how to actually get rich if you’re 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29

Between the ages of zero and 20 years old, you haven't really spawned in.

You're not really conscious or real.

It's not until the ages of 17, 18, 19, your early 20s that the concept of the future actually starts to crystallize in your mind as something that's going to happen. It's something that's coming.

happen. It's something that's coming.

And when you're a kid, you know, before you get to 20, you're not very self-aware. You don't really have any

self-aware. You don't really have any values. You don't really have any

values. You don't really have any decision-making capabilities. You don't

decision-making capabilities. You don't really know what you want or what you're going to be or who you're going to do it with or anything like that. You don't

know who you're becoming. And going from late teenage years to mid to late 20s is a very very um tough time. It's very

turbulent and it's hard to know how to behave, how to act, what to think, what to do, what to say, who to be with, and how to take care of yourself and how to build a life. And so let's say that

you're going to live for a hundred years um at a stretch, right? Considering the

habits that some people have these days, we might not make it to 100, but let's just for the simple math of this video, 100 years.

The first 20 years of your life are what we would call the tutorial. Okay? You're

you're basically just learning. And what

you're doing is you're learning how to not die. And you're learning how to take

not die. And you're learning how to take care of yourself and survive. You're

just learning basic survival instincts.

And as you go through your early years, you learn important tools like how to socialize yourself adequately, how to clean yourself adequately, how to eat properly, how to exercise, and you know,

maybe you don't learn some of these things, but you you learn basic skills for survival before you get before you're unleashed on the world, right?

Which is what happens when you go to university or you move out and you sort of leave the the nest, so to speak. And

what you need to realize is what happens with most people is they let the first 20 years of their life define them. So

in the first 20 years of their life, but just just as they spawn in, they have a very people have a very strong identity.

They have all these traumas they've built up. They have all these

built up. They have all these addictions. They have all these habits.

addictions. They have all these habits.

They have all these neurosis and all these psychological problems that they developed as they grew up. And that can be because bad things have happened to them that they've repressed. They got in with the wrong crowd and the wrong

people. And if you're not careful, what

people. And if you're not careful, what happens is your early years define your late years. And in math, this is called

late years. And in math, this is called the law of sensitive dependence on initial conditions where a mathematical system is if if it's rigged ever so

slightly, just a tiny bit at the beginning, then the outcome is huge in comparison. To give you a concrete

comparison. To give you a concrete example of this, if you were taking a really long plane journey and the plane was off by 0.2 degrees off of on the

wrong angle, with enough distance and time, that plane will end up thousands of kilometers and miles away from where you want to go because of the in the sensitive dependence on the initial conditions of the direction in which it

was going. And so when you're a kid,

was going. And so when you're a kid, when you're growing up and getting into your before you get into your 20s, you have a trajectory and you have a direction. And more often than not, it

direction. And more often than not, it is absolutely crucial to your happiness and the future fulfillment of your existence that you correct that course

and you reset the initial conditions because you've probably picked up some bad habits. So, think of it like this.

bad habits. So, think of it like this.

When you're going through your early years, imagine that you are a massive magnet floating through space. And I

want you to imagine that in this space, this abstraction that I'm creating and painting for you, there are random chunks of metal flying around. And

you're this, you're a big magnet floating through this this big space with all these little bits of metal. And

what you basically do is you float through this space and little bits of metal start attaching themselves to you like ping ping ping. Like you just you just get start attracting all these things into your life. And some pieces

of metal you repel and some pieces of metal you attract. And some things you attract them temporarily and then they fall off. And some things you you

fall off. And some things you you attract and they stay on forever. That's

basically how your life works in your early years. You go through it and by no

early years. You go through it and by no intention you start randomly picking up things and attaching things to your life. And this can be people and

life. And this can be people and friends. It can be social situations. It

friends. It can be social situations. It

can be um things to do with your body.

Could be things to do with your mind. So

you could pick up a, you know, a disease, you know, that you carry through you, but by accident. Maybe,

maybe you get bitten by a tick and you get limes disease, right? Didn't mean

for that to happen. You're just floating through and that piece of metal was just bolted onto you, right? And so most people's lives by the time they arrive to 20 are just these weird amalgamated

conjoined aggregates of chaos that they didn't intend to build. And it's really hard to get to your early 20s and to look at this thing that is your life and

it you're looking at it like what the hell is this? Like what do I do with this thing and where do I go from here?

And so what you need to learn to do is bring some order to this chaos so you can take away the metal pieces that you don't want and start bringing in metal pieces that you do want. So one metal

piece that you might have right now is maybe you're in debt. So maybe you're in maybe you're in an overdraft or maybe you've got student debt and this isn't binary cutoff when you get to 20. You

could be in your early 20s, right? But

you know, maybe you have um debts and that's something that's just bolted on.

Maybe you didn't intend for that to happen, but because you didn't have the reasoning or decision-m or thinking capabilities of an adult, things just happen. And yes, they are your

happen. And yes, they are your responsibility. And yes, more often than

responsibility. And yes, more often than not, it's your fault that they did, but it almost isn't because you didn't have the wisdom to prevent it from happening.

Right? And this is the same thing with the people you hang around. It's the

state of your body. It's the state of your mind. It's how anxious you are, how

your mind. It's how anxious you are, how stressed you are, what political agendas you believe in, what religious agendas you reject or believe in, what people you look up to, what figures you you aspire to be. And your life is just this

weird ball of chaos that's just happened. But the cool thing is when you

happened. But the cool thing is when you get to 20 and when you get to your late teenage years, your early 20s, that sort of, you know, we'll just call it the millennial power spike, right? When you

get to this off tutorial island, basically you you gain something that we call consciousness. You effectively

call consciousness. You effectively spawn in and you start to realize that things are in your control and you start to be able to discern cause to effect, which means you can seize that

something's happened and because something has happened, something else has happened. So action reaction. You

has happened. So action reaction. You

can see if I eat this food then I will feel bad. If I hang out with this person

feel bad. If I hang out with this person then I will smoke weed. If I play this video game then I might get angry and throw my controller on the floor. You

start to become a little bit more aware of the connections. And so why the reason I'm making this video is to explain how to navigate this ball of

chaos, this this big life thing. Because

how many times have you been asked what do you want to do when you grow up? or

do do you have any idea what you're going to do with your life yet? And all

you're trying to do is just make it through the day. You've got you've got so much [ __ ] going on that you just don't even know what you're doing. So,

what we're going to do is just I'm going to talk you through it. I'm going to talk you through how I did this because um I'm 27. Um I'm a multi-millionaire.

I'm incredibly healthy. So, I don't my immune system is hasn't I haven't been sick for basically a year and a half.

Um, I I don't have any history of illness or disease since, you know, basically my early 20s and I'm in good healthy shape. My social life and my

healthy shape. My social life and my personal relationships are extremely strong. So, I've got a great connection

strong. So, I've got a great connection with my mother, my father, my brother, my sister, my business partner, my friends. My romantic life's been in

friends. My romantic life's been in goodstead for a while. And I have a good life. I am happy. I am fulfilled. And I

life. I am happy. I am fulfilled. And I

have strong meaning. And I I just feel pretty good. And I want to explain how

pretty good. And I want to explain how you can do the same. Now, this isn't to say that I don't have my flaws or my down days or my down weeks or maybe even a rut for a month. Like, I'm not this

perfect being of holiness. Like, that's

not what I'm trying to say. What I'm

trying to say is I gave it I gave my early 20s a pretty good go and I think I got it as close to right as I possibly could, which is all we can ask for. And

so when it comes to getting your 20s right and nailing your 20s so you can basically become rich, healthy, and loved, we need to realize that there are three things that help us navigate a

fulfilling, meaningful existence into the the f the c so we can crystallize that into the future. And it's kind of what I just explained. It's wealth and money. So you need to basically know how

money. So you need to basically know how to make money and become financially secure. You need to know how to become

secure. You need to know how to become healthy. So when I talk about health,

healthy. So when I talk about health, I'm talking about your body and your mind, your mental, your physical health.

