ENTERING YOUR DISCIPLINED GIRL ERA FOR 2026 | WINTER ARC 101. how to be disciplined through devotion

Hello everyone and welcome or welcome back to better you. I am your host Fernandz and welcome back to another episode of the podcast. If you are new here, this is a space created for inner growth, self-standing, and intentional living. And I could not be more excited for today's episode. We are going to be talking about the winter lockin, how we're going to lock in for the rest of 2025, which is only a few little weeks here, and then how we're going to continue that trajectory into 2026. Now,

I know it is only November when I'm posting this video, but New Year's content is already starting to flood my for you page. New Year's thoughts are already starting to enter my mind, and I myself have already made some plans for 2026. Having that said, I've already put some habits into place so that I walk into 2026 with the right mindset, the right intentions, and just setting myself up for success. We will be talking about everything you need to do to conquer this season and we are going

to talk all about tips and hacks for how to lock into your discipline girl era. I know for myself this past year it was a little bit more free flowing than super structured discipline and I feel like I had this mentality of devotion over discipline and we will talk about that later and what exactly that means. But going into 2026, I want to integrate both of them and make sure that not only am I acting out of a place of devotion towards the goals that I want and the

things that I do daily, but also through discipline and some other things that I am personally doing over the next few weeks to mentally make the switch to locking in. Because honestly, habits and actions are one thing, but your self-concept and changing your mindset is a whole other thing that is the engine for the actual actions to occur. I don't know about you guys, but if I change my mindset and I like fix my self-concept with a few little tweaks, I feel like I can genuinely lock in way

harder than if I just give myself habits to do and I don't have an actual incentive or inner motive for why I'm doing those things. Another thing that I want to say before starting this episode is I have a super exciting announcement. Now, in the last episode, if you listen to it, and if you didn't, make sure you go watch that, I said that there was something, a product that I'd be coming out with for a better you. It is officially 2 weeks away from the launch

date. So, this is going to be the first official tease. I kind of mentioned it before, but we are coming out with a better you guided journal. You guys, this isn't the full episode where I'm going to be talking about why this came about, how it came about, how long it's been in process, like everything about it. But today is the day that I'm giving the teaser on Instagram. I'll post the images on the screen right now if you're watching the video podcast, but if

date. So, this is going to be the first official tease. I kind of mentioned it before, but we are coming out with a better you guided journal. You guys, this isn't the full episode where I'm going to be talking about why this came about, how it came about, how long it's been in process, like everything about it. But today is the day that I'm giving the teaser on Instagram. I'll post the images on the screen right now if you're watching the video podcast, but if

you're listening right now and you can't fully see it, definitely head to my Instagram because you guys will see that I posted what the journal is going to look like. And I would love for you guys to comment down below what your thoughts are on the cover, on the outside, the vibe you're getting, and throughout today to the next two weeks till December 9th. I know I have a lot of ideas that I want to post before the journal goes live and you guys can actually shop it. So, I definitely will

be making a lot of content on journaling in the next two weeks, as well as behind the scenes of what it is like to create a product and just maybe the more entrepreneurial side of being a business owner and a creator. And if you're just interested in me and my own journey, I will definitely be super super super active in the next two weeks. So, again, I just kind of want to put that out there that marketing your calendars, the better you guided journal will be

available for purchase. It is a perfect opportunity to shop for Christmas and for New Year's because we are trying to unlock new habits for 2026. And I don't know about you guys, but a daily ritual like journaling is essential for me. Y'all know I love journaling and coming out with a journal is something that is so aligned with me. I'm just so excited. I feel like I've been building up a lot of hype in my own mind and my own heart throughout the last few months, weeks,

days, and yeah, I'm doing all these little rituals and like mindset shifts in my real life to prepare for this launch. So, it's almost like we're locking in together because you actually might have finals. You actually might be doing some last minute work before the holidays begin. And you know, you might be trying to lock in so that you look like a baddie on Christmas and for New Year's. If you haven't subscribed already to the YouTube channel, also make sure to do that. We're almost at

