, you know, when we're talking about addictive substances and behaviors, the initial response of the brain is to

release a lot of dopamine all at once in the reward pathway. But with repeated use, dopamine, dopamine release gets weaker

and shorter in duration and eventually it leads to this dopamine deficit state.

And that's often what we call wanting but not liking. So, and George Coupe has called this dysphoria driven relapse where now they're using, you know, not

to feel good but just to stop feeling bad and feel normal. So, in that sense, I dopamine is I mean is part of pleasure. I mean that

that's it's that's not you know it's not its sole function. But when it comes to addictive substances and behaviors, the initial encounter has to feel good or be reinforcing or get

someone out of pain, right? It has to solve that problem. But again, the issue is that with repeated use, it stops doing that, but there's still that

motivation to reuse again and again. And

when we're thinking about like exogenous or external sources of just giving someone dopamine, that's not going to work to treat that dopamine deficit

state because it's going to bind indiscriminately to dopamine receptors throughout the brain. And the brain will respond with that same process of neuro

adaptation where it's downregulating you know dopamine receptors which is again what is setting us up for this repeated addictive pattern.

>> Is there any other studies that were shocking to you and that have always stayed with you? Another really

interesting study is if you um expose a rat to a single injection of cocaine and then slice open its brain, you'll see this arborization of dopamine releasing

neurons in the reward pathway. So that

means a proliferation of uh neurons that release dopamine, a kind of growth of the dopamine forest, so to speak. But by

the way, you'll see that same arborization or growth of dopamine releasing neurons if you put a rat in a complex maze, right? Which is to say a

maze where they can explore and find different things and have challenges. If

you then cut that rat's brain open, you'll see that same arborization of dopamine. So in other words, learning is

dopamine. So in other words, learning is highly rewarding and dopamine is released in response to novelty and new things and new challenges. But if you

then take that rat and pre-treat it with methamphetamine and put it in the maze and then look at its brain, you don't see any additional arborization beyond

what you got with methamphetamine.

And the interpretation there is that drugs actually may usurp or steal our ability to learn, right? because they've

again this idea of sort of they've taken over. It's such a powerful dominant

over. It's such a powerful dominant stimulus that there's no additional growth or neuroplasticity in response to something like learning a maze.

>> And does that mean that when that rat was in the maze the first time and its brain was full of dopamine, dopamine was therefore playing a role in helping it to learn?

>> No. So the learning itself actually caused proliferate. So, so

dopamine is is responsive not just to rewards, not just to pleasurable things, but it's actually responsive to pain, it's responsive to novelty. So, it's

responsive to any emotionally powerful experience. So when you put a rat in a

experience. So when you put a rat in a maze and it explores that maze, that's an enriching, exciting experience for the rat because

we are creatures who are evolved to seek and explore and learn new territory and then move on and do the same thing.

>> Ah, so you could say then that if I'm taking an addictive substance like cocaine, I'm going to be much less likely to go out and explore the world.

>> Yes. Exactly. Or if you do explore the world, you'll there you capacity to be rewarded by that experience will will decrease or will not be there.

>> So I'm less likely to do it then.

>> Right. Yes. Yeah.

>> I mean this highlights a bit more of a fundamental link around like motivation.

Like if you're addicted to something, if you're addicted to pornography, your ability to like get up and go out and get a job might be diminished.

>> Absolutely. I mean what what happens with addiction is that we have a narrowing of our focus on our drug of choice such that that's the only thing that's reinforcing for us and other

things lose their rewarding potential and eventually they fall away altogether and we're spending all of our time getting our drug using our drug trying to get more as we come down. Can I talk about another experiment which I think

is interesting. Another really

is interesting. Another really interesting experiment is the rat park experiment. And this is the work of

experiment. And this is the work of Bruce Alexander. And he essentially

Bruce Alexander. And he essentially said, well, if you put a rat in a cage with nothing else to do but press her press a lever for cocaine, of course, that's what they're going to do because there's nothing else happening. But what

if you put a rat in a very enriched environment with a lever to press cocaine, but also lots of other things to do, other rats, uh, shoots in mazes,

little, you know, sawdust balls. What he

discovered was that the rat is much less likely to press that lever as often because it has other reinforcing things to do. And I think that that was really

to do. And I think that that was really groundbreaking in the sense that it is true that addictive substances and

behaviors work on the brain in this very predictable way that's so reinforcing that even if you have a great life, you can get addicted. But it's also true

that our environment really matters. And

if we're living in an impoverished environment like that single rat in a cage with nothing else to do, we're much more likely to get addicted than if we

live in this really enriched environment where we have lots of other sources of reward, lots of other uh sources of dopamine. And based on that work, there

dopamine. And based on that work, there was something then called the Icelandic experiment. And this is quite some years

experiment. And this is quite some years ago now, but Iceland had a significant youth drug problem. And the way that they decided to intervene was to build a

lot of gymnasiums and emphasize youth sports. And as we've talked about,

sports. And as we've talked about, exercise and sports are a healthy way in general, if you don't overdo it, to get dopamine because you're paying for it up

front, right? You're working for it. And

front, right? You're working for it. And

um Iceland saw a significant reduction in their youth drug use problem after the implementation of this youth sports

system. So I think that's a nice way to

system. So I think that's a nice way to that's it's a nice example of how an animal model can actually provide some kind of fundamental

frame to understand what's happening in the brain that can be then translated to a real world implementation.

