Dr. Leaf | I Can't

Hi, I'm Dr. Caroline Leaf. In this video blog, we're going to be talking about something that I think drives all of us nuts, and that's the I can't toxic tree.

How many times have you had great intentions to sort out some issue in your life, you're applying the five steps, you're getting to day two and day three, and then suddenly you just the

situation arises and you just say, "I can't do this. I can't stop worrying or I can't change this or I can't give up that." I find I have found in my own

that." I find I have found in my own life and in my years of clinical practice and working with people in ministry and ministering and and doing seminars that this is probably the most

major issue that blocks people renewing their mind. You know, if you think of

their mind. You know, if you think of the Sleeping Beauty the children's film Sleeping Beauty and when Sleeping Beauty is up in the tower and there's that whole vine that's that all the that

thorny vine that that is that stops anyone getting up to the up to Sleeping Beauty. It's almost as though there's

Beauty. It's almost as though there's the good thought. There's the good intention sleeping inside that inside that tower surrounded by all these briars and all these vines that are not

very that that you can't get through.

And that is the I can't and we have to cut that away. We have to get rid of that because I can't brings in condemnation and guilt. I can't is the thing that you try and you fall and then

I can't comes and say winds around that thought saying well you just can't do it. It's almost as though the icon forms

it. It's almost as though the icon forms this huge big toxic tree around the actual issue that you're trying to deal with. And in trying to deal with this

with. And in trying to deal with this issue, you have to get through that tower. You have to get through that

tower. You have to get through that briers around the tower. You have to get rid of the icon first. So very often people will send through questions and and and I'll be working with people.

I've worked with people even myself and I find I'm just just not progressing through these 21 days. And I find that it's because the I can't condemnation tree that brings in guilt, that makes us

want to give up, that makes us not want to push past the nine innings game, that thing has to be dealt with first. So

very often you have to stop, step back, take your redo your five steps just on the I can't condemnation guilt concept and then start working back again on the

actual issue that you dealing with.