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I used to be completely stuck. At 19, I had been arrested six times in one year.

And I was at like the absolute rock bottom of my life. And it was not until I accepted these six truths that I was able to truly change my life, build a multi-million dollar company, and build myself into the woman that I'd always

wanted to be. So, if you are ambitious, but you are lazy, and you are ready to get unstuck, here is harsh truth number one. I call this the approval addiction.

one. I call this the approval addiction.

What if I told you that the real reason that you are stuck is not fear of failure, but it is actually your addiction to approval. When I first got into business, I remember that I actually was at a business mastermind. I

was one of the youngest people there. I

was also one of the only females. And I

remember that someone came up to me and they told me, they were like, "Hey, is this what you normally wear?" And I was like, "Uh, yeah." And at the time it was like I would wear like athleisure. I had

like Lululemon clothes I was always wearing cuz it was comfortable. One, I

remember this person told me, they were like, "So, if you dress like this, I just want you to understand that nobody's ever going to take you seriously." And so, if you want to be

seriously." And so, if you want to be taken seriously, one, you have to cover your whole body, and two, you can't dress like this. And I remember thinking, I was like, "Wait, are you serious?" And they're like, "Yeah,

serious?" And they're like, "Yeah, everybody here, they're not going to take you seriously unless you change how you dress." I want to say like the next

you dress." I want to say like the next four or 5 years, like literally all I thought about when I was getting changed in the morning was the fact of what they had said. And so, I changed my whole

had said. And so, I changed my whole wardrobe and then I started dressing nothing I'd ever dressed like before. I

threw out all of my clothes that I felt comfortable in. And every day when I did

comfortable in. And every day when I did wear my clothes I felt comfortable in, I felt like people were looking at me funny, like they wouldn't take me seriously. I felt like I couldn't go to

seriously. I felt like I couldn't go to a business meeting like that. And I end up just like losing confidence in myself. I remember until one day I

myself. I remember until one day I realized that regardless of if I was dressing like that or I was dressing in the way that I wanted to dress, either I was getting the approval from others or

I was getting approval from myself. And

I had continued to sacrifice my own self-approval for the approval of all these other people who I realized I didn't look up to. I didn't want their lives. And I actually didn't even really

lives. And I actually didn't even really respect them. And I said, "What am I

respect them. And I said, "What am I doing?" So what I do? I put back on my

doing?" So what I do? I put back on my clothes and I said, "Fuck it. I'm going

to do things how I want to do them."

Now, here's the reality. Most people

hesitate to step up because they are terrified of being judged. They want

approval and they want to fit in just like I did more than they want to succeed. They want to win. They want to

succeed. They want to win. They want to have the life that they've always wanted to build. they want to be the person

to build. they want to be the person that they want to be. If you're

unwilling to be misunderstood, you are essentially unwilling to get unstuck.

So, here's what I want you to do. Write

down one thing that you're holding back on because you are afraid of what people will think about you. And then what you can do is you can take one small step towards that action today. Post a piece of content. Have a hard conversation

of content. Have a hard conversation with somebody. Just speak the truth to

with somebody. Just speak the truth to somebody. Put an idea pen to paper. Do

somebody. Put an idea pen to paper. Do

something. Allow yourself to be judged.

Do not fight it. It's like a lot of the times when we feel like we're being judged, we immediately want to get out of that zone. We're like, I don't want to feel like I'm being judged. But if

you just stay there and you allow yourself to be judged, what you will find on the other side of that is actually freedom. Because once you

actually freedom. Because once you realize that you can tolerate judgment for other people, you can have anything you want and you can be whoever you want. Next truth number two, success

want. Next truth number two, success demands a trade. What if the life that you say you want is blocked by the life that you are unwilling to give up? For

me, something that I was unwilling to give up for a period of time in my life is that I prioritized comfort over growth when it came to my friends and my body. Now, what does that mean? I was so

body. Now, what does that mean? I was so comfortable in the friend group that I had that I chose remaining friends with these people rather than having the life I wanted because I knew that if I wanted to pursue that life, I would lose those

friends. I remember that I had a group

friends. I remember that I had a group of friends that I lived with in a house.

