just let them

you know what's funny we spend so much of our time trying to prove to other people of our worth and trying to hold on to those relationships that are already slipping through our fingers we're always trying to satisfy other people do the things that other people

would like but what if I told you that the most freeing thing that you could ever do is just to let them let them do whatever let them think whatever let them misunderstand you let them leave

and just let them miss out on you because people at the end of the day will do whatever they want and think however they want you can't convince them have you ever felt the need to explain yourself over

and over again you know to clear up every misconceptions or any misunderstanding you have and just to make sure that everyone knows your true intentions but no matter how much you try to do those things people will take

it their own way people will only hear what they want to hear if they don't like you and they already made up in their minds that you're a bad person to them no matter how much you try to convince them they're not going to

listen to it so let them let them misunderstand you maybe a coworker thinks you're arrogant because you're confident in your abilities maybe an old friend might think that you've changed just because you've grown or even a

family member doesn't understand your choices and criticize you for them it's so frustrating because they're intentionally misunderstanding you yet you can't do much about it but the truth is when someone is committed to

misunderstand you no amount of explaining will ever change their minds and that's it only the right people will see the things in your perspective and those people that don't they were never meant to be your people let them

misunderstand you there's so much more out out there in the world that you can care about and sometimes people will leave your friends your partners the people who you thought would just stay in your life forever it hurts so bad

because you've envisioned everything with them you've already had this whole imagination of how you're going to be when you're older with them and you kind of thought of growing together in those moments it's so easy to think what did I

do wrong and how can I really fix this if someone wants to go if someone wants to leave just walk out of your life let them do it don't beg them to stay don't to do everything in your ability use all

your time and energy to make people stay to make those people that don't believe in you stay with you because at the end they're not going to do you any favor you know maybe you had a best friend who suddenly became distant maybe your

relationship ended that you weren't ready to let go of and maybe those people that you supported for years just disappeared as soon as you needed them and when that happens our first instinct is just to hold on tight and you start

believing that you won't be able to do anything in your life without these people I once had a friend I thought would be in my life for a long time we had so many memories together from a young age we never really thought that

we would be distant ever but things changed over time I realized that I was the only one putting in the effort I was the one who was texting first I was the one who was always checking in you know

and making plans and one day I decided to stop trying you know what happened they disappeared we never got in contact again they stopped texting there was no conversation anymore because there was

no one initiating it anymore and that's when I realized it was just one-sided and I should have have felt like I was the one in the wrong you don't have to beg for love respect or loyalty the people who want to be in your life will

stay willingly so if you have someone who wants to leave and just walk out of your life let them do it I promise that their absence will make room for someone way better and even if that might not be the case for a while you don't have to

feel impatient because those right people that will want to stay with you will come into your life unexpectedly and they will turn out to be one of the best things to happen in your life so let people who want to walk away from

your life walk away because fighting for someone to stay when they've already checked out is exhausting we live in a world where people will judge you no matter what you could be the kindest most genuine person and someone will

still find a way to twist your actions you could be successful and they'll still call you lucky and when you're struggling they could call you weak I used to waste so much of my energy worrying about how people saw me at

night before I go to bed I'd replay those conversations in my head and I really wanted to be liked I wanted people to see me the way I see myself but there was a moment when I was so drained and I started thinking there's

some things that I can't control I can't control how people think of me I can't make everyone to like me because no matter what I do no matter how kind how nice I am to other people there will be

some people that don't want to see me that way so now I let them think what they want because at the end of the day I know that their opinions don't really Define me so as soon as I realized that I stopped living to please people that

will never be satisfied I just started Living for myself so let them think what they want if they want to believe you they'll be on your side if they don't want want to they never will and you need to accept that to be able to move

on and just do your thing if you worry about how this person will think of me and how that person will think of me you'll start losing yourself because you'll constantly change your personality and values that suit their

needs not yours so you're not even prioritizing yourself anymore live your life on your own terms without feeling the need to prove anything to anyone and most importantly let them miss out on

you not everyone will see your value that means not everyone will appreciate what you bring to the table and that's okay you don't need everyone to recognize your worth if someone

overlooks your kindness your loyalty it's actually their loss not yours and that is so true because the ones who are really meant for you will never need those convincing the right people that you have in your life will try to

recognize your value without needing you to prove it to them don't waste your time and energy for those people that don't try to recognize your value truly it's not worth your time at the end of the day you can't control other people

you can't control how they see you how they treat you you or whether they stay or go but I think there's one thing that you can control and that is how much energy that you choose to give out to

things that are out of your hands so let them talk let them doubt you let them leave and let them miss out and while they do you just do your thing keep growing keep questioning keep grinding

tunnel vision you know what I mean if some people don't want to hang out with you and don't want to invite you to those things let him do those things let them miss out on you just keep building the life that you deserve without holding on to things that were never met

meant to stay in your life because the moment you stop forcing you stop proving you stop chasing that's when you truly step into your own authenticity and yourself and I think that's one of the

most important things in the past I used to hate being misunderstood I used to care so much about how other people saw me I just didn't want to be seen as someone undesirable I realized that

there are so many people in this world and I can't control everyone's thoughts you know no matter how much I go around telling them hey I'm not this type of person please believe me and you know begging them to like me they're not

going to change their minds because I feel like sometimes the more I explain myself the more suspicious it gets people will start being like why are you overe explaining if you're so confident in yourself just stay true be confident

and let them doubt you let them leave let them miss out on you just let them the school's starting soon for me it's almost March so it's a new semester that I'll be starting in a new environment

I'm very excited and I'm confident so again thank you so much for for watching I appreciate all the comments that you guys leave I read them all the time and I really love reading your comments because that really helps me to broaden

my perspective so I'm so proud of you guys I'll see you guys next time peace