humble yourself

The most confident people I know are also the most humble people I know. When

you truly love what you're doing or you love yourself, you don't feel the need to prove that to anybody. Push off of the bottom. Start again and say, "Hey,

the bottom. Start again and say, "Hey, you know what? I'm going to do this in a different way now because that didn't work. So, let's keep going." And that is

work. So, let's keep going." And that is what humbling yourself is. Maybe I'm not perfect. Maybe I'm not the best in the

perfect. Maybe I'm not the best in the room, but I'm going to believe in myself regardless. Fail. Put yourself in

regardless. Fail. Put yourself in embarrassing situations. do that thing,

embarrassing situations. do that thing, take that risk, be critiqued. I care

about my dream and I care about achieving that and I care about going through the experiences necessary to bring me there, even if they're humbling.

Hi everybody and welcome back to another episode of Flowering Philosophies. I am

your host Annaya. Today I wanted to discuss humility with you. Being humble,

the lack of humility? What does being humble even mean? Why should we be humble? I'm currently drinking my

humble? I'm currently drinking my favorite jasmine green tea. Smells so

good. I wish you guys could smell this.

Just imagine that jasmine aroma. I'm not

sure if you're a jasmine green tea fan, but if you are, you would be very happy sitting here. I have quite a few gladius

sitting here. I have quite a few gladius here. Gladiuses. I gladius. Glad I don't

here. Gladiuses. I gladius. Glad I don't even know. Okay, you know what? We call

even know. Okay, you know what? We call

ourselves a flowering philosopher. We

don't even know how to say the name of these flowers. Pardon my lack of

these flowers. Pardon my lack of knowledge. Okay, let's see. My phone

knowledge. Okay, let's see. My phone

matches them. Gladial gladiolus. Yeah,

sword lily. Okay, maybe we could be saying sword lily to make things easier.

They're a plant within the iris family known for their sword-shaped leaves.

Sword lily is it's cute, but wait, gladiololis. Gladiololis.

gladiololis. Gladiololis.

That's it. Gladiololis. Okay, so I have some wonderful gladiololis. Gladioli.

Stop. I have some wonderful gladiololis here with us. Um, I've used them in quite a few arrangements because they might be my favorite flower shapewise.

There's nothing like sticking a few of these in a vase and just letting them open in your home. Like these last me a while. Some of these little I think

while. Some of these little I think these are like spray roses. Just the

little tiny roses.

They smell so good. Give it a whiff.

Nothing like that. This is called That's called St. John's wart, right? Wow. Look

called St. John's wart, right? Wow. Look

at me really questioning my knowledge today. We're really learning something

today. We're really learning something here. Wow. I wish I could see what they

here. Wow. I wish I could see what they look like when they flower. They've

never flowered when I've bought them, but in nature, that is what they look like. I'm going to be making an

like. I'm going to be making an arrangement here with you as we discuss humility. Okay. The reason that I was

humility. Okay. The reason that I was thinking about this initially is because I have these wonderful little cousins that have felt like baby siblings to me most of my life, and it's just so weird

to see them like 18 and 19. Like, I

remember being that age not long ago at all because it wasn't long ago. like

that five, four year age gap is not really as dramatic once you all start to get older. I am watching these younger

get older. I am watching these younger people in my life start to go out and follow their dreams. It also is reminding me kind of where my head was

at when I was 18 or 19 and how intimidating it felt to go live out my dream or try to make it happen or trying to sort of subscribe to societal norms

while also trying to commit to something that sounded relatively outlandish. And

I was thinking about that in my mind just in terms of giving advice to like the people I care about most who are a bit younger than me in that position trying to pursue creativity while also

balancing school work all these things.

I don't like using the word realistic.

I'm never going to sit here and say you should be realistic. But I am going to sit here and say yeah you should humble yourself. It's a good thing to face

yourself. It's a good thing to face reality and understand it and understand our place in it and our perspective. I

see a lot of people glamorizing the idea of doing what they love and living their dream and associating what they're doing now or the work that they're doing in

college or right out of it or that service job or that retail job or whatever. They're associating that as

whatever. They're associating that as different from their dream or where they wish they were headed. I worked really closely with all these entrepreneurs. I

remember getting the advice of drop out of college. Why do you want to do that?

of college. Why do you want to do that?

Unless you're going to use your degree, don't do it. If that is your belief system and that helps you move towards what you want, I will never criticize that. For me, I found that to be just a

that. For me, I found that to be just a bit confusing because it was something that I valued. Even if I did want to create my own business or whatever, those experiences are something that I

still wish to have as a part of my journey. and if anything to help me grow

journey. and if anything to help me grow as a person. There is a journey. There

is a journey to reaching that dream and it requires a lot of hard work. Yeah, we

can set that hard work up for ourselves but sometimes we don't even know how to commit to something every single day.