They were all great people, but I realized at that time that it was really hard for me to become the person I wanted to become, to do the things I wanted to do when I was with those people. Now, why was that? Because all

people. Now, why was that? Because all

of their habits worked against the habits I would have to build to be that person. And so, every time I would start

person. And so, every time I would start to do something different, I would start to deviate from the norm. There'd be

like little things they would say and little judgments they would cast upon me. And I just remember that slight

me. And I just remember that slight discomfort. It was just enough friction

discomfort. It was just enough friction to make me think, you know what? It's

it's fine. I don't need to do that.

Like, I I love them. They're so fun to hang out with. These are my friends. Who

would I be with without them? They've

been my friends for forever. And until I really got to the point where I said, you know what? I want to become that person more than I want to keep all of my friends. It wasn't until that moment

my friends. It wasn't until that moment that I wasn't able to change. Here's the

thing. You do not get what you want most in life. I know that sounds terrible,

in life. I know that sounds terrible, and I know that we all want that. We're

like, if I want it bad enough, I'm going to get it. But you don't. You get what you work for. And most people are actually working to keep their comfort.

Think about it. Like at that point, I was working so hard to keep my friends.

I was working so hard to keep my beliefs. I was working so hard to keep

beliefs. I was working so hard to keep myself stuck because everybody says they want success. Very few people can

want success. Very few people can actually show it with their actions. We

are not our desires. We are our actions.

If your time and your calendar and your money do not reflect your goals and the life that you say you want, then be honest with yourself. It's not really the life you want. You you want the life you currently have more than the one you

say you want. That's it. If you wanted that one more, you would be on your way to getting it. The disconnect between desire and behavior is what keeps you stuck in the patterns that you hate and the life that you hate because those

patterns are easier than choosing growth. So, here's what you can do. Look

growth. So, here's what you can do. Look

at your calendar. Look at your bank account. Look at where you spend your

account. Look at where you spend your time and money. Highlight where it actually goes. Where does most of your

actually goes. Where does most of your time and money actually go? And then ask yourself and circle it. What doesn't

line up with what you say you want? Talk

is cheap. It's the oldest saying in the book, but like I didn't really get this until I was adult. The only thing that matters is what they do. So, circle the one thing, one thing that you are spending time or money on that is not

leading to the life you want. And then

replace that with something that will.

Maybe it's right now you're like, you know what? I'm spending $200 a month,

know what? I'm spending $200 a month, Lea, on my nails, but I don't spend $200 on a gym membership and I'm out of shape and I feel like I should be working out.

Great. Screw your nails. Do them at home for a few months. Get the gym membership. Or maybe you're like, you

membership. Or maybe you're like, you know what? Every Tuesday I go to Taco

know what? Every Tuesday I go to Taco Tuesday with my friends and we get drunk and then I wake up on Wednesday and then I kind of hate myself and I feel anxious. I've got the anxiety and then

anxious. I've got the anxiety and then the next day I'm like, "Crap, why' I do that?" And then I take like 2 days to

that?" And then I take like 2 days to recover. My stomach's all messed up. I

recover. My stomach's all messed up. I

feel anxious. I text somebody that I wish I didn't text. What can we replace that with? What if instead you just

that with? What if instead you just stayed home and you watched educational YouTube videos for 90 minutes? Which

one's going to get you to the life that you want? Do this for a week, a month, a

you want? Do this for a week, a month, a year. It's the little changes like this

year. It's the little changes like this that compound and actually bring you to the person you want to be. Now, number

three, clarity comes from motion, not the other way around. I know that nobody ever wants to hear this, and I don't even like hearing it because guess what?