You need to know how to be healthy and you need to know how to be loved and you need to know how to love. And what I mean by that is basically your relationships. Okay? So it's health,

relationships. Okay? So it's health, wealth wealth health and relationships. Now, it might seem like

relationships. Now, it might seem like I'm putting them in an ascending order, and I kind of am because what I found, and I'm going to explain this in a second, is if you get the wealth thing

right and you learn how to make money, then uh everything else gets a lot easier. And I'm not saying that you

easier. And I'm not saying that you should sacrifice your deep relationships or your health to make money. I'll

explain this in a second. So, let's

explore the first thing, which is wealth and how to make money. And then we're going to explore health and basically how to be healthy and how to take care of your body and your mind so that you know you're not in a constant state of

brain fog or terror and anxiety. And

then we'll talk about how to have a social life and how to make friends and how to meet romantic partners and kindle relationships with your families and keep those going because these things matter because let me ask you this. If

you have these three things then you're probably going to be quite happy. Now

there is a fourth which I'm not going to discuss which is your relationship with God and your relationship with a higher power because I have a specific relationship with God but I don't feel

it's my place to instruct or inform you on what you should believe in or how you should believe in it or what you should worship because I'm still new to that by the standards of um the practice and I

don't want to push anything on you through an agenda that you know you need to discover on your own. So the the three, you know, we'll go through the three and then the fourth one you need to figure out on your own. So we're not going to talk about that. So let's talk

about wealth. How do we define wealth?

about wealth. How do we define wealth?

Well, to me, what when I talk about wealth, I'm talking about financial freedom. And those two words need to be

freedom. And those two words need to be defined quite clearly for us to know what we're dealing with here. Because

people throw the words financial freedom around quite a lot. And it's this buzz word. What does it actually mean? Well,

word. What does it actually mean? Well,

financial obviously means money. But

what does freedom mean? Well, to me, freedom is control. And what is control?

It's you having the autonomy to make decisions and act in a way that you want to act uninhibited by financial

restriction. And so what this looks like

restriction. And so what this looks like in layman's terms is being able to buy food without worrying about it. Being

able to take an Uber to the train because it's raining and not worrying about it. being able to go on holiday

about it. being able to go on holiday and not worry about it. An example, it was my mother's birthday um on Thursday.

I'm recording this on Sunday. It's 11:00

p.m. in case you can't tell by the robe.

And um it was my mother's birthday on Thursday and um she came up to visit me on Friday and we went out to lunch. I

took her shopping and we went to a nice fine dining restaurant for dinner. And

during the course of of that um that day, I probably spent maybe $600 700 on my mother to make sure that she had a enjoyable birthday experience. And I

love her so much and she's she means everything to me. And so I was able to do that and I was able to do that without fear or something in the back of my mind saying, "Oh, we haven't got enough money to do this." That's

financial freedom. Financial freedom is not buying Lamborghinis. It's not buying Rolexes. It's not chartering private

Rolexes. It's not chartering private jets or, you know, eating honey off of an Instagram model's body because you paid a 10 grand to do so. That's a weird example and I promise that's not a

window into my unconscious. I just I'm referencing an Instagram post from I think someone related to Dam's era and I saw it was a long time ago. Anyway,

whatever you get my point. Um, but

that's financial freedom and you need to learn how to have it because one of the main reasons that people's lives are so miserable and desperate and

one of the reasons that so many people struggle to be happy and to live fulfilling meaningful lives is because they are not free. They do not have the ability to exercise autonomy onto the

universe. And people that makes people

universe. And people that makes people feel very anxious, especially men, you know, as as men, especially young men with a proclivity towards a trajectory

for for expansion, for growth. We like

to be in control. And there's no greater form of control to me than money.

Because when you have money, you can buy what you want, do what you want, go where you want, and that's that. And

I'll tell you something about freedom.

It's not it's not about acting it out.

It's about having the option to act it out. So, for example, I am 27 as you

out. So, for example, I am 27 as you know. Um I'm a multi multi-millionaire

know. Um I'm a multi multi-millionaire many times over and I've got enough money into in my bank account to effectively retire for the rest of my life and not work another day and right

now I could be anywhere in the world in any hotel experiencing anything that I wanted with a few exceptions. Right? So

I I couldn't probably go to certain countries and spend millions of dollars every day. But pretty much within within

every day. But pretty much within within reason, I could go anywhere I want.

Instead, I'm choosing by my autonomical, if that's even a bloody word, by my autonomy, my choice is to sit here and work and make videos like this. I could

be doing anything, but I'm doing this.

And that's because I want to. And that's

because that's what feels most meaningful to me. And so freedom isn't acting it out. It's having the option to act it out. And so in the back of my mind, I know that I'm free, so I could do whatever I wanted to. So how do we

achieve this? Well,

achieve this? Well, financial freedom is is to me very straightforward. It's it's taking 4%

straightforward. It's it's taking 4% of your total liquid assets every single

year to live a lifestyle that you would deem as sufficient for your status, ego, and

so socio-csychological needs. In layman's terms, what that

needs. In layman's terms, what that means is having enough money in the bank so that the interest you receive on that money covers your expenses in life with

a little bit left over. So the average interest rate or the average return that you can probably hope to get on a liquid cash investment if we're being

pessimistic is four to 5%. And so if you want to make you know um let's just say you want let's say you have a million in the bank, right? Then that million, the

bank holding that million will probably pay you like a 3.8 to 4.5% interest rate, which means that every year that bank account will pay you $40,000.

Right? Now, if you bumped that to 2 million, then you'd have $80,000. If we

bumped it to 3 million, we'd have $120,000, etc., etc. And so, financial freedom is all about stacking cash. It's all about

making as much money as you possibly can and spending as little as you possibly can. Because here's the secret to

can. Because here's the secret to achieving freedom. Freedom is achieved

achieving freedom. Freedom is achieved through restriction. And this is where

through restriction. And this is where people go wrong with wealth and finance is they think they're chasing financial freedom and they want to be wealthy and they want to be free. And so what they start doing is they start acting as if

they already are free and then they're way too liberal and free with their money. But the way you become free free

money. But the way you become free free is by restricting yourself in the first place. And the restriction creates the

place. And the restriction creates the freedom. So when you restrict yourself

freedom. So when you restrict yourself and you reduce the impulse and you stop spending money and you you you know when you when you first start making money, you're going to be wanting to buy watches, you're going to want to buy cars, you're going to want to buy things

and do this and that and go traveling.

is just restrict yourself for as long as you can and build that pot because from experience I can tell you once you've got a few million in the bank you're

going to make 80 to 120 to $ 160,000 per year passively. Now after tax, you know,

year passively. Now after tax, you know, you might get capital gains 25% tax on that. So maybe you're only left with

that. So maybe you're only left with like 60k a year or 80k a year or something. But that's enough for you to

something. But that's enough for you to cover your basic living expenses and then some. And it's not enough for you

then some. And it's not enough for you to live a exotic crazy, you know, insane influencer lifestyle, but it's enough for you to cover your basic needs and have something left over and for you to

have some level of basic financial freedom. Now, once you get to the point,

freedom. Now, once you get to the point, and I can talk from experience here, once you get to the point where you've got tens of millions, then you can start getting a little bit more excited with how you spend your money and what you do and stuff like that. But at the

beginning, it's just about stacking a couple of mill. How do you do that?