Sometimes we don't have enough discipline. Sometimes we don't have a

discipline. Sometimes we don't have a reason to focus on something to get a task done to be shown responsibility to save money. I met people. I went places.

save money. I met people. I went places.

I did things that yeah, in the moment I was like, "Wow, this is really not what I want to be doing with my life." I used it as, "Okay, this is going to help me learn how to do this. Okay, this is opening me up a little bit more to this

type of community or this type of art or this type of thing or this type of travel or this type of idea or this type of connection or I'm seeing this person do this, how can I do that?" If I was

not exposed to those working environments, that workplace, if I was not building a team with the people I was, if I was not learning leadership skills, sales skills, all these things,

I don't know who I would be. And I don't think that I would be very passionate about my own business because I wouldn't have the knowledge or care to do so.

I've had to learn my responsibility up until this point. and going through humbling experiences or being in environments or situations that I didn't want to be in forever were part of the

journey there. One time I had a

journey there. One time I had a conversation with like a father figure of mine, a very very very close family friend. He has worked so hard his entire

friend. He has worked so hard his entire life. He's come from circumstances that

life. He's come from circumstances that did not guarantee life or success out of that. I remember he told me when I was

that. I remember he told me when I was working a job that I felt sort of unhappy in and kind of lost with and I knew that I didn't want to be doing forever. I told him that and he talked

forever. I told him that and he talked about how he felt the same way when he was my age and how he didn't know what he wanted to do. He just knew that he had to show up to whatever he was doing

with his best foot forward with a smile on his face with love in his heart. And

as cheesy as that sounds, channeling your passion or your dreams or whatever it is in front of you, whatever it is that you're doing and how you're spending your life every day, your

current environment, you got to bridge the gap between what it is you're saying that you want and what you are living now. If your dreams and aspirations are

now. If your dreams and aspirations are not existing in your everyday experience, how are you going to bring them here? You have to bring that

them here? You have to bring that attitude. You have to show up as your

attitude. You have to show up as your best self no matter what you're doing.

And that path will be revealed to you over time of what you need to do next.

This family friend of mine, pretty sure he's close to retirement and he's been working a job that he's very proud of and it's the job that he got more recently in life, nothing he was doing

all those years before. But he was telling me that he didn't regret any of those moments before and he went through a lot. says he doesn't regret any of it

a lot. says he doesn't regret any of it because in every one of those seasons he showed up as himself, as that hard worker, as that leader, no matter what position or role. And eventually, it

landed him that he now does get to just be that incredible leader and have a wonderful position that he only has because he showed up as that no matter what his position or no matter what his

situation was in the past. He was just stating that whatever you put your heart and devotion into, you will get something positive back no matter what.

Even if you hate that job or the people there or whatever, you can take something from that and keep going. He

said, "Ania, be humble. Put your heart into it and the path will reveal itself." Hearing that from somebody who

itself." Hearing that from somebody who clearly has lived it, I went and I ran with that and I said, "Okay, I'm going to live in a delusion." I hate when people say it's so delusional to believe

in yourselves because it's delusional to be expecting and living the same reality every single day and thinking that some change is going to come. No, you are the change. We have to be the change.

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video. I was constantly reinforcing these positive beliefs that no one around me was really encouraging. You

look crazy. I understand. I telling you, I have awareness and I know what it's like to seem like you're being totally delusional when everyone around you is complaining about very real things that

we're all facing. And so, it's hard to just show up to your service job with like a huge smile on your face and feeling so positive and happy about life. But that's what I did. I whether

life. But that's what I did. I whether

it was on my lunch break, whether it was before, after work, I had to walk. I

would park my car because this company sucked sucked balls. Sorry. and they did not give a they did not care about their workers. Disaster mode. I think

workers. Disaster mode. I think

everybody who worked there would say disaster mode as well. It was it was a it was hard times. Every day that I showed up there, I I took that advice of just put your heart, put your passion,

your soul into whatever it is that you're doing, and the path will reveal itself. Pertain to your

itself. Pertain to your responsibilities, but do it with a smile on your face. channel what it is that fulfills you and bring it into your everyday reality. If you're a painter

everyday reality. If you're a painter and that's what you love to do, even if you don't have time because you're working all day, maybe you're painting in the evenings, maybe you're painting in the mornings, maybe you're painting on the weekends. This is how our society

works. I know that we can't just throw

works. I know that we can't just throw everything away and just become all these artists and everything, but how are you implementing your craft into your everyday life? How are you being

reminded of that fulfillment, of that joy? You can't sit there and complain

joy? You can't sit there and complain and say, "I'm not happy in my life, and I just want to be fulfilled, and I want to be happy, but I just hate my job."