I have to coach myself, but waiting to feel ready is the biggest trap that you can fall into when it comes to doing anything that you want to do. I did not feel ready when I started my first company, Gym Launch. When I gave up all

of my clients, I had a roster of personal training clients. I gave all of them up to start this company. I never

felt ready. I did not feel ready when I started making content. I did not feel ready when I moved across the country. I

did not feel ready when I got married. I

did not feel ready when I started acquisition.com. None of it. I have

acquisition.com. None of it. I have

never felt ready for the success that came my way. The only thing that will make you ready for something is doing it. Think about this. You will only ever

it. Think about this. You will only ever feel ready the second time you do something. That's it. So, if you haven't

something. That's it. So, if you haven't done it before, you're never going to feel ready. The second time you do it,

feel ready. The second time you do it, you can feel ready. The first time, never going to feel ready. So, if you are waiting to start your life, you will never have the life you want. What is a time in your life where you took action

before you felt ready? And what

happened? If you're watching this video, you didn't die. You're still here. Can't

be that bad. Most people have this backwards. They wait their entire life

backwards. They wait their entire life to feel ready instead of acting their way to readiness. Confidence does not come first. You're not going to feel

come first. You're not going to feel confident before you do the first rep.

You will feel confident or more confident on the second rep, but you will not feel confident before the first rep. Action comes first. Action builds

rep. Action comes first. Action builds

experience. Experience then builds competence, right? You're getting the

competence, right? You're getting the skills and then that competence, having those skills is what creates confidence.

And then from there, you can go into something feeling great. This is what you're going to do. Write down one thing that you've been waiting to feel ready for. Break it down into the smallest

for. Break it down into the smallest first step. Do one today. Seriously, one

first step. Do one today. Seriously, one

of the best pieces of advice I ever got from somebody, if you make a plan, start the first step today. Why is that? You

buy yourself in. We have to get ourselves to buy in our own plans. This

is not mutually exclusive for like somebody else's plans. You need to get your own buy in. And you do that by taking action. Truth number four,

taking action. Truth number four, thoughts are just noise. Okay, this

might sound crazy, but you don't have to believe everything you think. I know

it's [ __ ] insane. When I was younger, this is one of the things that I did not understand. I'd be like, I'm [ __ ]

understand. I'd be like, I'm [ __ ] nuts. What the hell? I am negative. And

nuts. What the hell? I am negative. And

I realized I was like, oh no, this is just how your brain works. Like for me, one of my biggest insecurities ever since I lost weight is that I always feel like I'm still 100 lbs heavier.

I've been at the gym and I will walk past me at the gym and be like, "She looks good. Oh my god, it's me." I'm

looks good. Oh my god, it's me." I'm

like, "No, I'm 100 pounds heavier because most of my life I was chubby. I

was made fun of. I was overweight." And

so it's like this disassociation in my mind. How did I overcome that? I started

mind. How did I overcome that? I started

telling myself, "These thoughts aren't real. These thoughts are old thoughts.

real. These thoughts are old thoughts.

In fact, they're outdated." I'm like, "Oh, my computer system needs an update." That's how your mind is

update." That's how your mind is sometimes. Sometimes you just need an

sometimes. Sometimes you just need an update. You might be dealing with

update. You might be dealing with thoughts, you're a failure, you suck.

You're ugly. you're never going to get a boyfriend. You're never going to get a

boyfriend. You're never going to get a girlfriend. You're never be popular if

girlfriend. You're never be popular if people don't like you. Where do those come from? Like, think about the

come from? Like, think about the thoughts that you think the most, the toughest intrusive thoughts you have.

Where did they come from? Probably not

you, but you just keep replaying them in the system over and over again. And so,

sometimes what we have to do is we have to step back and we have to say, you know what? One, these thoughts are not

know what? One, these thoughts are not facts. Two, I need an update. So, what

facts. Two, I need an update. So, what

do I want to update these thoughts with?

Certainly something better than this, right? It's like, well, if it's not true

right? It's like, well, if it's not true and it's playing in my head all day, [ __ ] it. I might as well make something not true that makes me feel better about myself than this [ __ ] thing in my head.

Most people let their internal dialogue steer their actions without ever questioning it. Now, this is the

questioning it. Now, this is the definition of living on autopilot and it needs to stop if you actually want to change your life. You have to be able to sit there and say, you know what, I don't believe everything I think. And

this is why we use a tool called thought attachment. That is the process of

attachment. That is the process of identifying certain thoughts as optional. That's it. It's like your

optional. That's it. It's like your thoughts are not facts. They're just

words and pictures in your head. You can

take it or leave it. It's up to you. Do

would you like to believe this thought today or would you not like to believe this thought today? And some people say, "Well, Ila, I do think that that thought is true." Like, you know, my husband

is true." Like, you know, my husband said this. I do think I've gained 5 lbs.

said this. I do think I've gained 5 lbs.