Becomes the question. Well, first of all, I can tell you that there's no point in you even trying if you don't have your impulse checking control. If

you want to just spend that money and you're just so obsessed with just spend, spend, spend, then it doesn't matter how much you make because you're just going to spend it. It trying to make money when you haven't got good psychological

impulse control is like trying to fill up a watering bucket. Like, you know, take like a bucket of water. It's trying

to fill up a bucket of water that's got a hole in the bottom. like there's no point. Like it's it's not going to fill

point. Like it's it's not going to fill and you're putting all this energy into something that's never going to stack and build. You could say, "Oh, yeah, but

and build. You could say, "Oh, yeah, but I get to experience like, you know, I get to experience all of these things, these riches." But really, expedience

these riches." But really, expedience is is is irrelevant in the chasm of time against when you die. When you're on your deathbed and you're about to die, are you really going to be thinking about like the fact that all of your

mates were like, "Wow, he's got a Rolex." You probably won't care too much

Rolex." You probably won't care too much about that, man. Let's be real. You'd be

you'd be happier if you just saved that money and were able to put your daughter through college without blinking or you could pay for your wife's cancer treatment without blinking, without having to jeopardize anything.

Like things are going to happen that are bad. Like you're going to need money as

bad. Like you're going to need money as you become an adult. As you absorb, you might not know it now, but you're going to absorb a series of responsibilities around your company and your business,

around your family, around your health and your body and your mind and the people that you love. And you become responsible for these people. And one of the core responsibilities you have is

having the financial resources to solve problems as they arise, as fast as possible with the highest level of support. Because if you spend all your

support. Because if you spend all your money now and you you build this weird status loop of just buying and buying and buying things and being impulsive, there's going to come a time when you

really need that money and there's something really bad's going to happen and you'd wish that you'd saved it. So,

how do we do this? How do we how do we make this money? Well, it's as simple as something called your earning potential.

So, your earning potential is a term used to denote the level of potential you have to earn money. And what that basically means is what are you worth?

Because everyone is worth something and they're worth how much they earn or how much they have. Because if I if I so for example, I make um $10 million per year

with my company. And what that means is that I am worth $10 million per year.

There's other people out there that make 20,000 $30,000 a year. And that means that they are worth 20 to $30,000 per year to the market, not to the moral

sphere. I'm not saying that someone's

sphere. I'm not saying that someone's life is worth 30 grand, although there is actually hard insurancebased statistical evidence to determine that someone's life is worth a certain amount of money. We won't get into the moral

of money. We won't get into the moral ethical argument of that. I'm not saying that someone I'm not saying I'm worth more than another human simply because some some binary code on a screen says

so in representation of a number attached to my name that is arbitrary and doesn't even exist which is money.

I'm not saying that. What I'm saying is that everyone's worth a certain amount of money. And the word worth is an

of money. And the word worth is an interesting thing to explore because what that denotes is to deserve. You get

what you deserve. You are worth what you deserve to be worth. And when we're talking about worth, the measurement that we're using is the market. So the

judge of what you're worth, because it's the question, it's like, who judges what you're worth? How how can it be fair

you're worth? How how can it be fair that I'm I'm worth 10 million a year and you're worth 40k a year? Like when we have the same age and maybe we have the

same like we look similar and we're from the same place, like what what judges this? Well, I can tell you what judges

this? Well, I can tell you what judges this. It's the market. And the market is

this. It's the market. And the market is is the aggregate. It's the term used to describe the aggregate of all of the economic um parties. So all of the competitors, all of the products,

everything that deres the economic machine and makes that thing tick is the market. And your what what you're worth

market. And your what what you're worth is is hinged on your skill set, your work ethic, and your diligence, how clever you are, how smart you are, how

articulate you are. All of these character traits and skills that would denote an intelligent entrepreneur or an intelligent career worker or person

determine how what you're worth. This is

why for example that if we take software engineers, some software engineers get paid 500k a year by the top companies in the world like Google or whatever the hell and other software engineers just

end up doing freelance projects and can't even make ends meet. Well, why is that? Well, it's because not all

that? Well, it's because not all software engineers are made the same.

Some worked way harder than others. Some

studied way harder than others. Some

have character traits that are better suited to the job. And when I say that, it's all about being better suited to the job. What I mean is getting results.

the job. What I mean is getting results.

At the end of the day, you get paid for results. And you get paid in proportion

results. And you get paid in proportion to the result you bring to a niche or a person. That could be your boss. It

person. That could be your boss. It

could be your customers. But ultimately,

we all serve someone. So I you might serve a boss. I serve my customers and the amount I get paid from them or from the boss is dependent on how much value

I add and value is added when pain is alleviated and pain is alleviated when problems are solved. And so the reason that anyone ever gets paid ever is to

solve a problem. So this could be a consumer or a company but ultimately people have problems and they are very willing to part with money to solve those problems. And so, you know, if you

are a waiter and let's say that you work in a um a steakhouse, the problem you solve is serving the customers and bringing the food out on time and making sure the orders are correct and stuff.

The issue is that a lot of people can solve that problem because it doesn't require much specialized knowledge or work to get good at. Now, I'm not trying to [ __ ] on waiters here, but you get my point. Anyone can be a waiter. It's not

point. Anyone can be a waiter. It's not

that hard. a good waiter, a fine dining waiter with the right etiquette, the right wine pairing knowledge, understanding, the right posture, the right speaking, like there's levels to

this, right? And there's a reason why

this, right? And there's a reason why some waiters can make 100k a year with tips and others only make 20. There's

levels, but the the quality of your solution determines what you're worth to the market. And so,

you know, you need to pick what problem are you going to solve? Who are you going to solve it for? And then all you need to do, this is the secret to getting rich and becoming financially free. All you need to do is become the

free. All you need to do is become the best or one of the best people in the world at solving that problem. And so,

let's take the waiting example. Say you

want to be a waiter and that's what you want to do with your life. Figure out

how to become the the greatest best waiter on the planet. And you know, before you know it, you'll get into a decent restaurant where decent people go that are rich and have other restaurants

and you'll blow them away with your waiting skills because you've practiced so much and you put so much thought into it and you're so good. Then you'll get a big job offer. Then before you know it, you're leading a waiting team. Then

before you know it, you're training other restaurants on how to become how to hire good waiters and then you're a millionaire. like you can take these

millionaire. like you can take these rudimentary skills and these these seemingly um meaningless career paths and transcend them to become a

millionaire through them. You just have to try to become the best. That's how

you get paid more. And that is how you achieve financial freedom and that's how you solve the wealth thing. So you're in your you go through your 20s, you pick one thing, you pick one problem to solve

and you just become a beast at it. You

just become the best at it. you

religiously practice it and you intentionally just overd deliver as many times as you can and you just try and get it right time and time again. And if

you just do that, you'll be better than everyone and you'll be paid accordingly.

I promise it always works. I've never

seen it fail. The second thing to making sure that your 20s are pretty half decent is making sure that your health is in good order. Now, when we talk about health, I'm I'm referring to a few

different things because we've got mental health and we've got physical health. Um, we'll start quickly with the

health. Um, we'll start quickly with the mental health because this is a pretty straightforward thing. Um, learn to

straightforward thing. Um, learn to talk.

And that's really all you have to do.