Okay, then let's bridge the realities.

Let's remind ourselves what that happiness felt like by implementing our craft. Maybe we're doing a class once a

craft. Maybe we're doing a class once a week. Maybe we are doing what we love

week. Maybe we are doing what we love more often. And how can we ignite that

more often. And how can we ignite that passion back into our lives? Endgame

goal. Bring it here. Now, I would walk into that store. I was not sharing my writing. In fact, was I even writing at

writing. In fact, was I even writing at that time? Not really. I had kind of

that time? Not really. I had kind of strayed very far from my artistic passions. But I was reminding myself,

passions. But I was reminding myself, okay, I'm saying I'm so unhappy here.

Then what do I want? What do I actually want? Instead of sitting here and

want? Instead of sitting here and complaining, I don't want this. I don't

want this job. What do I want? I was

reminding myself of that little by little each day. I was writing a little bit more. I started my YouTube channel

bit more. I started my YouTube channel again. I was making vlogs like I had

again. I was making vlogs like I had when I was young. I was just doing things that brought me that little bit of joy, finding a way to prioritize it in my life. Still, this feeling and this

belief system that I clung to that then started to drive my actions. And your

actions open up opportunity for you. On

my walk to work, I was saying affirmations that maybe other people would laugh at. I would just continue to listen, repeat, believe these things even when they were not showing up in my

reality. I just committed because I felt

reality. I just committed because I felt like I had nothing left to lose, right?

I was depressed. I was unhappy. Okay,

let's just commit to this and see.

People give up on all of that right away because they don't see it happening the first week in, the first month in, the first year in. That's why the word delusional comes in is because yes, it

does require kind of that state of I don't want to use the word disassociating, but kind of like separating yourself from the mundane complaints and negativity of your reality. It's literally like you have to

reality. It's literally like you have to turn a new switch on. How do you think something new is going to come into your life if you're not creating that belief system that's going to drive the actions

there? You are not even letting it be a

there? You are not even letting it be a reality because you're not creating that change in your mind. Create that place, that change in your mind, in your heart.

What do you want? Become familiar with it and commit to acting as if it is in your life every day or showing up as that person. and you will see the path

that person. and you will see the path reveal itself. Even if it takes time.

reveal itself. Even if it takes time.

Even if it takes time, you got to be in these situations. You have to be humbled

these situations. You have to be humbled or to be shown how to live responsibly or to be shown what you don't want or to be shown how to build the skills you do

want. Sometimes it comes from places

want. Sometimes it comes from places that seem so different from what our dreams are, but they live there. One of

the artists that I will always look up to the most was somebody I met at this job that I'm talking about. He worked so hard just to prioritize his passion.

Seeing somebody who I wish he didn't have to bend over backwards in this world just to do what he loved. Funding

your purpose in ways that are humbling how that's necessary. If you don't put yourself in situations to be told no or try again harder or you know do it this

way or critiqued or going through difficult situations in life where you must learn how to fend for yourself or to become a part of a community. I guess

the point that I'm trying to make with all that is if you put your passions and your excitement for your dreams into whatever it is around you, the path will

reveal itself. Don't give up on it and

reveal itself. Don't give up on it and stay consistent with that. You're going

to see some change. Not only will the opportunities reveal themselves, but you will meet people along the way who are going to help you learn the skills that you need to to be that person. People

think it's so impossible to live their dreams, but that ability to even dream them is the seed you need to start. If

you can believe, if you can picture something and you can bring yourself back to that fulfillment and that excitement and you can cater to that and nurture that, it will continue to grow and it will continue to reveal maybe

what little action you can take next or what place you can be in to find that resource to find that thing that but like it's going to work out the more that you believe in yourself and the

more you continue coming back to that belief no matter what. Like it is okay to humble yourself. It is okay to do the thing that is not so glamorous and exciting. It's going to show you how to

exciting. It's going to show you how to commit to something over and over and over again, which I don't think a lot of us want to do. Even though I was going through things that did not make me so happy, I was happy because I decided

that my dreams were going to come true.

It was just a decision that I lived off of every single day. I think sometimes you have to get to a breaking point to get there. Push off of the bottom and to

get there. Push off of the bottom and to start again and say, "Hey, you know what? I'm going to do this in a

what? I'm going to do this in a different way now because that didn't work. So, let's keep going. And that is

work. So, let's keep going. And that is what humbling yourself is. Realizing

that maybe I'm not perfect. Maybe I'm

not the best in the room. Maybe I'm not this, not that. But I'm going to believe in myself regardless. And I'm going to be humbled. I'm going to be shot down or

be humbled. I'm going to be shot down or I'll be critiqued or I'll be bullied or I'll try to do this and I'll learn how to do it even better or I'll go here or I'll fail or I'll cry or I'll be

imperfect, but I will do it anyways. You

got to find a way to bridge the gap.