700K subscribers, which is freaking insane. You can follow a better you. Fernandanda on Instagram so you can see all the updates and fun posts coming up. And if you're watching on YouTube, give this video a thumbs up, leave a comment down below, and you can also leave a little comment on Spotify. I'm always reading them and hearting your comments. Okay, you guys, locking in for the winter season. This is a tough time to want to lock in. Let's be real. The days

are getting shorter. It's getting dark so freaking early. It's cold. It's wet. It's ugly. If you're feeling like tired and pale, and you're looking in the mirror and you're like, "Something isn't right. It's just harder for you to wake up in the morning. It's harder for you to want to do the things you need to do. You want to just lay in bed and curl up." I am right there with you. This is so common, so normal. And if it wasn't for productivity, hustle culture, and

just in general jobs that we have to do, if we were in our natural elements, this is the time to go inwards, to go in our little caves, to, you know, feel a little bit slower, to be with ourselves more and have more compassion. Um, unfortunately, we don't really get to do that because most of us have responsibilities and jobs and things and whatever. But I say that to give you some like peace of mind. If you haven't been feeling ideal, it's completely normal. I feel like that. My friends

feel like that, your friends feel like that. It is normal. The one thing that is really helpful during this time is discipline. Discipline is the art of keeping a promise you made to yourself long after the mood you made it in has faded. So that means doing what you say you're going to do, even when you don't feel like doing it. That is exactly what is going to push us through this winter season. Because during this winter season, as we said, there's going to be

times where we don't want to get up and go to the gym. We don't really feel like making it to class. We don't really feel like going to that art class that you signed up for when you were like so inspired and now it's 5:00 PM and it's dark out and you're not trying to go there. Discipline is keeping that promise to yourself, showing up no matter what the circumstances. A saying that I found online that I really liked is discipline is nothing but self-love at the highest level. Now, some of us

may be gifted with having higher levels of discipline. Maybe you were in a sport since a very young age that gave you discipline and you kind of like hardwired it into your brain. Or maybe you just naturally are someone that sticks to their word. But I feel like there's a lot of people, and me included sometimes, that can easily fall off and forget about the promise they made to themselves. And I feel like when I see that sentence, discipline is nothing but self- loveve at the highest level, it

makes me immediately reframe like thinking of discipline as like a super rigid structured system that I need to obey. And rather, it's actually just devotion to that highest version of myself. Something that is really great to hear though is that discipline is not a personality trait. So, if you are listening to this and you're like, "Oh my god, I need this video because I'm not a disciplined person." Do not fear. Discipline is a skill and just like a muscle, it grows with small consistent

effort. It is actually a practice and it is something that you can get better at. Everyone can get more disciplined no matter what the circumstances. Some examples of a disciplined person include someone who prioritizes their goals, follows a routine, manages distractions, resists procrastination, which is a tough one for me, takes ownership of their mistakes, or even taking care of your physical health. If I think about the most disciplined people in my life,

effort. It is actually a practice and it is something that you can get better at. Everyone can get more disciplined no matter what the circumstances. Some examples of a disciplined person include someone who prioritizes their goals, follows a routine, manages distractions, resists procrastination, which is a tough one for me, takes ownership of their mistakes, or even taking care of your physical health. If I think about the most disciplined people in my life,

they are always thinking long term, and they are striving to act like the person they want to become, whether they want to or not. They are taking all the steps, all the little habits and protocols and they are doing it whether they want to or not because that highest self is more important than the way they are feeling when they don't want to do that thing. They are okay with delayed gratification which means choosing what will benefit you long term rather than

what just feels good right now. And they have such a strong ability to say no when distractions try to pull their attention. Something I think really shaped me with discipline was being in gymnastics from such a young age. when I would go to gymnastics and train like 25 hours a week and I was being coached by trainers who were quite intense, you know, at the time or had a very strict routine, whether I wanted to or not, I had to show up to practice. I had to do conditioning. I had to do the hard

things even when I didn't want to do it. We would have to do skills and routines a certain amount of times and there was no butifs or ends. You just had to do it otherwise it would not be good for you. And also, if you even want results, gymnastics is something that you need to keep trying and trying and trying and just think about the long-term results rather than like how it feels in the moment. Doing gymnastics for so many years really showed me why I needed to

