NOBODY IS COMING TO SAVE YOU - Motivational Speech

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>> Let's go.

>> Stop waiting for life to be easy. Stop

hoping for somebody to save you. Face

some hard facts and you could have an incredible life.

>> You can just do it anyway.

You can do it tired.

You can do it with no self-belief.

You can do it when you don't want to.

You can do it when you think it's not going to work. You can just do things.

Do it sad. Do it lonely. Do it without a role model. Because if you're waiting

role model. Because if you're waiting for somebody to come along and give you that helping hand, sometimes you're going to be waiting too long. Every

morning I woke up, I had a real conversation with that dirty mirror. And

every day the same answer came back to me. Do you want to be on your deathbed

me. Do you want to be on your deathbed knowing that you could, but you didn't?

>> A lot of people wait for perfect conditions to start, but don't realize that starting is the perfect condition.

Waiting to begin never got anyone anywhere. Even if it's not your fault,

anywhere. Even if it's not your fault, it's still your responsibility. No one's

coming to save you.

Nobody. You are it. The life you want, you are it. You can say something's not my fault and still say, I'm going to own it and I'm going to work on dealing with

this because it's mine to deal with. It

was like the truest realization that no one is coming.

>> It's a becoming of what your habits are.

It's, hey, if you really are wanting to take on this journey and become, you know, someone that is taking charge and learning about things, it comes down to your mindset. It's about what you're

your mindset. It's about what you're consuming. It's about you're doing with

consuming. It's about you're doing with your mind. If you want to make a change,

your mind. If you want to make a change, it starts with what direction is my mind going. Am I getting distracted all the

going. Am I getting distracted all the time by social media and stuff like that? Am I wanting to do things at a

that? Am I wanting to do things at a high level, but I would I'm not not taking the steps to actually learn about that.

>> Identity and values drive behavior. So,

if you want to make a change, you have to change your vision of who you are.

You have to begin telling yourself a different narrative. And the narrative

different narrative. And the narrative you tell yourself about yourself is everything. And if you tell yourself

everything. And if you tell yourself that you're a scared, undereducated kid from Tacoma whose family has never accomplished anything, let me tell you what you will become. a scared,

undereducated kid from Tacoma who never accomplishes anything because that's what you believe. You tell yourself that story enough and it will become real.

But on the flip side, you could tell yourself a story of you're a learner.

You learn faster than most people.

You're willing to put in more work than most people. You're willing to read more

most people. You're willing to read more books than most people. You're willing

to spend an inhuman amount of time every day improving your mind simply by getting new ideas into the system. And

once I switched my narrative to being the learner, it didn't matter where I started. It only mattered where I was

started. It only mattered where I was trying to go. And as long as I had that clarity, then I could execute because I believed I could do anything I set my mind to without limitation. Everything

everybody knows, they learned. And they

are not more intelligent than you. So

you can learn it, too. So the more I realized this is my journey, it was you.

So, you better figure out who the you are on this journey, but you first have to figure out you because a lot of people die with a lot of untapped

potential because they're trying to be somebody that they're not. So, I was able to figure out my own potential by figuring out me.

No one's coming. No one. No one's coming to push you. No one's coming to tell you to turn the TV off. No one's coming to tell you to get out the door and exercise. Nobody's coming to tell you to

exercise. Nobody's coming to tell you to apply for that job that you've always dreamt about. Nobody's coming to write

dreamt about. Nobody's coming to write the business plan for you. It's up to you. Just get up, move towards that

you. Just get up, move towards that challenge. Whatever that challenge is,

challenge. Whatever that challenge is, move towards that challenge and go attack it. And you may be successful and

attack it. And you may be successful and you may not be successful, but you will be better. When every boy realizes no

be better. When every boy realizes no one's coming to save him, and that's when he becomes a man. And some boys never get there and stay children forever. Nobody cares about you. And I

forever. Nobody cares about you. And I

mean that in the most positive, optimistic, inspiring, motivating way.

You think that everybody's paying attention. And because of that, it kind

attention. And because of that, it kind of controls how you think. And the

reality is nobody gives a [ __ ] Everybody is so focused on themselves in this world. Nobody has time for you.

this world. Nobody has time for you.