Maybe you have gained 5 lbs. Do you

think thinking I'm a fat piece of [ __ ] is helpful. It's just not helpful. So,

is helpful. It's just not helpful. So,

at some point, you have to be like, "It might be true, but it doesn't help me."

Instead, I could think, you know what, I have gained 5 lbs and I can also lose 5 lbs cuz I'm a badass. The next time that you feel stuck in a cycle of overthinking, try labeling the thought.

I notice that I'm having the thought that I'm fat. I notice I'm having the thought that I'm not smart. I notice I'm having the thought that I'm a complete [ __ ] failure. Visualize it like this.

I think of it like I am off-road. I have

my car pulled on the side of a highway.

And I watch all these cars driving by.

And those cars are my thoughts. And each

one of them, I see them in the car. And

then I'm like, do I want to get in? Do I

not want to get in? Do I want to get in with that stranger? Do I want to get in with that guy driving the semi? Do I

want to get into the Lamborghini? All

right, or the Rolls-Royce. You get to choose. That's the cool thing. And if

choose. That's the cool thing. And if

you do this consistently, you will cut the power out of your thoughts that have what you feel is a lot more power over your actions. If you take a lot of the

your actions. If you take a lot of the juice out of them, you almost like draining it of gas. It's a lot weaker and then it's a lot easier to detach from it. This brings us to point number

from it. This brings us to point number five, which is acceptance is power. What

if the thing that you keep resisting is actually the key to your growth? For

years, I did not understand the concept that thoughts are not facts. And I did not understand the concept that we we all have negative emotions. And so, I would go around having tons of negative emotions, feeling super anxious and super stressed. This is my early 20s.

super stressed. This is my early 20s.

And I remember thinking all the time, I was like, like, if somebody knew what was in my head, I would not get a boyfriend. I'm never going to get

boyfriend. I'm never going to get married. My friends would be like,

married. My friends would be like, you're [ __ ] crazy, [ __ ] I remember thinking those things all the time. And

then I remember I got married, you know, lucky him. Eventually one day I started

lucky him. Eventually one day I started talking to him and I'm like I just don't want to tell you all the crazy thoughts I have in my head. He was like why? And

I was like I mean like what if you think I'm crazy? And I remember that moment my

I'm crazy? And I remember that moment my husband was like so what? That led me to this tool which is the so what? I was

like oh I like that. What do you mean so what? He's like so what? Still married

what? He's like so what? Still married

you. It's still cute. I don't think it'll change much. And I was just like oh wow. And it diffused so much of my

oh wow. And it diffused so much of my emotion around the situation that all of a sudden I started spewing everything at him. I was like, I think this and this

him. I was like, I think this and this and this. And he was like, checks out.

and this. And he was like, checks out.

And then I was like, what if? What if I could do that for myself? And so now what I learned is that every time I have a thought that feels scary, feels big, feels gross, feels negative. Then I say

to myself, so what? So what? You got a [ __ ] up thought. So what that you think that you are a tiny speck on this giant universe, and that thought will go away as fast as it came. So I want you

to try this mental reframe. Think of

active acceptance as a tool in your toolbox. Active acceptance is just

toolbox. Active acceptance is just saying, "So what?" You're like, "What if this happens and then my boyfriend breaks up with me and then this happens and blah blah blah and so what?" Half of being stuck comes from resisting reality. It comes from resisting your

reality. It comes from resisting your thoughts, resisting the negative feelings. So acceptance means carrying

feelings. So acceptance means carrying the circumstances, the feelings, the thoughts with you rather than fighting them. Now what you will find is that

them. Now what you will find is that this does not mean that you're giving up. It means that you move forward with

up. It means that you move forward with reality, not against it. And this takes so much of the power out of a situation, a thought or a feeling. Now, this is how you can actually put it into practice.

Right now, I'm going to ask you this.

What in your life right now is unfair?

What is unfair? Maybe you have a bad boss or a really heavy workload with your job or bad customer review. Next to

it, write, "So what? I can carry this."