What I what I mean when I say that is is learn to trust people that are close to you that you love and learn to talk to them about your problems and your feelings and your emotions. And I know

that as a young man, this is very hard to do because it requires us to be vulnerable and to, you know, release our emotional capacity for um control of the

mind onto and project that onto someone else and to put to put our fragile little ego into their potentially firm hands is a terrifying thing to do. But

there is nothing more powerful than talking about your ship. Because

remember, you've been floating through space as a big magnet. You've attracted

all sorts of weird [ __ ] You've probably been through some bad stuff. You've

probably done some bad stuff. You've

probably done things you're not proud of. You've probably developed habits and

of. You've probably developed habits and addictions you wish you didn't have. And

you're probably quite miserable for a multitude of different reasons. And

that's okay. But the first place, the first way to fix that is by getting wealthy, by getting healthy, and by building relationships. But there's no

building relationships. But there's no point in doing all these things if you're miserable, anxious, and depressed. And I have found that nothing

depressed. And I have found that nothing solves those problems quite like talking. And you don't even have to talk

talking. And you don't even have to talk to a professional therapist or, you know, a professional um you know, psycho psychologist about these things, although that can be useful if if your

condition is severe.

But just talk to people, man. And talk

to people that listen. So this is very crucial because you you'll find that in your life there's a few different people. There's two types of people that

people. There's two types of people that you can talk to when it comes to um fixing your mental health and and engineering your brain in a way that is a little bit more conducive to you being happy and less neurotic. There's two

types of people. The listener and the listen to talker. The listen to the listener is someone who loves you and cares for you and just listens and they

will allow you to put your problems out into the ether of conversation without judging you and without trying to interject. and they'll just listen. And

interject. and they'll just listen. And

all they're trying to do is understand because to be understood is to be cured in mental health. That's honestly the the real bottom of of the whole therapy thing is just you just need to be

understood because once someone else understands, then you can use their understanding to understand why you feel that way and the problem dissipates.

Now, it's not always that simple and there are very deep layers to the mind and how the brain works when it comes to mental health. So that's a very simple,

mental health. So that's a very simple, simplistic, reductive analysis that probably wouldn't suffice or stand up in a clinical trial. But that's the point.

The second kind of person that you want to avoid talking to is the person who listens to you, but the only reason they're listening is so they can give you their opinion or they can talk over

you. And so, you know, maybe you've had

you. And so, you know, maybe you've had this before where like you've tried to share something with someone and they just they just talk talk talk and they just they're not really listening. And

what they're doing is they're using your problems and your pains and your issues as a a mechanism for projection to project their stuff onto you. And those

people, they just need to talk to listeners, right? So talk to talk talk

listeners, right? So talk to talk talk to listeners and don't and do not be afraid to just say, "Look, man or mom or dad or brother or sister, I really need

some help. I'm going through some tough

some help. I'm going through some tough times and I've got some feelings and some emotions that I don't like and that are unpleasant to experience and I'd really appreciate it if I could sit down

and talk to you about them. And this

might be something that you've never done before, but it's powerful. Like,

you know, I've had I'll be on our level with you here. I've had conversations before with my mother, um my father, my sister, uh my brother, my closest

friends, my business partner, therapists, ex-girlfriends that I've just broken down on and cried and cried and cried and cried. And you know, at

the time, I would always apologize. I'd

say, "I'm really sorry for crying." And

I'd even judge myself for crying. But

just because you're a man and just because your biological engineering states that you have a certain type of chromosome and a certain proclivity to produce testosterone and orienting

yourself in the world doesn't mean you're not allowed to feel things.

There's a big difference between feeling things and processing emotions and being an emotional person and acting them out.

So what you want to avoid is letting these emotions control your life and dictate your actions. And emotion is is emotion which means energy in motion. In

fact, motion is a Latin term for movement, motus, movement, right? And so

basically what an emotion tries to do is it tries to get you to move your energy which is your body and it tries to get you to do things. So if you feel angry, you know, or if you feel sad or if you feel happy or if you feel anxious or you

feel something, it's usually your body trying to do get you to do something.

So, you know, someone pushes you and you feel angry and then you'll you try to retaliate and hit them back, but it's not always the right thing to do. And

then the problem is is that if you don't talk about your emotions and you don't process them effectively and you don't, you know, map them out for you to understand them, they will rule your

life and and you will act them out and carry them out. And so

there's a lot of there's a lot of power in just talking to people and there's a lot of power in crying. And I know it might be scary and you might not want to do it, but I can tell you that the biggest personal breakthroughs I've had

through my 20ies have been the times that I've just broken down into tears.

Whether that is after processing or during processing certain traumas um which is usually what it is or you know like one one thing that happened to me

recently um over the course of the last year is it kind of dawned on me and hit me that I was I I I'd set out to achieve what I wanted to achieve and I'd been on

this sort of hero's journey this sort of open I opened this loop when I started my first business to be I feel myself getting emotional about this now but I'll we'll talk about it because there's

These things are important. I I opened a loop when I was 18 to get rich and become successful and I did it. And I

didn't really realize that I'd done it because I got so caught up in my life.

And what started to happen is I I was I was watching uh the movie Pursuit of Happiness for like the fourth time. So I've seen it many times before. It's a great movie. In the pursuit of happiness, what

movie. In the pursuit of happiness, what happens is the protagonist, the main character, played by Will Smith, struggles really bad. He's struggling.

He's broke. He's poor. He can't afford to like put his kid through daycare properly and he's really struggling and his wife leaves him and it's bad. And at

the end of the movie, he gets this highpaying stock broker job and he ends up successful and then he has what he wants and it was a beautiful story. And

the archetype there is going from broke to poor. But really what it represents

to poor. But really what it represents below that at its core is a man who used work to facilitate a transformation of

of of meaning to become more responsible and change his life through nothing but pain. And to me that is a beautiful

pain. And to me that is a beautiful I'm going to get emotional talking about it. And that's what I did. And I watched

it. And that's what I did. And I watched that movie and I broke down. And I broke down for a couple of days and I was crying and you know I I was in Dubai at the time so I was like calling my

parents and I was like I was I was on the phone to them crying just repeatedly saying I did it. I did it. I did it. Mom

and dad I did it. That's all I kept saying for like like a half an hour at times. And you know that that wasn't

times. And you know that that wasn't even a negative emotion. It wasn't like the the crying wasn't like this unpleasant experience. It was this

unpleasant experience. It was this almost massive relief like this. I was

getting this thing off my chest and you don't want to be carrying too much around. You know, emotions are like are

around. You know, emotions are like are like these bags that you like these these things. They're like these bags

these things. They're like these bags that you carry around with you and you're on life is a long old journey.

You're going to be taking it step by step, day by day for maybe 80 to 100 years. And you know the the the ease of

years. And you know the the the ease of that journey is determined by how heavy your load is. Don't think in a weird way about that sentence, but you know what I mean. We're not talking about anything

mean. We're not talking about anything inappropriate here. We're talking about,

inappropriate here. We're talking about, you know, carrying heavy bags. And

sometimes, you know, it feels pretty good to just let one of those bags go. And you do that through talking and you do that through emotional release. And it's

valuable. And that's the mental health thing. The physical health thing is

thing. The physical health thing is referring more to your body. Um, I would I would say that this comes down to uh a couple of things. I'm going to try

and reduce this down to its first principles for a second here, but just bear with me. I would say we have inflammation, cardiovascular, and we have strength.