embrace this delayed gratification and how small but consistent effort and habits can lead to such different results and like a huge reward. Another way that I think I've been really disciplined in my life is through my career. I remember when I first started posting on YouTube. I was so diligent with when I posted and what I was posting. I remember if I had like a video that needed to go up and then I had plans, I wouldn't go to the plans because I'd want to get that video up. I

would stay up all night to get this video up if I had to. And I was just very committed to my work. Now, earlier I was telling you about how I wanted to talk about discipline through the lens of devotion. And here is where the two connect. Now, devotion means love, loyalty, or enthusiasm for a person, activity, or cause. Devotion is a completely different energy from the typical force it, grind, and push mentality. The reason why I bring this up is because often when I think about

gymnastics, even though I loved doing the sport, my discipline came through fear or knowing that there would be a lot of consequences if I didn't do the things I had to do. Even there would be shame if I didn't do what I had to do. On the other hand, when it came to my YouTube, I was super disciplined, but not because anyone was telling me that I had to do it. Not even because anyone was forcing me, because I was like scared or because I had made this promise to somebody and I had to fulfill

it. The reason why I was so disciplined was because I was devoted to becoming a YouTuber. I was devoted to making this my career, to making this my path, to my own creativity, to my own calling, to my own purpose. I saw my purpose so clearly, and I'm like, this is what I'm meant to do that I was so devoted to the craft. Like genuinely, it sounds intense, but that's how I felt about it even to this day now. Like I feel like to be pursuing a career that's not

it. The reason why I was so disciplined was because I was devoted to becoming a YouTuber. I was devoted to making this my career, to making this my path, to my own creativity, to my own calling, to my own purpose. I saw my purpose so clearly, and I'm like, this is what I'm meant to do that I was so devoted to the craft. Like genuinely, it sounds intense, but that's how I felt about it even to this day now. Like I feel like to be pursuing a career that's not

traditional and that can be inconsistent and that can be based on your own creativity. There has been so many times throughout the past 6 years where I have not wanted to film or I've not felt great to film or I've not wanted to share certain things. And I do it regardless because I am devoted to that path that I'm taking. And so I want to talk about tips and ways that you can be more disciplined through both practical like disciplined techniques, but also

through that lens of devotion and how if you truly love the process or you truly want that final end result, you don't have to force yourself through like suffering to make that happen. You just need to figure out what that end goal looks like. Figure out your why. It will make you actually stick to your habits. It will make you actually consistent and it'll make you say no to things that don't align with you because you're focusing on that like highest version of

yourself or that goal that you really really want. Devotion-based discipline says I care so deeply about who I am becoming that I show up not because I have to but because I want to. That could be an example. It is giving your energy to something that you actually believe in. And that, my friends, is soft power. And that's kind of what I've been trying to embody more in recent years. Using a personal example in my life, since I know that I'm coming out with a journal on December 9th, I'll say

it one more time. I know that I need to be very disciplined for the next two weeks. That in itself is enough to motivate me. Like, if I want that end result to go well, I need to put in the work the next two weeks. But honestly, what moves me more is the fact that I want the results to go well. I want to put in all my energy into this launch. I want to show up for my audience, for myself, for my past self that wanted this so bad, for my future self that's excited about my first launch. And I've

been changing up a lot of habits in my current life for the past month in order to align with that future version of myself that knows it's going to go well. I know that if I want a certain outcome and I want certain results, I have to change who I'm being. If that version is not me right now, something's got to be different. There is a quote that says, "You cannot get different results by doing things the same way." And hopefully that is something that sticks

with your brain when listening to this episode and when this episode is done if we want different results for the end of 2025 for 2026. We must change what we are doing because something is clearly not working. And in fact, it might not be that what you're doing right now is not working, but it might just be that you want something more for yourself. You want a different reality. And in that case, that is enough already. That already is enough permission to say, I'm

going to take the steps that I need to take in order to get to that reality, in order to quantum leap. Let's let's go there. I know for myself for 2026 I want to be in a completely different reality. I want different results. Oftentimes I think about myself at like the age of 26 and I'm like by 26 I want to be really in my entrepreneurial era. You know I have all these plans. I want to be doing all these things. Now I'm not going to tell you guys exactly what my vision is

