Too Many Interests? How to get REAL results in them. The Best Approach.

when it comes to having a lot of things you're passionate about the main issue is just how many things should you try to get good at you may believe the common myth that if you try too many

things then you won't be good at any of them but that's not true at all well I'm going to show you my method of what really worked for me as far as getting lasting results in multiple areas and

hopefully you can draw some experience from that and cater it to your life so I'll start by saying that in my opinion it's better to be good at a lot of things by going at them one at a time

that's how I got where I am and I'm going to explain why this is really important especially if you're like me and you tend to get really excited and just want to jump into everything right

away it's important to take things one at a time and really focus deeply on those it's not a bad thing that you have all this excitement and this extra

energy to just dive into things that you really want to do but the problem with diving into too many things at once is that you have a limited amount of focus that you're able to apply and you don't

have momentum but I'm going to get into that in a second to start though as far as selecting a hobby let's assume you've cleared out everything in your life that tends to get in the way distractions bad

habits and so on what would occupy your mind the most and if you can actually think of something this is probably where you should start that could be art that could be guitar and piano that

could be Sports maybe you're into sculpting I read some comments from the last video some of you are also into the things that I'm in which is cool photography different fields of tech

graphic design things like that what would it be for you though and I would say whatever that is that's where you should start you could also think of this as if you were known for something

what would that be so in my case I would want people to say oh that's V the piano and guitar player so that is what occupies my mind the most whatever ever

that is for you though I would highly recommend that's where you start so why one at a time what's the purpose of one at a time reason number one is focus I

would say focus is the most important thing when it comes to getting good at multiple things or just one thing really if you don't have Focus you really don't have anything else and if your focus is

really bad you can develop it to be really good over time I've been at a point where my focus was great it got really bad and now it's great again so I know both sides of it you can absolutely

build it up but this is the one thing that's going to actually get you good in whatever area you try to apply yourself to especially because we all have life happening around us you have work school

family other obligations that you have to take care of if you don't have the focus to actually put in onto something that you want to do when you're not dealing with those other things you

won't really get the results so this is why it's important to focus on one thing at a time there's probably times in your life life if you're like me where you've tried to do too many things at once and

you just kind of abandon them all at the same time this is exactly what I've done before and also another reason why I think this Focus aspect is probably the

most important thing here also this focus is going to help you drastically improve in this one area and you're probably going to get good a lot faster than you think reason number two and

this is kind of a cheat code to life in general but it's something I call the confidence snowball so when you get good at something whatever that thing you had in your mind when you get good at that

the next skill you pick up your ability and belief in yourself as far as your ability to pick up a skill get through the days you don't want to show up the

discipline the focus all that your ability in those areas is actually going to carry over to the next thing you do even if it's not connected I'll use

myself for an example I started out just playing guitar this was in high school I didn't do Sports no languages nothing I was I'll put a picture of myself on the

screen but I basically was into video games and playing guitar the first thing I learned outside of that was kickboxing and these are two completely

different areas you know video games and guitar over the kickboxing is kind of a drastic change but something I noticed is that as I went to practice as I would

show up as I would Spa a lot of the confidence I had came from the fact that I had done this before I had gotten through those tough days on guitar or those days where I really didn't feel

like showing up those days I can't really explain it but it really set something inside of me to where I was able to transfer that ability over just

fine considering I was in Japan during this time I started learning Japanese after this and now I had the confidence from learning guitar and learning

kickboxing to apply to the language which I really needed because Japanese was the first language that I learned outside of English which is really hard for an English speaker and I really

really noticed that though these fields are completely unrelated The Confidence from the first bled into into the second and into the next and even after

Japanese into software engineering and other things that I do pianoo and a list of other things it's continuously builds up my confidence and my ability to to

just do this a lot better A lot smoother I really think without the prior Hobbies some of these things I would have quit on especially kickboxing MMA in general

it's very hard but the fact that I could get to levels in those other areas that other people couldn't maybe not in a competition sense but you know what I mean that gave me the confidence and

knowing hey if I stick with this just like the tough times and those other tasks I'll be able to get through this too and get get to that level that I want to be at I bring all this up to say

as you develop in one area and you're focusing on that one thing it's really going to build your skill developing skill I don't know if that sentence

makes sense your skill developing skill your ability to develop new skills it's going to build that up so everything you pick up past that first thing or that

