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So, I won't tell you to what to do because no one likes that. I will,

however, give you some life hacks I wish I knew when I was starting out my dreams of a career and navigating life, love,

pressure choices shame hope and friendship.

The first of which is life can be heavy, especially if you try to carry it all at once.

Part of growing up and moving into new chapters of your life is about catch and release.

What I mean by that is knowing what things to keep and what things to release. You can't carry all things. All

release. You can't carry all things. All

grudges, all updates on your ex, all enviable promotions your school bully got at the

hedge fund his uncle started.

Decide what is yours to hold and let the rest go. Often times the good things in

rest go. Often times the good things in your life are lighter anyway, so there's more room for them. One toxic

relationship can outweigh so many wonderful simple joys. You get to pick what your life has time and room for. Be

discerning.

Secondly, learn to live alongside cringe.

No matter how hard you try to avoid being cringe, you will look back on your life and cringe retrospectively.

Cringe is unavoidable over a lifetime.

Even the term cringe might someday be deemed cringe.

I promise you, you're probably doing or wearing something right now that you will look back on later and find revolting and hilarious.

You can't avoid it, so don't try to. For

example, I had a phase where for the entirety of 2012, I dressed like a 1950s house housewife.

But you know what? I was having fun.

Trends and phases are fun. Looking back

and laughing is fun.

And while we're talking about things that make us squirm, but really shouldn't, I'd like to say I'm a big advocate for not hiding your enthusiasm for things.

It seems to me that there is a false stigma around eagerness in our culture of unbothered ambivalence.

This outlook perpetuates the idea that it's not cool to want it. That people

who don't try are fundamentally more chic than people who do. And I wouldn't know because I've been a lot of things, but I've never been an expert on chic.

But I'm the one who's up here, so you have to listen to me when I say this.

Never be ashamed of trying.

Effortlessness is a myth. The people who wanted it the least were the ones I wanted to date and

be friends with in high school. The

people who want it the most are the people I now hire to work for my company.

I writed I started writing songs when I was 12 and since then it's been the compass guiding my life and in turn my

life guided my writing. Everything I do is just an extension of my writing.

Whether it's direct directing videos or a short film, creating the visuals for a tour, or standing on a stage performing, everything is connected by my love of

the craft. the thrill of working through

the craft. the thrill of working through ideas and narrowing them down and polishing it all up in the end. Editing,

waking up in the middle of the night, throwing out the old old idea because you just thought of a new or better one or a plot device that ties the whole thing together.

There's a reason they call it a hook.

Sometimes a string of words just ins snares me and I can't focus on anything until it's been recorded or written down. As a songwriter, I've never been

down. As a songwriter, I've never been able to sit still or stay in one creative place for too long. I've made

and released 11 albums, and in the process, I've switched genre from country to pop to alternative to folk.

And this might sound like a very songwriter centric line of discussion, but in a way I really do think we are

all writers.

And most of us write in a different voice for different situations. You

write differently in your Instagram stories than you do your senior thesis.

You send a different type of email to your boss than you do your best friend from home. We are all literary

from home. We are all literary chameleons and I think it's fascinating.

It's just a continuation of the idea that we are so many things all the time.

And I know it can be really overwhelming figuring out who to be and when. Who you

are now and how to act in order to get where you want to go. I have some good news. It's totally up to you.

news. It's totally up to you.

I have some terrifying news.

It's totally up to you.

I said to you earlier that I don't ever offer advice unless someone asks me for it. And now I'll tell you why.

it. And now I'll tell you why.

As a person who started my very public career at the age of 15, it came with a price. And that price was years of

price. And that price was years of unsolicited advice.

Being the youngest person in every room for over a decade meant that I was constantly being issued warnings from older members of the music industry,

media interviewers executives and this advice often presented itself as thinly veiled warnings. See, I was a teenager

warnings. See, I was a teenager at a time when our society was absolutely obsessed with the idea of

having perfect young female role models.

It felt like every interview I did included slight barbs by the interviewer about me one day running off the rails.

And that meant a different per thing to every person who said it to me. So, I

became a young adult while being fed the message that if I didn't make any mistakes, all the children of America would grow

up to be perfect angels.