Then ask yourself this. What is one productive action that you can take while being uncomfortable holding that thought or circumstance? Because here's

the thing, the price of your dreams tomorrow is the discomfort of accepting it today. Which brings us to our final

it today. Which brings us to our final and most important truth. You need to audit your beliefs. There's a reason that we call them your beliefs, not facts, not the universal beliefs. We

know that our beliefs shape our reality.

And what's crazy is that our beliefs might be completely [ __ ] wrong and crazy, right? We've identified this. One

crazy, right? We've identified this. One

of the biggest beliefs that I've had to unlearn is that fear means something's dangerous. I used to have so many

dangerous. I used to have so many feelings of fear of anxiety. And they

would feel paralyzing almost like literally like sweaty hands. I'd feel

like my mouth is foaming. Not foaming,

but I'm losing like spit in my mouth.

Foaming would be tough. That'd be a seizure. You should go to the doctor if

seizure. You should go to the doctor if you that happens to you. But I would have, you know, no spit in my mouth.

Like I'm so nervous about something. And

I used to think when I was younger that that meant that that thing was dangerous and that finally when I really understood that this was just a belief I had about any situation I was really scared. It was because I had an

scared. It was because I had an irrational belief about that thing. You

know, some people have an irrational fear of spiders, an irrational fear of flying. The crazy thing is that more

flying. The crazy thing is that more people will die in a car crash this year than they will in a plane crash. Yet,

people are way more scared of flying than they are of the car. I have had plenty of those things. And I think what I used to think is that fear equals bad.

Then what I realized is that fear equals irrational belief that it is time to break. When you have unchecked beliefs,

break. When you have unchecked beliefs, I'll never succeed. This thing is dangerous. This business is going to

dangerous. This business is going to die. This guy is going to leave me. And

die. This guy is going to leave me. And

then you let them silently dictate every action or inaction you take. That is

when you get stuck. So if you're watching this video and you're thinking, I am stuck in some way. Maybe you're

stuck in a cycle of destructive beliefs.

Because think about this. The only

beliefs that we don't question are the ones that we don't even know are beliefs. We assume them as truths. And

beliefs. We assume them as truths. And

so what I'd like you to do is try a belief swap. You're going to identify

belief swap. You're going to identify your irrational beliefs and we're going to replace them with rational ones. What

freaks you out? What makes you anxious?

What pisses you off? What things provide you with the most highest irrational emotional reaction? Is it when your

emotional reaction? Is it when your boyfriend you see like another girl on Instagram? Does that make you really

Instagram? Does that make you really [ __ ] pissed and you want to go like slash some tires? Is it when you know a customer leaves you one bad review and all of a sudden you want to shut down your business cuz you think that your business sucks? Irrational beliefs keep

business sucks? Irrational beliefs keep us stuck. Rational beliefs move us

us stuck. Rational beliefs move us forward. If you can change your beliefs,

forward. If you can change your beliefs, you can change your life. So, write down one irrational belief that you keep repeating. Maybe it's I'll never

repeating. Maybe it's I'll never succeed. And then ask three questions.

succeed. And then ask three questions.

One, is this logical? Two, where is the proof in this actual world that this is a real belief? And lastly, does this belief help me? Maybe it is whackadoodle, but maybe it is true. But

is it helpful? And does believing it make your life better or worse? Rewrite

it as a rational belief that you can actually live by. Now, what does that mean? I am not a proponent of, you know,

mean? I am not a proponent of, you know, I lost 100 pounds. And I was not like, I am a Victoria's Secret model. I was

like, no, I'm not. I still got a little chunk. But I said, you know what? No,

chunk. But I said, you know what? No,

I'm healthy and I work hard. I can

achieve my dream body if I work hard enough for long enough. That's a

rational belief to have versus I'm going to be the queen of England or I'm going to, you know, make it to the moon. I'm

going to beat Elon Musk. It's like, all right, that's a that's a tough stretch.

Let's try and make it something that's believable that when we say it, we feel empowered and we feel more confident.

So, those are rational beliefs. And

here's the thing. Once you write down that rational belief, if you act on it, you will actually embed it and you will start to believe it over time. Trust me,

the sooner that you accept these truths, the sooner you will be able to change your life. If you like this video, do

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