Um, there's a lot to health, sleep as well, I suppose. So, we'll

start with the sleep thing. This is

easy. Go to bed at the same time every night. Wake up at the same time every

night. Wake up at the same time every day. That's really how you get the sleep

day. That's really how you get the sleep thing in tow. You have a routine. Try to

not eat three hours before you sleep. No

screens an hour before bed and you're pretty good. That's 80% of the way

pretty good. That's 80% of the way there. Are there 101 supplements you can

there. Are there 101 supplements you can take? A billion and one products you can

take? A billion and one products you can buy, 100 ways you can optimize your bedroom. Yes. But what we're looking for

bedroom. Yes. But what we're looking for is the asymmetries here. The the things that we can do that move the needle the most that require the least amount of effort, which is don't eat before bed.

Don't sit in front of incredibly bright the irony. Don't sit in front of

the irony. Don't sit in front of incredibly bright lights recording videos before bed or you know on a screen and go to bed and wake up at the same time. If you do those things,

same time. If you do those things, you're probably going to sleep well and you know you'll if you sleep well, everything else gets easier. Sleep for

eight hours a night, nine if you have to. Sleep as much as you can for as long

to. Sleep as much as you can for as long as you can, as deep as you can with as little interruption as you can because I would I will take an extra hour of sleep over an extra hour of work any day of the any day of the week. Because an

extra hour of sleep makes every other hour throughout the day a little bit better. And so you get a better return

better. And so you get a better return if you spread your extra hour across the rest of the day, if that makes sense.

But the next thing to do with physical health is inflammation.

specifically inflammation of your gut and your microbiome. So, people don't really realize this, but have you ever experienced brain fog before? You know

that thing that happens where like it feels like there's this weird like cloud in front of your eyes and things are kind of like slow and foggy and you've just got this weird sort of like fuzzy

brain symptom thing. Well, that's called brain fog. And what that basically is is

brain fog. And what that basically is is it's a representation it's it's your body's way of communicating inflammation in your gut. So in your body, you have something called a vagus nerve, which

connects your gut to your brain. And

it's kind of like the mainline mechanism that communicates between your brain stem and the state of your gut. And so

if you eat something that doesn't agree with you, that makes you feel slow and foggy and lethargic, it's the vagus nerve that pings that up to the brain and says, "Hello, brain. Um, Charlie's

being a bit of a bloody idiot and he's just given us 3,000 calories of cedos, sugars, and processed foods for us to deal with. And it's bit mission critical

deal with. And it's bit mission critical down here. So, if you can just give him

down here. So, if you can just give him this really annoying state of fog to just stop him from doing anything so we can just deal with this for like 5 hours, that would be great. Cheers.

Thanks. Kind regards, the gut. That's

how the vagus nerve works. And if you've ever heard of that saying before, you are what you eat. You might never have given it much thought, but you are what you eat because what are you? Well, you

are an organic. You are organic material. You're flesh, blood, and bone.

material. You're flesh, blood, and bone.

Now, we could get into the the slightly more spiritual argument that you're a little bit more than the physical state of your being, your soul. Sure. But

really, what your body is, which is what you are from a biological standpoint, is organic matter. And everything that you

organic matter. And everything that you have produced and your body has sort of you know through meiosis and mitosis the cell division mechanisms has come from what you've consumed because the way

that your body produces cells and grows i.e. produces skin cells, liver cells,

i.e. produces skin cells, liver cells, blood cells, brain cells and well you might be lacking a few of those but to be fair you've made it through 38 minutes of a video so there is still hope for you. Anything that produces

cells requires energy converted through the mitochondria mitochondria at a cellular level. And where does energy

cellular level. And where does energy come from? Your food. So what this means

come from? Your food. So what this means is what you eat is what you burn to duplicate and reproduce your literal being in existence. And if you have a

fire and you put logs on that fire that are covered in toxins and paint and all sorts of bad things, when you burn those

logs, they burn what we call an unclean flame. So you if you were if you had a

flame. So you if you were if you had a fire in your room right now and the logs you were putting on the fire were laced with rat poison and tar and chemical

paints and stuff and plastic, the flame that burns would be horrible and you wouldn't want to be in that room because the fire's burning this horrible stuff and it's like all the toxins are in the air. That's how it works when you eat

air. That's how it works when you eat [ __ ] food. Because what your body has to do is it has to burn an unclean flame.

And it doesn't feel very nice to burn an unclean flame. And that the way that

unclean flame. And that the way that your body and your brain communicates that is through brain fog and also through a myriad of other issues. So

like things like eczema, things like psoriasis, things like um what's it called? arthritis, swollen joints, which

called? arthritis, swollen joints, which is basically arthritis, right? Um things

like depression, things like anxiety, like the I cannot begin to explain how many symptoms physical and mental that

you suffer from are because of what you eat. Prime prime example, I've been

eat. Prime prime example, I've been carnivore, which means that I eat nothing but eggs and meat and the odd bit of avocado for basically a year. And

in that time, I haven't got sick once.

My depression and anxiety and mental health has been perfect, as in I don't have any of those mental health disorders. I'm emotionally stable. I

disorders. I'm emotionally stable. I

don't get any weird like infections or like skin problems or like pains or anything like that. Like my body's burning a very, very clean flame. And

so, what we want to learn to do as you get through your 20s is you want to try your best to eat the healthiest you can.

And the simplest way to do this, and you probably already know this, is to just eat single ingredient foods. You don't

have to go down the route of becoming this carnivorey elimination diet freak like me, although maybe you want to do that. Just eat single food ingredients

that. Just eat single food ingredients and avoid sugar at all costs and seed oils and processed foods. And if you do that,

what will happen is your body is built to digest single ingredient foods. Think

about this with me for a second here.

like when you are when the way your body has evolved, it was on the African plane. So, you know, hundreds of

plane. So, you know, hundreds of thousands or however many years ago it was um you know, we were hunter gatherers, which meant we would have eaten a lot of meat. We would have eaten berries and whatever we could find and

like very simple carbs. And what that means is your body is is is built to deal with foods um that are single ingredient and just one thing at a time.

So, oh, I'm going to we've just found this berry these berries, we're going to eat these. or we've just found these

eat these. or we've just found these weird little sweet potato things. We're

going to eat these. We've just killed this bison. We're going to eat that. Or

this bison. We're going to eat that. Or

we've just found some honey. We're going

to eat that. Like it's it's single ingredient. Your body's built to just

ingredient. Your body's built to just deal with like one thing at a time.

Maybe two things at once if you're like eating like meat and then berries and then eggs at the same time. But the

point is is that all of these um these vessels for for for um for what would we call it like nutritional consumption are singular.

And your body likes that and it's built to deal with that. But when you eat like I mean dude like if you go and drink like a Monster energy drink or something and you're basically consuming something that is as far away from a single

ingredient food as possible where it's got like 30 different chemicals in it.

What do you think's going to happen?

Like you know people eat this [ __ ] and they feel so [ __ ] and they feel so chaotic and out of control and emotional and they don't make the connection

between the two. It's cause and effect.

If you eat like [ __ ] you will feel like [ __ ] Like you just people are so like all over the place and they're drinking these things and it it it goes beyond

your um dietary um your dietary realm as well because you know if you're vaping, if you're smoking, if you're drinking alcohol, if you're doing drugs, like all of these things are foreign to your body

and your body is not doesn't have the capacity to deal with them. And this is why when you do stupid things like do drugs, you get these weird crazy symptoms. And what what your body is

desperately trying to do is is is if you ingest like a chemical like a drug or something, what your body is trying to do is basically just get rid of it and it getting rid of it. The flame is burning and you're experiencing the

flame with all of these symptoms, you know? So if you get drunk, you you you

know? So if you get drunk, you you you get weird and all like things go out of control. Or if you do like magic

control. Or if you do like magic mushrooms, you start hallucinating and you you induce these responses. Your

body has kind of no choice but to produce them their symptoms, right, of your body desperately trying to get rid of this stuff that it doesn't want to have and then you urinate it out because your kidneys process it, whatever,

right? Um, but that is in effect the

right? Um, but that is in effect the easiest this is simplest advice I can give you to to better your health. Just

eat single ingredients food in single ingredient foods and sleep like an actual normal human being like properly.