>> Radical honesty. Okay. So, um, radical honesty is something that I learned about from my patients and it was the observation that my patients who were

able to get into sustained recovery from severe addictions had learned that they couldn't lie.

And it wasn't just that they couldn't lie about their drug use. They couldn't

lie about anything. So they couldn't lie about why they were five minutes late for a meeting. They couldn't lie about why they couldn't go to a party. They

had to tell the truth in all things large and small.

And to me that was fascinating. And it

was an idea that I started to play with and experiment with in my own life. And

I realized that telling the truth is actually really hard because we're all prone to little lies to kind of cover up our shortcomings. Um, you know, these

our shortcomings. Um, you know, these are things that we hardly even notice.

They're also like lies of exaggeration to make ourselves more interesting, lies of flattery where we tell other people how great they are, even though we don't necessarily believe that. So, all these

little lies that we tell, um, I think even if you're not struggling with addiction, these lies can erode our lives, make our lives more impoverished.

Um and I think you know it's working through many different mechanisms you so the question then becomes why is truthtelling or radical honesty

protective and I think it's working across many different levels but one of the important levels that it's working

across is simple awareness because when we're lying to other people we're also actually lying to ourselves.

Um, and when we're lying to ourselves, we actually don't know what we're doing, right? And when it comes to our

right? And when it comes to our consumptive behaviors, on the one hand, you know, I may know that I'm watching too many videos on on the same at the

same time really not know that I'm doing that, right? So, but when I tell another

that, right? So, but when I tell another human being exactly what I'm consuming, how much, and how often, then it becomes real to me in a way that it's not. when

it's sort of pinging around in the dark recesses of my my own mind. So that

awareness is really important because we can't change our behaviors unless we're aware um of what we're doing.

The other aspect of that that's really important that I've learned over many years of being a psychiatrist is that the way that people tell their autobiographical narrative is really

important and that there are healthy ways we can tell our stories and also not so healthy ways. And what I have observed is that when when people are

telling stories in which they're always the victim of other people or circumstance, I know pretty well that they're not going to get into recovery. But if they

start telling a story that acknowledges their own contribution to their problem, whatever it is, including the problem of addiction, then I'm pretty confident

that we're headed in a good direction.

And that's really interesting because what it means is that our autobiographical narratives provide a template for our lives. They're not just

a way to organize past experience. They

actually provide a roadmap for the future. And if we're telling self

future. And if we're telling self stories that are a more accurate representation of what's actually happening in our lives, we will

have more information from which to make better decisions going forward.

>> So victimhood keeps you stuck.

>> It keeps you stuck because it decreases your awareness of what is actually happening.

And it is our awareness of what is actually happening that allows us to have the data we need to make better informed decisions.

>> Does it also in to some level rob you of responsibility?

>> Absolutely. Because although addiction is characterized by a loss of agency around our consumptive behaviors, we still have some degree of agency always,

even if it's only enough to reach out and ask for help. And as people get into sustained recovery, they have a lot more agency, right? As they get out of that

agency, right? As they get out of that vortex of addiction. And it is that agency that that we must employ to make the next best decision so that our lives

will be this accumulation of small good decisions that then lead to good weeks and week good months and good years.

>> I think that point is so important. this

this idea of agency which essentially means like having control in in my life.

Feeling like I have a sense of control in my life. Is that like a definition of agency? How would you define it?

agency? How would you define it?

>> I I wouldn't define it so much as control because there are so many things that happen in our lives that are out of our control.

But when we reduce our decision down to today, you know, and what I can do today, the things that I actually can control today, then yes, recapturing our

agency around the things that we actually have control over is really really is really important for recovery.

>> The definition I've pulled up here is agency means the capacity to act intentionally and make choices that influence outcomes. And um it does tend

influence outcomes. And um it does tend to be the case from my observations that people that have a high degree of agency, i.e. they believe they have uh

agency, i.e. they believe they have uh capacity to act intentionally and make choices that influence their outcomes seem to be the most successful and on average seem to be a little bit more happy.

>> I think that sense of competence and and agency is definitely one that makes us feel good. The danger a little bit when

feel good. The danger a little bit when we're dealing with severe addiction is that in our addictions, we often tell ourselves that we have agency and

control when we really don't.

>> And so that can be part and parcel of denial, which means that getting into recovery is often about admitting that we may have agency in many aspects of our lives, but when it comes to our

addictive behavior, we've lost some degree of agency.