However, if I did slip up, the entire Earth would fall off its axis and it would be entirely my fault and I would go to pop star jail forever and ever.

It was all centered around the idea that mistakes equal failure and ultimately the loss of

any chance at a happy or rewarding life.

This has not been my experience.

My experience has been that my mistakes led to the best things in my life.

And being embarrassed when you mess up, it's part of the human experience.

getting back up, dusting yourself off, and seeing who still wants to hang out with you afterward and laugh about it.

That's a gift.

The times I was told no or wasn't included, wasn't chosen, didn't win, didn't make the cut. Looking back, it really feels

the cut. Looking back, it really feels like those moments were as important, if not more crucial, than the moments I was told yes.

Not being invited to the parties and sleepovers in my hometown made me feel hopelessly lonely.

But because I felt alone, I would sit in my room and write the songs that would get me a ticket somewhere else. Having

label executives in Nashville tell me that only 35year-old housewives listen to country music and there was no place

for a 13-year-old on their roster.

made me cry in the car on the way home.

But then I'd post my songs on my MySpace and yes, MySpace.

And I would message with other teenagers like me who loved country music but just didn't have anyone singing from their perspective.

Having journalists write indepth, oftentimes critical pieces about who they perceived me to be made feel like I was living in some weird simulation.

But it also made me look inward to learn about who I actually am.

Having the world treat my love life like a spectator sport in which I lose every single game was not a great way to date in my teens and 20s.

But it taught me to protect my private life fiercely.

Being publicly humiliated over and over again at a young age was excruciatingly painful. But it forced me to devalue the

painful. But it forced me to devalue the ridiculous notion of minuteby minute ever fluctuating social relevance and

likability.

[Applause] Getting cancelled on the internet and nearly losing my career gave me an

excellent knowledge of all the types of wine.

[Applause] I know I sound like a consumate optimist, but I'm really not. I lose

perspective all the time. Sometimes

everything just feels completely pointless.

I know the pressure of living your life through the lens of perfectionism.

And I know that I'm talking to a group of perfectionists because you are here today graduating from NYU.

[Applause] So this might be hard for you to hear

in your life. You will inevitably missspeak, trust the wrong person, underreact,

overreact, hurt the people who didn't deserve it, overthink, not think at all.

Self-sabotage.

Create a reality where only your experience exists. Ruin perfectly good

experience exists. Ruin perfectly good moments for yourself and others. Deny

any wrongdoing. Not take the steps to make it right. Feel very guilty. Let the

guilt eat at you. Hit rock bottom.

Finally address the pain you caused. Try

to do better next time. Rinse. Repeat.

[Applause] And I'm not going to lie, these mistakes will cause you to lose things.

I'm trying to tell you that losing things doesn't just mean losing. A lot of the time when we lose things, we gain things too.

Now, you leave the structure and framework of school and chart your own path.

Every choice you make leads to the next choice which leads to the next. And I

know it's hard to know which path to take. There will be times in life where

take. There will be times in life where you need to stand up for yourself.

Times when the right thing is actually to back down and apologize.

Times when the right thing is to fight.

Times when the right thing is to turn and run.

Times to hold on with all you have. And

times to let go with grace.

Sometimes the right thing to do is to throw out the old schools of thought in the name of progress and reform.

Sometimes the right thing to do is to sit and listen to the wisdom of those who have come before us. How will you know what the right choice is in these

crucial moments?

You won't. How do I give advice to this many people about their life choices?

I won't. The scary news is you're on your own now.

But the cool news is you're on your own now.

[Applause] I leave you with this. We are led by our

gut instincts, our intuition, our desires and fears, our scars and our dreams. And you will screw it up sometimes.

So will I. And when I do, you will most likely read about it on the internet.

Anyway, hard things will happen to us.

We will recover. We will learn from it.

We will grow more resilient because of it. And as long as we are fortunate

it. And as long as we are fortunate enough to be breathing, we will breathe in, breathe through, breathe deep,

breathe out. And I am a doctor now, so I

breathe out. And I am a doctor now, so I know how breathing works.

I hope you know how proud I am to share this day with you. We're doing this together. So,

you. We're doing this together. So,

let's just keep dancing like we're the class of 22.

Nate onion English.