cuz I got to keep some stuff for myself. But that version of me is like a very different version than I am right now. And sometimes I would resist change because I'm like I'm not ready to change identities yet. and I know that if I want those results, I'm going to have to change myself. And so that in itself was kind of holding me back. It was my own like wanting to stay in this comfort that didn't allow me to switch into that new version of myself. It's like I

almost haven't given myself permission to embody that ideal version of myself because I wasn't mentally, physically, emotionally ready yet. But right now, as I've been for the past like month or even honestly since I turned 24, I'm like, "Okay, I'm excited. I'm excited to change. I want different results. I want these things to work for me." Suddenly, all of these habits and like little things I want to change throughout my day have been actually easier to hold

myself accountable to because in my head I've already made the switch of like I'm going to change what I do because I want those different results. Since we're kind of already on this topic, I want to say that one of the first things that I think you can do or you should do if you are trying to become more disciplined or trying to act differently so that you can get different results is think about that ideal version of yourself. You can even make a little page on your journal.

Open it up. Say, "What does this ideal version of myself look like? What does she do? Who does she hang out with? What are her hobbies? What are her activities? What grades does she get? What job does she have? How does she speak? How does she move? How does she act? What does she wear? What are her habits? Does she meditate? Does she do gratitude?" Asking yourself, "What does this version of myself look like?" And having it down on paper, it gives you a really clear visual to see what your

ideal version of yourself has to be doing versus the version of you right now. I do that all the time where I do little self audits. I'll make a little drawing of myself and I'll be like, "Okay, what am I currently doing and what is going well and what's going wrong and then when I make my ideal version of myself, suddenly I'm like, okay, I immediately see the distinction." I believe they talk about this in the book atomic habits. But when you shift your identity, you will

actually end up shifting your actions because your self-image directly influences your behaviors and decisions. If I say to myself that I am an entrepreneur, that I am selling products and they all sell out and I'm a businesswoman, does this businesswoman go out partying every single weekend and is like staying up till 5:00 a.m. and then staying in sleeping till 12:00? It's literally not possible. Like I mean maybe to some and in some cases, but I just mean like those two versions of

myself do not align. Sometimes I think about this ideal version of myself at 26 and I'm like I want to be like teaching yoga and I want to be doing retreats and I want to be uninflamed and I want to be snatched and I want to have my dream body. Does that align with the girl that's like was maybe me last month ordering Uber Eats every other day? The two just do not align. Whereas if I shape my identity as I did in the past month, I'm like, "Okay guys, we're

locking in. I'm embodying businesswoman. I'm selling my product. It's going to sell out. I'm going to kill it." Suddenly, I'm like, I'm not drinking this weekend because like that's not what the ideal version of myself is going to do. I am not going to stay out late and go party because that does not align with this version that I'm trying to embody. Suddenly, it is so much easier to say no to these things because I have shifted that mindset in my head. Maybe two months ago, if someone asked

locking in. I'm embodying businesswoman. I'm selling my product. It's going to sell out. I'm going to kill it." Suddenly, I'm like, I'm not drinking this weekend because like that's not what the ideal version of myself is going to do. I am not going to stay out late and go party because that does not align with this version that I'm trying to embody. Suddenly, it is so much easier to say no to these things because I have shifted that mindset in my head. Maybe two months ago, if someone asked

me to go out, I would have been way more down because I hadn't even shifted that identity yet. Now, I can say, "Oh, I've been like sober for this amount of weeks. I don't really feel like doing that cuz that's just not something I do." I've used this example before, but when I first started posting on YouTube, I didn't say that like, "Oh, I sometimes post YouTube videos and then post whenever I wanted." I said in my mind that I am a YouTuber and as a YouTuber,

I have to post weekly. And literally just saying that made me actually act in alignment with that version of myself way more than if I had just not given myself that title. And the best part is you don't have to tell anyone when you're making an identity switch. You don't have to write it down and let the whole world know. It doesn't need to be that deep. It could just be something that you know for yourself and that you are actively trying to embody. For the example of me aligning with a more

businesswoman mentality, when a test is being thrown at me and someone's like, "Do you want to come to this thing and drink tonight and we're going to stay up all night and it's going to be so fun?" I can just ask myself, "What would someone like the business version of myself do?" If it doesn't align, then I have to be okay with saying no. When your behaviors align with your identity, it requires less effort and discipline. An example of this also is if you