second thing is actually going to come a lot easier even if it's not related now we're going to talk about Max Capac capacity this is really the big question I get from people who see my Channel or

just know me in real life how many is too much or how many should you get this will be different for everyone of course that's the blanket answer but I do want to say this is probably going to be a

lot more than you actually think and I'll explain that in a minute I personally did not think at all that I would be able to do everything that I do

today and actually keep up with it about 7 10 years ago I had no idea I would be doing what I do now and you probably will be in the same position yourself

maybe in a shorter amount of time I don't know but you're probably going to have that same realization like I did and even now I'm still kind of confused at my own life and I live my own life

every day but I'm really grateful to be here and give you guys the information so that you can kind of do the same thing because it really is a good feeling when you're skilled in all the

things that are in your mind and you're not just kind of wishing that you had results anymore so to tackle this Max Capacity thing I want to bring up a

image that I have in my head and I think of an ambient light like a light that's just kind of lights up the whole room but then you take that and you put it into a laser beam and you point it at

one area I tend to see this as our energy and our Focus throughout the day and this is what really made it click for me as far as developing all these areas and how I really got to this

realization was video games growing growing up I used to play video games all day literally if you left me in my room from sun up to sundown I could be

on the Xbox GameCube whatever Super Smash Bros fighting games Halo Gears of War all that stuff I would just switch from game to game and I could play non-stop I didn't have to eat I barely

drink water barely moved I just play video games that's it my logic was this if I could sit there and play video games all day no breaks maybe one break

to go I don't know get a drink of water just so I can play more games why can't I apply that to other things that really came into play when I was in the military because I worked a lot we

deployed we did all kinds of stuff in the off time I'd say well you know I used to play games after school and why can't I just do this now why can't I just play guitar when I get off work

even though I'm tired or whatever and thinking about this I don't know if it tricked my brain or my body just started to believe me or whatever again this is all just my experience

I noticed that I was actually able to do way more than I thought this continued to bleed over when I got out of the military and I was living in Japan as a civilian because I would go to school

and go to college there and then I would get off and I would still do other things still go to practice and I could keep it up and the whole time I was thinking to myself remember you used to

play video games for 12 hours a day so just divide those 12 hours into productive things I hope this is making sense let me know if it's not I can

maybe articulate it better but it's like I don't want to say energy transfer but maybe that's the word to use I'm transferring that idea of me being able

to play something all day or do something all day even longer than 12 hours sometimes into more productive tasks I say that to say figure out what you can

do for a long time maybe it's a combination of things maybe you can binge Netflix while scrolling social media or also playing video games or you're on YouTube all day think about

that and how that is easily accessible and easy for you to do and as you start to pick up these things try to attribute that to what you're trying to learn I don't know if this works again I don't

have science I don't have studies I don't have bar charts or any of that I just know in my experience this was something that really helped me out now I'm not saying detach from life that's

not what I'm saying where you're just inside all day and you stop being in touch with reality all I'm saying is that most days you want to limit that

severely limit it or cut it off and just put that energy into something else because again the ambient light to laser it's really the same light it's the same amount of light it's just got to go

somewhere rather than being spread out into different areas for no reason okay along the lines of Max Capacity when should you add on another hobby or

interest again the answer is kind of a blanket answer everyone's different but I would really say pay attention to when you're not finding it a struggle to show

up that is one huge indicator I would say and another one is once you develop some sort of Competency in that area put more importance on the ability of

showing up though I believe this is the key because competence is a everchanging goal in my opinion but the ability to show up is something that you can gauge

right away another way to find this out is if you feel weird while going a few days without it that's another indicator that it's pretty much attached to you at

that point I remember personally for MMA in my sense are mostly kickboxing but when covid happened I was in Japan and most of the

gyms shut down and for a while there was no lockdown rule but places with Close Quarters like that kind of just had to stop and everything was shutting down

early so for me I noticed I think about 3 4 days in I was literally kind of scrambling like I didn't know what to do

cuz I hadn't sparred anyone I hadn't trained with anyone it sounds weird but when you're not consistently fighting other people at least for me I feel strange only in the gym by the way not

on the streets no violence but when I'm not training like that it does feel weird and I noticed that's because I was really attached to it the same thing goes for guitar if I go a few days

without playing guitar or piano it starts to feel strange so I say this for you to say if you start to feel that feeling that's a really really good indicator that you can probably add on

something else so why is this a good idea to wait to add on something else once you're competent or once you stop struggling to show up to me it comes down to time if you can manage your time

