Language Has a VERY DARK Secret (I’ll Prove it)

There is a kind of parasite [music] in your mind right now. It's stopping you from seeing reality. [music] And I want to tell you that I'm not using that word poetically. I mean the biological

poetically. I mean the biological definition of a parasite. And a parasite has four basic traits. [music] It needs a host. It consumes the resources of the

a host. It consumes the resources of the host. It alters the host's behavior to

host. It alters the host's behavior to promote its own survival. And four, it replicates through the host into a new

host. language meets every criteria of a

host. language meets every criteria of a parasite. And I'm going to prove it to

parasite. And I'm going to prove it to you. I want to literally show you this

you. I want to literally show you this thing inside of your head right now. I'm

going to put something very simple on your screen, but I don't want you to think about it. I just want you to notice what your mind does the moment that it appears on the screen. Are you

ready? Here it is. I guarantee you something happened inside your head before you realized it. We're going to go to experiment number two. Now I just want you to watch what your mind does.

Here it is.

And instantly without your permission your mind starts whispering in your head. Mona Lisa Da Vinci famous [music]

head. Mona Lisa Da Vinci famous [music] painting triangle before your eyes were done looking. You didn't experience the

done looking. You didn't experience the thing first. Your [music] brain named it

thing first. Your [music] brain named it first. Most people don't realize it but

first. Most people don't realize it but this happens to our [music] entire lives. We label emotions before

entire lives. We label emotions before we feel them. We label people before we get to know them. We label ourselves before maybe we get a chance to decide

if something is true or not. Language is

jumping in front of every [music] experience. And it's hijacking it. Let

experience. And it's hijacking it. Let

me show you just how deep this really goes. Your language doesn't just name

goes. Your language doesn't just name things. [music]

things. [music] Your language creates the categories of things that you see. As an example, different cultures divide the world in completely different ways. And because

of that, they literally perceive different realities. If your language

different realities. If your language has no word for a certain color, [music] your brain becomes way slower or even completely unable to see that color. The

category [music] shapes the perception. So, your language isn't really describing your world. It's

[music] deciding what your world contains. We do not think with [music]

contains. We do not think with [music] logic. We think with metaphors that we

logic. We think with metaphors that we did not choose [music] ourselves. Just

think of like the metaphors that we live by. There's thousands that are

by. There's thousands that are programmed into our [music] our psyche.

Time is money. Love is a journey. The

mind is a container. None of these things are facts. They're metaphors that became little prisons for us. Every

belief that you've ever held, every certainty, every fear, every limitation that you think is just who you are was shaped inside of a language that you didn't choose. You didn't pick the

didn't choose. You didn't pick the categories, the metaphors to understand yourself. You didn't pick the metaphors

yourself. You didn't pick the metaphors you used to know who you are as a person. You inherited these things. If

person. You inherited these things. If

you grew up and you heard words like lazy [music] or not enough or problematic or dramatic, quiet, difficult shy [music]

gifted, maybe smart, maybe broken, they didn't describe you. They became you.

And the moment that someone labeled you, your mind built a world around that label. And the world became a huge cage.

label. And the world became a huge cage.

So language doesn't reflect your identity. that constructs the identity.

identity. that constructs the identity.

In my opinion, the scariest part of that is [music] once the construction of the identity is complete, we defend it like crazy. We

protect the thing that is limiting us.

We say things like that's just my personality or I've always been like this like our identity is some kind of geological fact [music] instead of a language program.

But answer this question honestly.

[music] And this is another experiment.

If you had been raised in another family, another culture, another language with different [music] labels and different metaphors and different

narratives, would you be the same person? Of course not. So that means

person? Of course not. So that means that our identity is not the pure authentic me that I think I am. It's a

side effect of language that raised [music] us. You've only met the version

[music] us. You've only met the version of you that language allowed you to be.

And we spend our lives trying to live up to a sound, a word. And language takes every [music] experience that you have and cuts it down to fit inside of a category that existed way before we

[music] were ever born. You never met your mother as she truly is. [music] You

met the word mother. You met mom. You

started defining it as mom as fast as you can. In fact, that's the oldest

you can. In fact, that's the oldest known word ever discovered. As a fun fact, how many arguments have you had with people that were never about the situation? They were about the words

situation? They were about the words [music] that you and someone else used to describe the situation. How many moments of connection were maybe ruined cuz people use the same word that had different meaning. And if [music] you

different meaning. And if [music] you think about your emotions, a lot of people don't feel sad, they feel the word sadness. [music]

word sadness. [music] And everything that the culture taught us to attach to the word sadness. And if

you think that you're bored with your life, or maybe you're bored in life right now, I promise that you're not.

You're just seeing the world through some linguistic categories that are on repeat. Chair, bottle, hand, normal. All

repeat. Chair, bottle, hand, normal. All

of a sudden, your life becomes a slideshow of things that we already think we totally understand because we have a label for it. It turns the sacred things into ordinary things. I want you

to feel something and try it out.