identify yourself with being a healthy person, you will naturally make healthier choices without constantly having to force yourself. Something I've been doing in the last few weeks or whenever I'm in the mindset to kind of lock in and be a little bit more structured and a little bit more disciplined is I always make a habit tracker. I pick some habits that I want to do daily and I give myself kind of like a little chart so I can put a sticker or do a little X when I achieve

that thing. that gives me a little bit of an external reward and it kind of gifies the habit so that I'm actually more inclined to complete it. I'm actually looking at the tracker right in front of me and it's been so great to have this tracker visible and on my wall so that I constantly see it and I don't forget about it. Feel like sometimes when I put habit trackers in my phone, I end up forgetting about it. One thing that is really great for discipline is

that thing. that gives me a little bit of an external reward and it kind of gifies the habit so that I'm actually more inclined to complete it. I'm actually looking at the tracker right in front of me and it's been so great to have this tracker visible and on my wall so that I constantly see it and I don't forget about it. Feel like sometimes when I put habit trackers in my phone, I end up forgetting about it. One thing that is really great for discipline is

giving yourself those tools that'll make it easier for you to make those decisions without relying on your mood. If you can only pick one or two habits that you want to fully implement into your life over the next month, that is completely fine. You can start off small before moving to the big things. If you want to suddenly change your lifestyle and you give yourself 20 habits to do every day, there is a big chance that you won't actually do all of those every

single day and that might actually lower your motivation because you're going to be like upset that you're not doing it and be like, "Ah, I give up. I'm not going to do it. But if you just give yourself a few and if you actually complete that habit every single day you're going to do it, by the end of it, you're going to have so much selfrust and confidence that you will feel more inclined to add more habits to your tracker. And also, it'll feel like proof

to yourself like I can do hard things. I can do what I set my mind to. Some examples I have on my habit tracker that were specifically in regards to my kind of goals of being a little businesswoman and being an entrepreneur is meditating every day, doing my affirmations every day, doing my scripting every day. Those three things are kind of things that are more for my own like spiritual and inner self, but those definitely translate to outer self for me. I also have a habit

of working out, of doing my yoga and stretching. And I didn't write it down, but a lot of the times I put like drinking water or eating healthy. I also put as habits um opening my computer and doing like work for certain hours of the day and I also had like filming and creative work. I even made a little habit tracker for posting on every social media app and like how often I want to do that. And then something else I do which I always kind of write under my habits are the habits that I want to

break or I like to call it my invisible rules. It's like rules that nobody told me that I had to do but that I'm giving to myself. So, for the past month, I told myself no alcohol, no partying, no fried food, and limiting sugar and like things like that, junk food. Those are my own personal invisible rules, but they are definitely habits that I want to break as well. A habit that I used to always write down was doing journaling, but for the past year, that has been my

hobby that I have genuinely been devoted to. It's been so much fun. So, I honestly forgot to write it down just because I do it every single day that I don't even need to track it, which is the goal of this whole thing. Once it actually becomes something that you embody and it becomes integrated into your daily routine, you won't even have to remind yourself to do it. Some of the habits that I had written down like affirmations and scripting, I still wrote it down as a habit because they're

not things that I do on the daily without having to remind myself. Some other examples for you could be no phone after midnight. It could be reading five pages a day. You could have some habits surrounding eating meals, doing house chores and tasks. Maybe it could even be something more fun that you actually want to integrate into your life like date night or seeing your friends. You could have a habit of messaging your friends because that is something that

we all need and we all need to have more community. Maybe it is calling your parents, taking your medication, flossing. It could be cooking at home, applying to jobs, maybe doing an extra hour of homework, maybe doing an extra hour of your own personal creative project. Whatever it is, all of these little habits are going to help you become that ideal version of yourself. and having it visually out on paper is so much more fun and easy to keep track of. You can even give yourself a reward

for if you finish the full little challenge that you give yourself and that might be the perfect incentive you need to complete the challenge. For example, I gave myself a fern twoe challenge with all of these habits by the time it's done. I mean, my journal is going to launch, which is going to be so exciting, but I think I'm going to do a launch party and I might have a few cocktails here and there. I feel like that would be the perfect little uh celebration. Making like the party the