Look around you. There was noing team.

It was you. There was no weight loss program or mom and dad waking you up saying you can do it. You can be better.

Trying to build belief. You built belief when you had nothing.

>> I found myself in a place that I just never envisioned I would be. I would

wake up every morning just pinned to the bed with anxiety. And

I became somebody that I barely recognized. And you know the thing

recognized. And you know the thing that's that's that's interesting about being stuck in life is that the fact is

you know what you need to do. That's the

easy part. It's the how. How the do you make yourself do what you need to do when you are scared or overwhelmed or anxious or hopeless or depressed or any

of the stuff that happens to you as a human. That's the $100 million question.

human. That's the $100 million question.

And because you're only ever going to do the things that you feel like doing right now or that feel good right now unless you understand that you've got to

parent yourself. You got to push

parent yourself. You got to push yourself. You're not going to make your

yourself. You're not going to make your dreams come true. You're just not. We're

not wired that way. You weren't born that way. You weren't that way when you

that way. You weren't that way when you were growing up. And you're certainly not that way as an adult. And there's a tremendous amount of liberation that comes when you accept the fact that

you're always going to need to give yourself a push.

>> We don't want to be left alone by oursel with ourselves. So we come in and we sit

with ourselves. So we come in and we sit down and we get on our phone or we turn on the TV or or we go wherever we do whatever because we don't want to face

the reality of being by oursel with oursel. Start making yourself a

oursel. Start making yourself a companion that you're comfortable with and become comfortable in your own skin.

I've trained 99% of my life alone. No

one pat me on the back. I did all of the work alone. And while I'm still hard on

work alone. And while I'm still hard on myself, I know what I did. You know, if you're going to create anything of value in this life, you're going, even if it's

with other people, you're going to have to be willing to to be on your own for a bit, to forage on your own, to take walks alone. I just have bad news for

walks alone. I just have bad news for everybody. Nobody cares that you don't

everybody. Nobody cares that you don't have time to practice. Nobody cares that you didn't grow up with money. Nobody

cares that you came from a bad neighborhood. Nobody cares about your

neighborhood. Nobody cares about your problems. >> Stop with the pity party. Stop feeling

sorry for yourself. And remember, no one is going to save you but you. save

yourself.

>> It seems like my version of personal development requires me to fall into a hole or dig one and then I realize nobody's coming to rescue me and I'm if I want to get out of the hole, I'm going to need to build a freaking ladder.

>> It doesn't sound good to say that you're in control that nobody's coming to save you. But that's what works. M.

you. But that's what works. M.

>> And so if you take Kobe Bryant's advice, which is that booze don't block dunks, and the idea that you can get so good at something that people can't stop you from succeeding. And I promise you,

from succeeding. And I promise you, every single person who wants to do something with their life and has done something with their life has gone through the exact chapter that you're going through. And it's the lonely

going through. And it's the lonely chapter. It's the chapter where you

chapter. It's the chapter where you don't fit in with your own friends, but you don't have the outcomes yet to fit into a new group of friends. And you're

going through this and you're like, "Is this even worth it?" because you have no signs of success. But if there's anything that you can take away from what we're saying right now is that the sign of success is the hate that you get along the way.

>> First of all, nobody is coming.

I mean, if you've been sitting around waiting for somebody to discover you, to pick you, to save you, to rescue you, to give you your shot, it's not happening.

Like, at some point, you got to wake up and realize when you're 18 and you're out of that house, you have to parent yourself. Your life is your

yourself. Your life is your responsibility.

>> No one is going to save you.

We can't do this for you. This journey

predominantly must come from you.

>> It's not what other people think. It's

your life. But if it's your life, you got to be willing to pay the price.

>> There are going to be seasons in your life where nobody is coming. Nobody's

coming to support you. NOBODY'S COMING

TO HELP YOU. NOBODY'S COMING TO SAVE YOU. No one is coming to rescue you.

YOU. No one is coming to rescue you.

You're going to PULL YOURSELF OUT OF THE PIT of misery and put the work in.