>> And that's part of the 12step program, right? Yeah, that is a really important

right? Yeah, that is a really important part of the 12step program is that admit admitting that our lives have become unmanageable uh when it comes to our drug of choice.

>> The 12step program being Alcoholics Anonymous, very famous program to to help you through an addiction. Is there

anything else we should have talked about that we haven't? you know, when it comes to New Year's resolutions and and wanting to change habits,

sometimes these sort of all or nothing thinking can be something that's not helpful for people, right? this idea that okay I'm

people, right? this idea that okay I'm gonna abstain from this and I'm going to go a month and you know I'm going to do it and then they find that they're not able to do it and there's then a lot of

shame and self self-inccrimination.

So you know that that approach is is not for everybody and for some a better approach is sort of self-compassion and a goal of moderation. Yeah,

moderation is an interesting one because most of us will just be like, I'm going to go to the gym every day or I'm I'm going to have no sugar ever again or no, I'm going to abstain from alcohol completely but >> maybe moderation for some of these things is more realistic and therefore

more effective and important.

>> Yeah. And we find that moderation typically is more successful if period if people have abstained for long enough to kind of reset reward pathways. But,

you know, even just reducing use can be a laudable goal.

We have a closing tradition on this podcast where the last guest leaves a question for the next guest not knowing who they're leaving it for. The question

is, what's the one thing the universe keeps putting in front of you and what is the thing that it keeps you learning?

>> Um, so right now in my life, the thing that the universe keeps putting in front of me is the importance of letting my kids go and have their own life

experience.

um rather than trying to cling to the relationships that we had before as they were growing

up, which for me was a really joyful time. But I'm recognizing that they need

time. But I'm recognizing that they need to be in the world on their own and I need to figure out what I'm going to do um as an empty neester. So that's not

that deep, but that is what I'm struggling with right now.

And how is that struggle manifesting?

Well, I mean, if I'm being totally honest, um, social media and digital media and those

commu modes of communication have probably made this worse for me because, for example, the find my iPhone, I keep checking where my kids

are and thinking that in a way um, we're connected because I know where they are, but we're not. and also they don't particularly like it that I'm checking

where they are. So there's this kind of weird phenomenon of wanting connection and through text and other technology

trying to recreate that connection. And

yet in some ways I think I might be better off and they might be better off if we didn't actually text and I didn't actually track where they are.

>> Does that make sense?

>> It does. And I I was I think I was laughing cuz I just had this picture of you sat there with like one screen is tracking them and the other one is like watching the pimples being popped.

>> Yes.

>> Both are comparable, right? These these

are both sort of related to sort of habits or behaviors that are self soothing but ultimately not not good for me and you know not good for other

people. Do you think much about how

people. Do you think much about how other behaviors that we take part in like sleep um and meditation um and our nutrition have a big impact

on our ability to kick the bad habit to start a new one?

>> Oh, absolutely. Um there's a great acronym from Alcoholics Anonymous called HALT. Hungry, angry, lonely, tired. You

HALT. Hungry, angry, lonely, tired. You

know, when we're feeling those things, we're more likely to crave our drug of choice. Um, so importantly, we've really

choice. Um, so importantly, we've really got to make sure we take care of ourselves physically and emotionally so that we're as well as we can be so that we don't um get into that state of

wanting to escape or self soothe or numb ourselves. And by the way, that's true

ourselves. And by the way, that's true in the work that we do as mental health care providers, right? We have to really come to patients or clients with our needs met, um, our cup full so that we

can be fully present for for our patients.

>> Dr. Anna Lemi, thank you so much for coming back on the show. It was

incredible the conversation we had last time and it was so unbelievably wellreceived. Um, it's done probably

wellreceived. Um, it's done probably closer to 10 million views across all platforms now. Um, five just over 5

platforms now. Um, five just over 5 million views on YouTube alone. And I

can't begin to imagine all the the people that you've had a profound impact on by making these complicated things accessible. And I know we we simplify

accessible. And I know we we simplify this to a point that it might be quite >> difficult for because I I know the science is much more complicated, but just having a simple mental model for me

is has helped me so much since we last spoke understand what's going on inside my body and inside my brain >> in a simplified way. And that's exactly what was reflected by the millions of people that watched last time. your book

is the the book to read and your workbook as well is a crit critical to read alongside it um on this subject if people want to learn more and get an even deeper understanding of everything we've talked about today and also if

they're struggling with addictions because these book books provide a really I'd say nuanced um empathetic and

shame avoiding set of ideas and solutions to some of the things that hold us hostage in our lives whether it's opioids or technology or other behaviors is that we know at some level are getting in the way of what we'd

rather be doing and who we'd rather become. So, thank you so much for your

become. So, thank you so much for your work. It's such an important work and I

work. It's such an important work and I know you're working on another book which we didn't talk about this time, but when that book does come out, I'd love to have you back on to talk about all the things in that cuz I um little Bernie told me the subject matter and it's absolutely fascinating. So, I'm so

excited.

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