reward is uh a lot more enticing to me. Well, actually, this is something that I feel very devoted to. So, I don't really need the discipline as much, but you get what I'm trying to explain. I had written down here that discipline starts with micro trust. You are not lazy. You're just in a cycle of not trusting your own promises. That is something that I was definitely struggling with the past year. And I remember I would do that thing where you would give yourself

all these like goals and you're like, I'm going to start posting. Well, for me, this was like, "Oh, I'm going to start posting four times a week." And my friends were like, "Girl, you're not even posting like once or twice a week. What do you mean four?" And I was like, "Oh, okay guys, didn't need to be so serious with me." But they were right. That is why we are setting these tiny little micro habits and trusting ourselves more so that we have more confidence to attack the bigger, even

better goals. One thing I want to say that kind of goes handinhand with my invisible rules list that I made is making sure that you are eliminating as many distractions and blockages you can throughout your disciplined journey. I know for myself that when I go out and I drink and I party, I end up looking sleep-deprived, puffy, inflamed, I don't feel good. It's hard for me to act like the highest version of myself when I'm in that state. So for me, I need to

better goals. One thing I want to say that kind of goes handinhand with my invisible rules list that I made is making sure that you are eliminating as many distractions and blockages you can throughout your disciplined journey. I know for myself that when I go out and I drink and I party, I end up looking sleep-deprived, puffy, inflamed, I don't feel good. It's hard for me to act like the highest version of myself when I'm in that state. So for me, I need to

avoid doing that. Another example could be getting off my phone for the first hour of the day. I know if I do that, my dopamine is down the drain and it is so hard for me to have the motivation to do stuff throughout the day. Maybe an invisible rule for myself can be no scrolling first thing in the morning. Another example could be respecting sleep like it is your job. If you have good sleep, it's probably going to make your day a lot easier for yourself and

actually make you do the things you say you're going to do. Take this also as a little bit of inspiration to maybe go in your notes app, maybe go in your journal and ask yourself, what are the things that are stopping me from acting like this highest version of myself? What are the things that are stopping me from doing each and every one of these habits that I'm setting myself out to do? For example, what's stopping me from meditating? Maybe the fact that I'm not

giving myself enough time to slow down and I'm always overstimulated. Okay, maybe let's not have super loud music and so much caffeine every day. I definitely need to work on that. Maybe I want to do more work, but I'm asking myself, why am I not doing work? Maybe it's because you don't carry your laptop everywhere you go. You know, maybe if you bring your laptop around, that would be a lot easier. Little things like that will make your habits so much easier to

actually get done. and it will almost make your habits second nature. You won't even have to second guess it. Another example could be putting your workout shoes at the door so you see them and get reminded to work out. Another little technique that I did was putting all my vitamins out on my counter so that I don't forget to take them. These are the systems that we need that will actually support our goals. Another thing that I like to do is stick sticky notes all around my house. I

literally have so many on my window right now and they just remind me of the goal and what my focus is. I feel like sometimes if things are not in front of me, I just like completely forget them. So having them in front of me is something that really helps me. Having my book on my bedside table very much helps me. Bringing a journal and a pen in my bag wherever I go also really helps me with the habit of journaling. You know, you're just making it easier for yourself. Motivation is a wave and

systems are the boat. Another little system that I have for myself is leaving my yoga mat unrolled. So, it always motivates me to do yoga because my mat's already there. Another thing is I brought my desktop computer out to my living room table, which seems insane, but it makes me do work so much more than when it was tucked away in my office. Another example is keeping all my batteries charged so that I always have a camera ready to go. A few other ways that I remove friction is by

already setting my podcast equipment out so that I just need to plug everything in so that I'm motivated to film a podcast episode instead of like tucking it all away and taking it all out. I also automate my post so I don't have to like wake up at 7:00 a.m. to post my YouTube video, but it's already scheduled. Sometimes I even delete my social media apps when I'm really trying to lock in so that I don't feel distracted. The next section I want to talk about to improve discipline and to

strengthen the devotion you have to your goal or your highest self is by having great accountability buddies or partners and also a very supportive environment. One thing that really helps me when I'm trying to lock in is surrounding myself with people who are also locked in or also have similar goals and aspirations as I do. When I kind of made this little mindset shift and I was like, "Oh my god, I need to lock in." I texted some of my friends that I know are so locked