>> Everything about it is accountability.

Everything about it is self-discipline.

Everything about it is no one's going to save you. No one's going to come out of

save you. No one's going to come out of the woods and say, "Hey, I got your back, man. I want to take you from all

back, man. I want to take you from all this [ __ ] >> I got to do it all on my own now." You

know, but that's the truth. I had to do it on my own, you know, just like he did. You got to do it on your own.

did. You got to do it on your own.

>> Sometimes you just have to have the ability to save yourself. I'm not going to say it was easy because it wasn't.

But I had to learn it.

>> You have to take your own responsibility. No one's going to save

responsibility. No one's going to save you. You have to do it.

you. You have to do it.

>> You got to learn to pick yourself up on your own. A lot of times these fights

your own. A lot of times these fights and these battles, you got to be your own coach. You got to be your own

own coach. You got to be your own motivator. You got a long journey ahead

motivator. You got a long journey ahead of you because you're going to find out that while your dad did a lot of [ __ ] to you, you're going to have to make it on your own.

>> You have to look at your own life and you have to realize, okay, you either have to change yourself or you got to make everybody else wrong. You got to look at your own life and go, what do I need to change so I can be successful?

And people don't want to do that. It's

easier to try to make the other person wrong.

>> Me really because I I don't care about being solitary. I don't care about being

being solitary. I don't care about being on my own. And I don't care about taking risks because for a very long time I was in any case on my own and everything was a risk. Going to school was a risk or

a risk. Going to school was a risk or going out for lunch was a risk or whatever. People struggle to do things

whatever. People struggle to do things alone and the path of the exceptional person is one of an exception which means that

you are not with other people. And

rather than fighting that or bemoning it, see it as an indicator that you're on the right path. Because if everyone else were cheering you on, then it means you're not in the right place because it

means you're just like everyone else and that's not where you want to be.

>> You have to be alone in a very dark place in your mind to think about what is important to you. So, you're going to feel the pain of being ostracized from the group of friends that you used to

have, but you're stuck in this messy middle where you haven't yet worked out who you are on the other side of this.

And that lonely chapter that's in the middle is something that I I would say almost nobody that I've ever met who has gone from a place where they are to a place where they want to be hasn't gone

through. You have to make that start.

through. You have to make that start.

You have to separate yourself from the pack. You have to be willing to spend

pack. You have to be willing to spend time with yourself. You have to sacrifice.

>> I knew that no one was coming back to help me. No one's gonna miracle me to be

help me. No one's gonna miracle me to be somebody special. All my situations were

somebody special. All my situations were on me now and solely on me.

>> It's close to 3:00 in the morning right now. The thing is, man, it's always

now. The thing is, man, it's always going to be a party. There's always

going to be a time to celebrate and a time to join friends. And I mean, the bars are always open. Always open. No

matter how old you are, they're always open, you know.

What's not always open is the opportunity to to check the box in life, you know, to achieve your dreams. That's not always open. I'm talking about right

now. The small steps in between the big

now. The small steps in between the big successes everyone sees. No one sees this right now. I'm saying like there's a confidence to it, man. There's

this there's a bad motherucker that's right here, you know, that that's getting ahead of the competition.

There's an overwhelming sense of fulfillment and pride and satisfaction with that.

>> Successful people have mastered the art of spending time alone. When I get time with myself and I get in my head and I

get in my heart and I understand my behaviors and my belief systems and my parameters and what I need to do and how I need to sew and where I need to send my energy and how I need to execute in

the day. It's a superpower when you

the day. It's a superpower when you spend that time alone and you can think and you can pray and you can meditate and everybody's not in your mix. You're

able to grow something. Spending time

alone is the only place where you get to have these conversations. And most of us are spending time away from being alone because we're scared of having these

conversations. The challenge today is

conversations. The challenge today is that we think that there's only one word for being alone and we call it loneliness. We've forgotten about a

loneliness. We've forgotten about a second word. It's called solitude.

second word. It's called solitude.

>> Solitude and loneliness externally look the same, but they're completely different things. Solitude is the

different things. Solitude is the strength of being alone and loneliness is the weakness. I don't respect a whole bunch of people, but the few that I did respect are the people who were uncommon

amongst uncommon people. And what that means is those people who weren't afraid to stand alone.