a lot better by not scrambling all throughout the day trying to figure out your routine you're going to be able to continuously keep that Focus and your mind will be clear that's

really the most important part your mind will be clear if you still find it's hard to show up and practice your instrument while you're trying to go learn graphic design on the computer

then you now have to struggle in two different areas and you won't really have a clear mind but if you have your instrument practice on autopilot to the point where you don't even have to force yourself to show up now when you go

learn that other thing I think I just said graphic design now when you go learn that other other thing it's not going to really be that much of an effort okay some other Concepts to

consider as far as adding these things on I know I said one thing at a time but I also understand we're human so on some days or whenever you just kind of feel

like it or you need a small break try to dabble into that other thing that you're thinking about so if you're like me which apparently there's a lot of you if you play guitar and piano and you need a

break and you want to go learn some Japanese do that just always remember that you want to continuously develop that focus in the first area but try to

just look at some other stuff in other areas too another concept is that every hobby or interest or passion or whatever has a valley and what I mean by a valley

is that there's a time especially in the beginning where you're not really enjoying the process I think every hobby has a honeymoon phase where you're

excited everything's new it's cool it's fun and then it drops off and reality hits you're not good you're not where you want to be but you can see where you want to be that can inspire you but

there are times where you just won't feel it you kind of feel discouraged once you can get through the valley though you get to a point where you unlock creativity and I believe this is

the point that hooks you onto a hobby once you can unlock creativity in that field I like to call it the point of no return or the point in which you know you like it or not for example in

Japanese yeah I'm fluent now fluent I don't like using that word but I am um for a while sentences I had to think about them while I said them and I call this the

valley because it requires a lot of brain work same with watching anime or something with no subtitles it required a lot of brain work and it's kind of discouraging because you're like man I don't know if I'll ever get it maybe I

started when I was too old blah blah blah but then once you can actually say sentences without thinking that much and you can understand what you're watching without really paying attention to it

like that that's when the creativity comes up and you can start to say your own custom sentences you can start to look up whatever you really want and you can get into things that you really like

and not have to deal with the basics that's the point of no return again and I would say this is when you get through the valley but it's important to know every Hobby in my opinion has a

valley Japanese and you know a lot of you are musicians who watch my channel you have the times you have to learn the notes you have to learn the scales you have to do a lot of drills dexterity

work things like that it's not that fun sometimes and if you can get through that and get to the creativity part this is when the real fun starts so just keep that Valley in mind I think almost

everything has it you just don't want to forget that it exists okay next I would say is to stay present but think longterm this is just another way to say

stay focused on one thing at a time and use that momentum but understand that eventually it's going to work out for your good because you're going to actually have results in these areas

rather than just having surface level results and a bunch of different things the next one is that it's okay to quit if you don't like that thing I know we

often see quitting as a bad thing but if you start learning guitar for example and you realize you're just not into it after you get through the valley preferably but once you realize you're

not into it and you just want to drop it that's totally okay I've done this with several things but don't be discouraged and thinking that you're doing something wrong or that you've given up and all

that whatever you hear on the Internet it's just not for you so be okay with that the next one is just to be kind to yourself you know even this video there's a lot to unpack here there's a lot to do there's a lot in your life you

may have to change cuz you might already be into too many different things and now you have to scale it down to one or you're still on social media a lot or

YouTube a lot that's fine just start to make these adjustments pretty soon and don't be too harsh on yourself if it's not happening right away and lastly

always keep in mind the 99 and 1% rule it's kind of a little rule I made up in my last video 99% of the work is what you do and 1% of the work is stuff like

this video or the courses or content that you're learning from always keep that in mind that all being said if you're looking to teach yourself a skill and you're tired of being lost on the

computer with all these sources I will have a link right here I think right here I don't know if it's not right here just click it it's going to be somewhere on the screen and I also have a playlist on managing multiple interests in

general it goes over removing things from your life your belief systems and it'll probably include this video too or if you don't want to watch any of that you can get off the computer or the

phone now and just get to work that's what I would really prefer you to do but it's your life you can do what you want anyhow if you found this helpful you can leave a like helps the channel out a lot and you can subscribe if you aren't

subscribed yet and if you want you can hit the Bell you know this is a lot to do but it's all right there you can just do it and if you don't do any of that I'm going to send this blue shell from

Mario Kart to come see you and I'll see you in the next one peace [Music]

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