And if you do those things, um, your health is going to be way better. And

what that will allow you to do is it will make you less emotional, which means that when you're trying to build businesses or careers or a career that in incites and induces financial freedom

into your future, you're less emotional.

You make better decisions, you have more energy and more stamina to deal with problems as they arise, and you know, you're basically more optimal and more efficient. There is a reason why it's

efficient. There is a reason why it's 11:43 p.m. and I can hold a conducive

11:43 p.m. and I can hold a conducive singular train of thought for 45 minutes. It's because today I had

minutes. It's because today I had nothing to eat but 3,000 calories of clean meat and eggs and that's really all I ate today and there was nothing else going into my body except from hot

sauce cuz I'm a sucker for hot sauce and I haven't got rid of that one yet. Um,

but that that's the consumption thing.

The same thing is true for your mind because you are what you eat on a biological level but you are what you consume

on a psychological level. And what do I mean by consume? I mean content. What do

you watch? So are you watching short form content? Are you watching brain

form content? Are you watching brain rock streamers? Are you watching like

rock streamers? Are you watching like gambling videos? Are you watching like

gambling videos? Are you watching like stupid stuff? Like you watching gaming

stupid stuff? Like you watching gaming videos? like it it should it should come

videos? like it it should it should come as no surprises to you that like you you are what you consume and and that is ex that is true on a biological and psychological level. It really is

psychological level. It really is there's no other way around it. Um, and

so, you know, the the only way that you can produce life, I don't mean on a on a sexual level, the only way you can produce your life is by is by receiving

information from your environment, synthesizing it in your brain and outputting it into your actions. And the

reason that so many people have shitty lives and shitty existences is because the only information they have available to synthesize into action is cancerous

brain rot. So when I was 18, what I did

brain rot. So when I was 18, what I did is I read a book every single week.

During COVID, I think I read like what a couple of hundred books or something.

And so over over the course of my, you know, earlier years, I think I've read like how many books I read? Probably

like 500, 600 or something. And I've

listened to endless hours of business podcasts and educational videos. So when

I have to go and make decisions in my business or in my life, I synthesize all of this information and spit out an answer that is usually more accurate or more conducive towards the achievement or accomplishment of the goal that I

desire. But when you try and go and make

desire. But when you try and go and make money or when you try and go and build a business, you can the only thing that you can pull on is all the knowledge that you have. And if you spent the last

20 years just sc just break just just just just just scrolling through just [ __ ] and random stuff the then there's nothing you can't you can't

synthesize that into anything useful.

You can't orient yourself or know what to do or what decisions to take or what actions to make because you you haven't got anything to pull from. You know,

it's like trying to cook a meal. The

quality of the meal is determined by the quality of the ingredients. And so if you're trying to go through life and all you've ever consumed is just idiotic stuff and maybe one or two self-help books that you I that you align to your

identity far too much because you read once when you were 15.

That's all you've got to pull on. And

then basically you're trying to make all these decisions through some shallow trit self-help agenda that you received when you were a younger kid that you don't even understand.

You are what you consume. So stop

consuming this crap and start reading.

you know, when I have to make a decision in my business, I get to pull on tens of thousands of hours of um knowledge that I've learned from history, that I've learned from biology. You know, you're

watching this video right now and I'm pulling random [ __ ] out of the air. I'm

I'm pulling out stuff to do with like your vag nerve in your gut and then we're going over here to like history and then we're going down here to geography and here to literature and like here to psychology and you know

here here here and here and all these little things that I'm just what I'm doing as I make this video is I'm unconsciously synthesizing sensory information that has been inputed into

my brain over the last 27 years of my existence. And I'm I'm I'm synthesizing

existence. And I'm I'm I'm synthesizing that in and it's it's being articulated through my through my pros, my verbal pros in a manner that is is hopefully helpful. And when you can learn to do

helpful. And when you can learn to do that, it's a pretty good skill to have to to make a lot of money. Trust me, I would know cuz I make a lot of money.

Anyway, jokes aside. So that's the that's the health thing. So at this point, we know the wealth thing, which is basically don't spend money, don't be an idiot, and increase your earning

power by being the best at what you do.

Um, then we have the health thing which is basically take care of your mental health by talking to people that want to listen and reduce inflammation by eating proper foods and basically just sleep proper. The other thing to do with your

proper. The other thing to do with your health is exercise. We're not going to get into this cuz it's very simple. Just

work out.

Like become strong and cardio increase the fitness of your cardiovascular system and you probably aren't going to go wrong. Do it three, four, five times

go wrong. Do it three, four, five times a week. maybe integrate a sport to make

a week. maybe integrate a sport to make it more interesting for you and addictive and just do it all the time and you'll be pretty healthy. But the

main thing is the the exercising part is actually quite simple because when you're very well rested from sleep and when you're eating the right foods, your body wants to exercise and it wants to

exert, you know, um it wants to exert its like physical capacity onto the universe because it has so much like spare energy left over. So, it wants to sort of release some of that. The third

thing to getting your 20s right is your relationships. Um, because what I can

relationships. Um, because what I can tell you from experience is you can become rich.

You can become healthy, but if you haven't got the right people, there's no point. Because let me share this with

point. Because let me share this with you. Let me ask you this question.

you. Let me ask you this question.

What's the point in having all these things if you have no one to share them with?

And just let that sink in for a second.

What's the point in having all this money and having this lean, mean, healthy machine of a body and mind if there's no one around that you can share it with, experience it with, or who

cares?

It's all for nothing, right? When you

get rich and when you get healthy, you start to learn and realize the importance of social connection. And the

reason I'm leaving this one till last is because what I did, and I'm not saying this is healthy or optimal by any means.

I'm just telling you what I did in my experiences. I sacrificed my social um

experiences. I sacrificed my social um life for a good few years and I sacrificed my love life and my romantic

life for a long time to get rich. And it

was intentional. I went I went dark mode, mole mode, monk mode, whatever mode you want to call it, where I I turned my back on all of my close

friends and my girlfriend and not really my family so much, but because I was still living with them. But for the first two years of my entrepreneurial career, I didn't talk to anyone. Didn't

have any friends. I didn't have any hobbies. I didn't go anywhere. I didn't

hobbies. I didn't go anywhere. I didn't

see anyone. I didn't do anything. Didn't

go to parties. Between 18 and 21, I spent three years in the trenches with no one. And that made me very rich. I

no one. And that made me very rich. I

became a millionaire at 21 because of that. Not because I didn't socialize.

that. Not because I didn't socialize.

I'm not saying that, but there was a lot more nuance to it than that. But what

that allowed me to do is it allowed me to learn and realize who my true friends were. Because when I came up for air,

were. Because when I came up for air, when I by that I mean when I came up to socialize when I was like 20 21 um I'd

lost 95% of my friends. But there were a couple of guys um left over who I'm still friends with today. Um most

notably my friend Will, my friend Jack, my friend Vince, my friend Tom. Um and

then there's there's a few more but like my business partner Bo, but we we were working together so we we were already seeing each other anyway. Um,

and there are there are more friends, there are more people that I love. Um,

but you know, those are the guys I see the most, right? And and those guys, they I kind of went back and I was like, "Hey guys, like how you doing?" And I hadn't spoken to them for like 3 years.