>> I'm very comfortable in my own head. I'm

very comfortable alone for hours at a time, for days at a time. The one

companion that's always going to be with you is yourself.

>> No one's coming. No one.

>> Kill the boy.

and let the mind be born.

>> The difference is how do you look at it?

How do you approach it? How do you deal with it? How do you admit it and see it

with it? How do you admit it and see it for what it is?

And then what do you do about it?

What do you do about it? You cry about it. You mope about it. You drink about

it. You mope about it. You drink about it. You sleep around about it. You get

it. You sleep around about it. You get

mad and get in fights about it.

You just hang around.

Just turn the world out. Just zombie

about it. You fry yourself with marijuana about it. Say, "Dwayne, I'm sad."

sad." Dude, that's a part of life.

You think you're the only man on this planet that's sad? Say, "Dwayne, I'm going through depression." Well, welcome to the world. Welcome to the rest of us.

>> If you look at the stats around suicidality in the UK, the thing that's most likely to kill someone between the age of like 18 and 40 is themselves for a man. Do we really not know what it is

a man. Do we really not know what it is to be a good man? And and I would go so far as to say to be a good human being, right? Because take responsibility for

right? Because take responsibility for what you're doing. Take take ownership of your world. Take ownership of your life. Go try and accomplish something

life. Go try and accomplish something that's hard. You may win. You may lose.

that's hard. You may win. You may lose.

You may succeed. You may fail. I'll tell

you what, you'll be better if you avoid those things that are hard if you don't accept that challenge. If

you don't step up and step into that cold water and you sit on your couch and eat Doritos, I I I can tell you this is not a good

move. This is not a good move.

move. This is not a good move.

Don't do that. Don't do that. Just get

up, move towards that challenge, whatever that challenge is.

move towards that challenge and go ATTACK IT.

>> IT'S WAKE UP. STOP SLEEPING ON YOURSELF.

Step into your authenticity. Step into

your intelligence and your brilliance.

RELEASE YOUR GIFT. GOD HAS GIVEN YOU SOMETHING GREAT. RELEASE it into the

SOMETHING GREAT. RELEASE it into the earth. Whatever that goal is, whatever

earth. Whatever that goal is, whatever that insurmountable feas, whether it's weight loss, financial, mindset, relational, I don't care what it is, career, to be a CEO or an investor,

whatever it is, get it done. This is not the year you sleeping yourself.

>> There's nothing going to stop me. If you

didn't make me, you can't break me. If

you didn't make the sun come up, you can't stop me. If you didn't MAKE THE MOON SHINE AT NIGHT, YOU CAN'T STOP ME.

MY PURPOSE, MY WILL, MY DEDICATION, MY MOTIVATION IS all about doing the business. Because guess what, ladies and

business. Because guess what, ladies and gentlemen? That's what I'm about. I'm

gentlemen? That's what I'm about. I'm

about that business. I'm about that life. WHAT ARE YOU ABOUT? MAN UP. STOP

life. WHAT ARE YOU ABOUT? MAN UP. STOP

CRYING. My teacher don't like you. Why?

MAYBE YOU DISRESPECTFUL.

WHY DON'T DON'T SAY SHE DON'T LIKE YOU.

GO LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND TAKE FULL OWNERSHIP. WHY DOES SHE NOT LIKE ME?

OWNERSHIP. WHY DOES SHE NOT LIKE ME?

YOU'RE WATCHING LEBRON make his dreams BECOME A REALITY. YOU'RE WATCHING THE BLACK MOTHER GOING TO MAKE HIS DREAMS BE COMING OUT. If you put THE SAME TIME

COMING OUT. If you put THE SAME TIME LEBRON PUT IN AND I STARTED STUDYING AND I realized as an African-American male, I need to get a master degree and a PhD in order to do what I'm doing. And guess

what? I had to get up even though it was hard. And I had to take ownership of my

hard. And I had to take ownership of my life, take ownership OF MY TIME, TAKE OWNERSHIP of my day.