in and I'm like, "Let's do a coffee date. Let's get working together. let's like set up a day where we can get our done because it is so helpful when you see the people around you embodying the energy that you want and also it makes you excited and like I kind of feel like it it boosts my motivation and my own devotion for that habit because I see how somebody else embodies it so effortlessly for example it can be quite difficult to say I'm going to stop drinking if I'm hanging out with my

party friends it's pretty tough but if I'm hanging out with my workout friends and I'm doing a bunch of day plans it is significantly easier and I don't even have to give myself the mental dilemma of should I do it or should I not? That energy is contagious. So if you have in your journal all the habits you want to start doing and the ideal version of yourself, what that highest version of yourself looks like. See if you have anyone in your life that is already living in that reality or that can

definitely inspire you or motivate you or teach you or kind of be like a guide for yourself. And if you do not have that in your life, maybe seek it out. I mean, when I'm looking for like a workout friend, I definitely go to my gym and if I see the same people over and over again, I'll start talking to them. I'll be like, "Oh, we should do that workout." And then maybe you get a workout buddy like that. I love having a friend that I go on walks with. I love having a friend that I go on coffee

dates with. I actually just went to a coffee shop yesterday with my friend that was doing school work and then I was working and that in itself made me so much more motivated to get my work done because I had like a little body double next to me. Another thing you can do is share your goals with a friend or with an assistant or with a or with a co-orker, your parents, your friends, your family, your boyfriend. And that way they can kind of hold you accountable as well. And if you guys

dates with. I actually just went to a coffee shop yesterday with my friend that was doing school work and then I was working and that in itself made me so much more motivated to get my work done because I had like a little body double next to me. Another thing you can do is share your goals with a friend or with an assistant or with a or with a co-orker, your parents, your friends, your family, your boyfriend. And that way they can kind of hold you accountable as well. And if you guys

both make shared goals, then maybe you guys can both kind of look forward to when your little challenge ends or when whatever you're trying to accomplish gets done. I just asked my friend if they wanted to make vision boards with me and I think that this will make me so much more excited to make the vision board because we'll be bouncing off inspiration from each other. I just know the vibes are going to be up. The last thing I want to say about this winter arc, which is the next few months that

we've got going on, is to track your wins. It is so much more inspiring when you can see how you've been improving and it makes it easier to continue that habit. You can keep a visual tracker such as a journal, a whiteboard or an app so that you can actually see your streaks. Like I said, I like the app habit tracker. Again, I'm doing a physical one right now, but that app has been really helpful for me in the past. And then for habits that I wanted to break, I've been using the app called

Days since. And you can see how long you've gone without doing that habit. And then say you have a habit that you want to build over the next 3 months. You can give yourself a little reward after every single month so that you feel more inspired to keep going. Some examples of a small little reward you can give yourself is maybe a little shopping spree, a new makeup item. Maybe it can be a fun date night. Maybe it can be, I don't know, a little sweet treat.

Days since. And you can see how long you've gone without doing that habit. And then say you have a habit that you want to build over the next 3 months. You can give yourself a little reward after every single month so that you feel more inspired to keep going. Some examples of a small little reward you can give yourself is maybe a little shopping spree, a new makeup item. Maybe it can be a fun date night. Maybe it can be, I don't know, a little sweet treat.

It doesn't need to be expensive, but it can definitely be something that feels like a reward for yourself. Something I like to do to track my progress is making little like goals pages in my journals or even taking progress pictures. I'm currently looking in my journal and one of the things I did was put a picture of me on this piece of paper and I wrote who is Fernanda and then I wrote down all of the titles that I want to give myself, the qualities that I like most about myself, the

qualities that I want to have, some achievements I've gotten, and like it just helps me remind myself of who the hell I am, and where I'm trying to go. I even made a little list that said, "Why should you lock in?" And I gave myself all the reasons why I personally want to. One of the things I also want to touch on in this video is the idea that the more disciplined you are, the more peace, space, and freedom you actually have. When you are disciplined, when you are locked in, you will get those