And they were like, "Oh, yeah, good.

Like, what's going on, man?" And, you know, now we're like all really good mates. And those are people that were

mates. And those are people that were kind of like, "Yeah, I get it. Like, you

know, you said you were going to do this thing and you went and did it and I have no resentment towards you doing it and now you've done it." Because at this point, I was a millionaire. And a lot of my friends at that point were still um struggling and and still like you know

not not doing very well with their careers or with their finances. And

there was no resentment or jealousy or anything like that. And all of my closest friends that I think about today um were people that I met when I was 16.

So I met them in in college or high like the end of high school as you call it in America. And um I connected with a lot

America. And um I connected with a lot of people at that time in my life. But,

you know, the the four or five guys that I'm still really good mates with today, um, they're they're still around and and they're they they're friends with me for me, not for my money or because of what I have, but they're friends with me

because like we had a good we had a meaningful connection and shared the same value system. And I actually now work with three of them as well. So, two

of them are the sales um professionals in our company and the other one um my friend Will is head of research and development for our company and you know

that's pretty cool and I get to build with them and you know I love that and there's there's challenges and and and things that bad things that can happen with when you hire friends you don't do it the right way. Um but I've got good

relationships.

What I'm saying is what you kind of want to do is test your friendships by temporarily. I mean, this is what I did.

temporarily. I mean, this is what I did.

I'm not I I don't want to recommend people do this because it might not end well, but it ended well for me. You you

can test your friendships by saying no.

So, when your mates ask you to come out drinking or come and smoke that spliff with us or come and play these video games with us or come and do this or come to this party or, you know, come on

this trip, say no. Say, "Sorry, I'm working." The

say no. Say, "Sorry, I'm working." The

ones that you don't want are the ones that say, "Oh, you think you're better than us or you think you're too good for us? [ __ ] off." You do not want those

us? [ __ ] off." You do not want those people in your life. What you want is the people that say, "Hey, man. No

worries. I get it. Do your thing and I'll see you later." Um, those are the friends that you want and you know, you can you you'll see it in some of them where you know, you want people that understand that you're doing your thing

and that they want to do their own thing as well and that they're on a trajectory. That's what you look for in

trajectory. That's what you look for in a friend is you look for potential. You

look for trajectory, not potential that you can use for your own commercial gain. I'm not talking about like that.

gain. I'm not talking about like that.

What I'm talking about is, you know, when you you you meet someone and they've just they've got it. I see this in my brother. My brother's 18 and um I

met one of his friends once um who um he was I went home to see my family and we were watching the um the European um football finals. It was England versus I

football finals. It was England versus I don't even know can't remember. Wasn't

that important. Well, it was but I can't remember. And one of my brother's

remember. And one of my brother's friends was there watching the football with us and um he was talking about his plans for the future. He was 18, 17, 18.

and he was very switched on, very articulate, very determined, very intentional with his life and his future and clearly had his head screwed on straight. And I said to my brother, I

straight. And I said to my brother, I said, "That's a friend that you want to keep cuz that guy is going to go somewhere because he wants to go somewhere." Um, and you know, I've I've

somewhere." Um, and you know, I've I've when I was younger, there was lots of guys my age who just wanted to like [ __ ] around and live these honistic, expedient experiences, which is fine,

and I'm not judging them for it, but you should be able to recognize yourself in these other people. You have to be you have to be willing to understand that like there's this weird elapsement of

character in your life between having friends and having a circle and there's no one for this weird period of time and then you make it and then you can start becoming friends with people that have

made it. And this is this is strange

made it. And this is this is strange because Chris Williamson talks about this in his podcast where like there's this weird lonely stage in your life where when you're when you set when you set out on your career or when you

become really invested in becoming wealthy and successful, you automatically kind of reject everyone around you because they they don't get it and they don't want it. But you're

not successful yet. So you can't really befriend and connect with the people that have made it. And so there's this weird like, you know, this this two two-year period, 18-month period, two three year period where you don't really relate to anyone and no one really

understands you because you can't really connect with other people on the same journey because they're just going they're they're locked in and they're in the zone and they're not talking to anyone. And that's how I did it. Did it

anyone. And that's how I did it. Did it

for two years. Um, so that's the first thing is your friends. Pick them wisely.

It's better to have a few friends that matter a lot to you than than a lot in my opinion. And I'd rather have um very

my opinion. And I'd rather have um very few friends than um than bad friends if that makes sense. So you don't really have to look into it much more than like people's actions. So like what are they

people's actions. So like what are they doing? Like how do they talk? Like you

doing? Like how do they talk? Like you

know what are they doing with their lives? Like what do they want? Um and

lives? Like what do they want? Um and

you can make that judgment. The second

thing is your family. And the third thing is your partner and your romantic and your love life. So, your family, um, I don't think there's any group of

people that are more important to me than my family. I really, there's really not. Like, as far as the the hierarchy

not. Like, as far as the the hierarchy of my importance from a social perspective goes, my family's up there.

Now, I know that a lot of people, a lot of you watching this will struggle to um, you will struggle with your familial relationship. Some of you might not have

relationship. Some of you might not have the best relationship with your mother or your father or maybe you fell out with your brother. Let me tell you that

it is worth every ounce of pain and effort that you have to go to to re rekindle those relationships and make them as meaningful as you possibly can

because you only get one mother and you only get one father and you don't get many siblings.

And you know, maybe you have fallen out or maybe you resent family members or something but it's worth taking the ego hit to try and rebuild that at least in some capacity.

And it might it might never be perfect.

You might never have this wonderful relationship with the people that brought you up or that you grew up with.

Um, but forgive as much as you can and seek forgiveness as much as you can because if you're in a bad state with someone, it's very likely that you're just as much to blame as they are. Now

obviously this is nuance like if you were abused or something then I'm not saying that you have to forgive them but try your best to have good relationships with your family and make sure that as

you become successful and as you work that your relationships with the people closest to you do not wither away because they're very important. Primary

example, when I was in my 2-year um dark mode, when I was just not talking to anyone and working my ass off and basically dying in the process, I kept my relationship with my brother and my

sister um really tight. So, my brother, I would still see him every day. He was

I I would have been 18 at this point, so he would have been I think 12 or 13 or something. So, I'd still play with him

something. So, I'd still play with him every evening. like I would still like,

every evening. like I would still like, you know, listen to music with him and take him out to like the trampoline parks and stuff and like I that relationship is one of my most cherished

is one of the most cherished things in my life and I wanted to keep it good so I did and same thing with my sister and same thing with my mother and my father and I kept those things going because

there's nothing more important. It's

like you know there's there is nothing more important so you know on your grind you're going to be on your hustle you're going to be tired. You're going to be burned out. You're going to be stressed.

burned out. You're going to be stressed.

You're going to be exhausted. You're

going to be sad. You're going to you're going to go through these massive waves of emotions and you're going to need support and you're going to need to lean on people and you're going to be need you're going to need to be there to have

other people lean on you in your home.

Um it's important. Okay? So, don't

overlook the importance of a strong relationship with your parents or your siblings or other people that you would consider family because it's crucial. It

really is. Um, and I I think that we don't realize this as young men because until you're I can imagine this to be true. Until you're a father and

until you're a husband, you don't you don't really appreciate what it takes to be one and how much that means, if that makes sense. Um,

makes sense. Um, and then the third thing is your romantic life and your your love life.