Wherever you are, look at the nearest object in the room. Wherever you're

sitting, wherever you're standing, don't pick a special one. Just whatever's

closest. Maybe it's a a water bottle or a chair or maybe it's your hand.

Anything [music] at all. So, all right.

You got it. Good. So, now just for two seconds, refuse. I want you to

seconds, refuse. I want you to absolutely refuse to name that thing.

Don't say the word in your head. Don't

categorize it. Don't reach for the concept of what it is. Just look at it without any language right there. [music]

right there. [music] Notice how fast your mind tries to name it automatically. It's desperate. It

it automatically. It's desperate. It

can't stand not knowing what to call something. So, it's like the mind panics

something. So, it's like the mind panics when language goes silent. And I think it does this because without language, you become present. There's a sudden

sharpness, increase of reality and clarity. There's a moment of raw just

clarity. There's a moment of raw just presence that almost feels like a memory from childhood. That's how I would

from childhood. That's how I would describe it anyway. That's what the world feels like without the parasite jumping in line. The parasite can still be there, but you're just putting it in

its actual place where it's meant to behind experience. I want you to think

behind experience. I want you to think of the most real moment in your entire life. The moment that punched through

life. The moment that punched through everything, like the birth of a child, maybe a breakup, maybe a death, maybe it

was a moment of terror, or maybe it was the kind of just incredible awe that just shuts down [music] your breathing.

In that moment, there weren't any words, none. Language

arrived after that experience [music] and then it tried to shrink that thing into a sentence cuz it couldn't language couldn't hold the size of what happened.

That is your proof. Every moment that you felt truly alive in your life was so much bigger than the language that you

used to describe it. And if language was just a tool, then we could put it down.

But we can't try not naming something for 10 seconds.

The brain goes into a panic. It begs for a label. It demands some kind of a

a label. It demands some kind of a category. And that's a system with

category. And that's a system with survival instincts. And anything that

survival instincts. And anything that comes before your perception is in control of your perception. Maybe you're

probably realizing that this isn't just a theory, [music] that this is something that you can actually feel. But there is a catch here. Waking up to this is just the beginning. We still have to break

the beginning. We still have to break the spell. And for the last two years,

the spell. And for the last two years, I've been building that book designed to do exactly that. And the book is called Tongue. [music] It's definitely not a

Tongue. [music] It's definitely not a normal book at all. It's not written the way that a book is supposed to be written. It breaks every single rule.

written. It breaks every single rule.

And it it doesn't teach you about language. It bypasses language for you.

language. It bypasses language for you.

[music] And it's maybe the most bizarre thing that you're ever going to see printed on paper. Every line, [music] every page was engineered to pull your

experience [music] back in front of the words where it's supposed to be.

So, tongue is just a small little paperback and it works by destabilizing the automatic [music] naming reflex. It really does disrupt

naming reflex. It really does disrupt the parasite and it forces your [music] perception to show up first and your language to show up second. Some pages

read you [music] out loud in a way that you've never seen done in a book before.

And some pages of the book glitch out your inner voice completely. And some

pages collapse meaning on purpose. So

[music] you can feel raw reality, start bleeding through the cracks a little bit. It's a weird experience. It's very

bit. It's a weird experience. It's very

strange. It's not completely comfortable, but the book's written in a way that skimming [music] through it will do absolutely nothing. It took 2 years because I had to design every

paragraph to interfere with your language operating system. [music] And

this is a language system we've been living inside since childhood. But if

you read tongue, it's on Amazon and it is just a cheap paperback. [music]

But if you read it line by line, the book does something subtle [music] and dangerous.

It gives you perception back and it brings the world in front of the word.

Starting today, Tongue is available on Amazon. Read it if you're ready, but

Amazon. Read it if you're ready, but it's not to understand anything. The

book's not going to give you a whole bunch of understanding. It's going to give you an experience to see the world without the parasite jumping in front of it. So, if this video crack something

it. So, if this video crack something open in you, I designed the book Tongue to really finish the job. Either way, I hope this video was interesting for you.

It gives you a new perspective on language and you can click the link down in the description. [clears throat] Check the

description. [clears throat] Check the book out on Amazon if it's interesting for you. Either way, I have a statistic

for you. Either way, I have a statistic that says like 49 I can't remember the number. 50s something% are not

number. 50s something% are not subscribed to the channel. Number one, I know you hear it from every single human being on YouTube that [music] likes like like and subscribe and all that stuff.

it. That helps so much more than people say. They pretend like it's not a

people say. They pretend like it's not a big deal. It's a big deal. So, if this

big deal. It's a big deal. So, if this video was important to you, if this video was helpful for you in understanding uh or looking at language in a different way, then please consider

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