results faster and you will actually feel more ease. Doing the hard thing will actually make you feel better. It gives you freedom, not restriction. I'm going to read you guys a little reflection that I had wrote when I turned 24. As one of my words for 24 is discipline. I said, I want to stick to my word. 23 was healing and light. It was detoxing from working from the wrong reasons and motivations. No more outsourcing discipline or waiting for the right time. Commit to something

which is myself and keep your promises. Real freedom is produced by discipline. I feel good when I accomplish what I say I'm going to do. If I expand a little bit more on what that reflection meant to me and I've talked about this a lot, but in past years I worked really hard and I was very disciplined, but I don't think I was working out of the right reasons. I think I was trying to achieve a lot of external accomplishments and external like milestones. And over the

past year, I kind of dismantled all of that. And I was like, you know, I'm going to do things that only align to me. I'm only going to do the things I'm devoted to. And I kind of swung the pendulum too hard. And this past year, I was very like flowing and free and like not super structured. And though it felt really great, I felt like I had so much freedom. It ended up causing me to feel less freedom because I felt like, oh my god, I feel so lost. Like feel like I

haven't been consistent. I'm not super proud of like my amount of output. I feel like I should be doing more. I feel like I should be doing better. Like am I being too chill? And so I think for me 24 is integrating both of those. I remember I was trying to make a little comeback plan on Chad GBT and something that Chad GBT said back to me. I won't even take credit for it. Okay, Chad GBT kind of ate with this sentence, but it said discipline without devotion is

empty. Which I had totally felt. I felt uninspired. I felt unfulfilled. But then it also said that devotion without discipline is floating, which I also felt. I felt kind of like, okay, this is this is awesome, but like I'm feeling a little bit unstructured. When you combine both of these ideas together, being both devoted and acting out of discipline, you can feel both grounded and alive. And that, my friends, is the goal for 2026. That is the energy that we are trying to bring into the new

empty. Which I had totally felt. I felt uninspired. I felt unfulfilled. But then it also said that devotion without discipline is floating, which I also felt. I felt kind of like, okay, this is this is awesome, but like I'm feeling a little bit unstructured. When you combine both of these ideas together, being both devoted and acting out of discipline, you can feel both grounded and alive. And that, my friends, is the goal for 2026. That is the energy that we are trying to bring into the new

year. And that is hopefully what is going to get us to act out of our highest self and achieve everything we've been wanting to achieve. Okay, you guys, I've been yapping for so long, so I think I'm going to end it off here. But I hope that this video inspired you. I hope that this video maybe got you to think about discipline from a different perspective. To think about it not as a rigid, structured, boring routine, but rather seeing it through devotion to

year. And that is hopefully what is going to get us to act out of our highest self and achieve everything we've been wanting to achieve. Okay, you guys, I've been yapping for so long, so I think I'm going to end it off here. But I hope that this video inspired you. I hope that this video maybe got you to think about discipline from a different perspective. To think about it not as a rigid, structured, boring routine, but rather seeing it through devotion to

this highest version of yourself and how you can actually be more disciplined in a way that is fun and exciting and not just boring and bland and black and white. There is a way that we can do it all. And I am so excited for you guys. I'm excited for me. I'm so excited for my disciplined era. I'm really excited to like lock back in and like commit to the things I say I'm going to commit and build my own selfrust. I feel like my confidence is going to grow so much and

I feel like the results that I want are going to come by so much faster. I truly feel that 2026 for me is the combination of both energies and I am already feeling the momentum building and that in itself is inspiring and exciting for me and there is just so much good to come. So anyways, I hope this inspired you. You guys can DM me. Let me know what you are currently working on, what you are trying to work on for the rest of 2025 and 2026. And let's try to make

it happen, you guys. My goals and your goals side by side. Let's make each other our accountability partners because I have so many goals. I know you have so many goals. And I don't know, let's quantum leap. Let's make 2026 our year. That's all I've got to say. Anyways, I love you guys. Thank you for listening to today's episode. And I can't wait to see you next week. [music]

it happen, you guys. My goals and your goals side by side. Let's make each other our accountability partners because I have so many goals. I know you have so many goals. And I don't know, let's quantum leap. Let's make 2026 our year. That's all I've got to say. Anyways, I love you guys. Thank you for listening to today's episode. And I can't wait to see you next week. [music]