Um, I've had a few relationships in my life, um, that admittedly I may have not handled that well because, you know, I was working really hard and I didn't

make time for my relationships, which, you know, is a is a cold thing to say, but I don't necessarily regret it because I'm happy now and I ended up where I am. But I'm sure some of my exes may disagree with that statement, but

their hearts were in the right places for sure, but I just wasn't there for them and that wasn't good. But

I get this question a lot from people on like Instagram and stuff who DM me um like young guys like, "Oh, should I have a girlfriend or not?" The answer is I

don't know because this is something that I'm still trying to figure out myself. So, I'm

single. I've been single now for two and a half years. Um I know exactly what I want. So, this is this is my philosophy

want. So, this is this is my philosophy for um building a romantic relationship.

You can take this piece of advice with a pinch of salt because this is this is the only thing in this video that I'm about to discuss without a serious air of certainty because it hasn't worked

yet. But this is my thesis.

yet. But this is my thesis.

What you want to do is become successful and build your status or whatever you want to call it, build your power to the point where you have choice.

Because when you are a multi-millionaire, when you take care of your health and you know you you've you've been through this journey, you become a little interesting because you

know you've got something going for you.

You you become confident. And what

happens when you have those things is you get to choose. Um in the same way that if a woman takes care of her herself and you know is is really nice

and like really pretty and gorgeous then she gets to choose. she has a choice of men because a lot of men would like to date her. When you're a

date her. When you're a multi-millionaire and you know, you look okay and you're in good health, you naturally attract a lot of women as

you'd expect. Not because women are

you'd expect. Not because women are these nasty, cruel gold diggers. No,

it's because you have an air of confidence and status and authority about you. And this is just the truth.

about you. And this is just the truth.

Like I'm, you know, a lot of guys struggle with confidence when it comes to girls, but I'm convinced the reason that they struggle with confidence when it comes to girls is because they don't have anything to deliver or give. They

like they're like, "Oh, I'm not going to approach her. I'm not going to like talk

approach her. I'm not going to like talk to her. I'm not going to try and like r

to her. I'm not going to try and like r her up because they know that this girl who's really attractive that they want to talk to might just leave them because they haven't got anything going for them." Now, that you could argue is a

them." Now, that you could argue is a very sad way to look at dating. And

maybe that's just me, you know, trauma dumping onto you, right? Because that's

certainly what I was before. But my

theory is put yourself in a position where you can take on a the responsibility of a girlfriend. And what that basically

girlfriend. And what that basically looks like for me is having the financial resources to take care of her, being in a healthy state so that you

know she is, how do I say this without sounding weird? She's attracted to you.

sounding weird? She's attracted to you.

So you have a, you know, a nice attractive physique and you can basically, you know, you're fit and healthy. Um, you need to be in a good

healthy. Um, you need to be in a good emotional state and you need to have a good good emotional control because that makes a pretty good partner, a man who can control his anger, control his emotions and be empathetic and talk and

listen because someone else has talked and listened to him. And when you have those things, like you probably make a pretty good partner. Now, is this this isn't to say that you can't be a good

partner if you're not rich and fit and healthy, because I'm I'm sure plenty of people would disagree with me on this.

And like I said, this is uncertain territory for me. I'm still navigating this. What happens when you get rich is

this. What happens when you get rich is you start secondguessing romantic partnerships. And this is a problem

partnerships. And this is a problem transparently that I deal with where you know if I meet someone I naturally say to myself okay well are they interested

in me for me or for the financial resources that I've acred that I stupidly display through my YouTube videos my personal brand or just my

speech by being an idiot and that's a hard thing to navigate. So, I can't quite give you the last piece of this puzzle, but what I can tell you is that

the chances of you being in a relationship for the long term with the woman that you started with are very slim. And the reason behind that, the

slim. And the reason behind that, the reason why the day one thing struggles to work is because what's going to happen in order for you to become

successful and get rich and do all these things, you need to change. You're going

to have to change your value systems. You're going to have to change your behavior. You're going to have to change

behavior. You're going to have to change the way you make decisions. You're going

to have to change your social circles.

Every fiber of your being, every neuron in your brain is going to change and fire differently. And this is a massive

fire differently. And this is a massive issue because she probably isn't okay because most girls um and most I'm

using a generalizing sweeping statement to categorize females and a lot of people don't like when people do that.

So I'm saying most girls don't change as rapidly as you would because you are a weird guy. You know, you've just spent

weird guy. You know, you've just spent an hour and five minutes listening to some dude you don't really know anything about with blue light blockers and a dressing gown with some stoic philosopher in the background talk about

how you can improve your life for an hour at midnight. That's not normal. So,

girls can't relate to you. And what this means is you're going to have to go through some serious radical change in your life. And when you have a partner,

your life. And when you have a partner, a lot of the time your partner might not appreciate that change because they love you for you and they don't want you to spend 80 hours working and not be able to take them out on dates because you're

so exhausted.

Talk from experience, right? I'm not

perfect in this regard and I still haven't got this thing figured out transparently. Um, but may I pray to God

transparently. Um, but may I pray to God that the right woman comes along and when she does I'll get married. But my

philosophy, I tried the relationship thing. it didn't work. Am I trauma

thing. it didn't work. Am I trauma dumping onto you and projecting my misfortune onto you? Perhaps that's the case.

But just be careful and do not get anyone pregnant.

In fact, I could probably summarize this video in in two two sentences. In your

20s, don't get anyone pregnant and don't go to prison. If you can avoid those two things, then you haven't done any irreparable damage that you couldn't fix in your 30s. Now, when I say don't get

anyone pregnant, I mean don't get anyone pregnant that you're not willing to commit to for the next 50 years. Um, and

you won't really know if you want to commit to someone for the next 50 years unless you've known them for a few.

Okay? So,

and I know that this is a very crude way to end this video. Just use protection and don't be an idiot because you know you might get someone pregnant and then you might be liable

for a child both financially and emotionally which is fine because that's called being a father and that's a good thing but it should probably be through your choice with someone that you love.

Otherwise that child's going to be all [ __ ] up and weird because you're absent and didn't really want them and they're just a stain on your existence and that's not a very good thing to have. A lot of people make this mistake.

have. A lot of people make this mistake.

Second of that is just don't do anything illegal. Don't do anything that could

illegal. Don't do anything that could put you in prison. As tempting, as gratifying as it may be in the short term, don't do it. Because you might [ __ ] up your 20ies in the same way that

you [ __ ] up your teenage years and you have you can have you have another stand to make when you're 30. But if you've got a bunch of kids running around that you don't want and a partner that you fundamentally hate that you're tied to

because of that and a criminal record, it gets a pretty tough to dig yourself out of that hole. So that's how to navigate your 20ies. And I'm still

trying to do this. Like, you know, I'm I'm still down there in the in the cave with you with a with a torch. I've just

mapped it. I've just mapped the next seven years for you. But I'm still I'm still going and I'm still struggling my way through that cave and I still don't know what's next. And there might be some things in this video that I've been wrong about and some things that I've

probably been right about. But I hope this video finds you well and I hope it gives you some level of faith or confidence that you can navigate this big ball of chaos, this weird metal

object that you've just created and amalgamated by accident. Um, and I'll leave you with this in closing. It's

worth it.

It is worth it. It might not seem it at the time, but going through the pain and the struggle and the suffering to become successful um and get your [ __ ] together

is worth it. It is worth every ounce of suffering that you could put into it. It

really is. So yeah, that's me. Ciao. Hey

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