Even if it's just your attitude and your energy and how you're showing up and presenting yourself, that is one of the most massive changes that you can make.

There is a very big difference between lacking humility and being confident. I

never want the two to get misconstrued.

I am not talking about confidence. The

most confident people I know are also the most humble people I know. When you

truly love what you're doing or you love yourself, you don't feel the need to prove that to anybody. I have just noticed that when people go out of their way to make comments or present

themselves as though they are above you, it's usually there's a sense of inadequacy there that they feel as though they need to compensate for. If

you're trying to live off of some sort of superiority complex, like you're better than somebody working a service job, whatever. If you are looking down

job, whatever. If you are looking down on other people like that, superiority complexes require a lot of fuel. They

require a lot of ego. And our ego is hungry. It needs validation. It needs

hungry. It needs validation. It needs

numbers. It needs constant reaffirming because like I said, when there's that sense of inadequacy, people want to compensate for that. So, if you're

constantly compensating for an emptiness or a lack or a feeling of inadequacy, you constantly need to fuel that superiority complex so you can stay on

top. That's why I say that if you don't

top. That's why I say that if you don't do it first, life is going to humble you. Because the second that you're not

you. Because the second that you're not getting enough fuel to sustain your superiority complex to open myself to experiences to grow in, even if it

didn't look glamorous or perfect or cool, what what is here? What can I take here? How can I adapt to this

here? How can I adapt to this environment? Learn some adaptability.

environment? Learn some adaptability.

Like you don't need to prove that you're the best. you believe in yourself and

the best. you believe in yourself and you know that maybe you're not the best and that doesn't matter through the situations that maybe we don't want to be in forever, but they're teaching us what we must know right now. That's why

I like that saying of you're exactly where you need to be because every decision you've made, your circumstances, they've led you to this point for a reason. What can you take

from this environment and build? Decide

that it's part of your journey. Decide

that it's going to work for you, not against you. Because the second that you

against you. Because the second that you decide that that is a possibility, it becomes one. And you are where this

becomes one. And you are where this dream is coming from, where this magic is coming from. Use what's around you to resource for that through connection, through understanding through that relationship with your co-orker or your

customer that you saw today. Make their

day a little bit better. Like, how can you express this dream, this life you're saying that you want on the outside?

Make it tangible in your everyday environment. We can't expect things to

environment. We can't expect things to change just like that. We have to change them. If I didn't go through humbling

them. If I didn't go through humbling experiences that showed me discipline, showed me where I didn't match up, showed me how to become part of a team, how to communicate with people, to show

me my social skills, my sales skills, my understanding, my comprehension, my note-taking, all of these things. I took

that and I used it for something of my own, which is cool. But like, I needed those experiences to do that. I don't

care about competing with people. I care

about competing with myself. I care

about my dream. And I care about achieving that. And I care about going

achieving that. And I care about going through the experiences necessary to bring me there, even if they are humbling. That is all I need to prove. I

humbling. That is all I need to prove. I

don't need to prove that I'm better than anyone because I'm not. I think another big part of humility is realizing when you can open your mind a little bit more. When you can be opened to new

more. When you can be opened to new experiences and perspectives, when you can open your eyes to other people's realities, situations, experiences. I

know I talk a lot about how we're all on this journey together, but we do, we are collectively, but we live out different experiences. Let's learn. Let's humble

experiences. Let's learn. Let's humble

ourselves. Listen to other people who have done what you want to do or who are trying to do what you want to do or who have done it and failed and like fail.

put yourself in embarrassing situations.

Do that thing. Take that risk. Be

critiqued. You know, I know I'm spitting my own personal philosophies here, but my hope is that they can help you open your mind to your own philosophies or remind you of something or maybe you

disagree or maybe you do agree or you feel inspired or you feel confus like I just want it to plant something within you. And I think realizing and

you. And I think realizing and respecting that we all have our own paths, our own journeys, our own perspectives, our own reality. We get

the privilege to enhance our experience with understandings and being in different environments and experiences and humbling ourselves. That's what I

think I want to end off on here is humility allows for empathy. Being able

to have a wider experience about life or what it is you want to do or learning from others allows you to gain knowledge and perspective that maybe we would not

have just gotten on our own or if everything was just magically handed to us. I guess it really all comes down to

us. I guess it really all comes down to the fact that yeah, even if we do live different experiences, we are on this journey together. And my

hope is that we can continue to make this journey more enjoyable and easier for each other along the way.