你覺得自己幸運嗎？► 答案將透露你的人生觀.. - Vanessa Van Edwards 凡妮莎‧范‧愛德華茲（中英字幕）

do you feel lucky people who have a resounding yes to I feel lucky are more likely healers people who say I don't feel lucky I feel very unlucky are typically victims self-narrative is

story you tell yourself about yourself I think that there are basically three main types of narratives and you should know what these are for the closest people in your life maybe only two or three and you should also know what it is for yourself the best one is a hero

narrative this is I've worked really hard I've had some challenges and mistakes but I've overcome with hard work and smarts and now I am where I am every version of their story their

career their life their relationships is that same narrative over and over again then there's what I think is called the Healer narrative their story is all about helping others they typically are

in careers of service of helping others physical therapist nurses healthare their story is how can I be more helpful they tend to have a problem though if you're in a relationship with a with a Healer is they always put other people's

needs before themselves and a lot of the times they were put in a position of caretaking too early they were told that you're of value if you can caretake you're of value if you put your needs last so they tend to be people Pleasers

they tend to say yes to everything you have to be careful for you work with a Healer because they are great to work with they help help help but they say yes to too much so uh healer is the middle one the last one is victim

narrative victim narrative no matter what personal professional love life taxes they have the same narrative I experienced challenges and mistakes and I didn't overcome no matter how hard I

work no matter how smart I am the world is against me so the question I ask people to begin to uncover their self- narratives do you feel lucky do you feel lucky I feel very lucky I also feel very

lucky people who have a resounding yes to I feel lucky are more likely heroes or healers people who say I don't feel lucky I feel very unlucky are typically

victims Dr Richard wisman did a study he asked people to perceive their own luck how lucky do you feel then he gave them a challenge he gave them a newspaper and he said I want you to count the amount of images in this newspaper they sat

with the newspaper and they counted all the images but there was a trick on the second page of the newspaper in big print it said stop counting there are 42 images in this newspaper almost all of

the people who perceived themselves as lucky saw the ad closed the paper and gave it back to there are 42 images almost none of the Unlucky people did The Unlucky people missed the ad and

kept counting spent a lot of time and made more mistakes this means that if you think of yourself as lucky you literally see more opportunities if you

think of yourself as unlucky you miss them is it possible to change how you see yourself if this is resonating with you and like you're like uhoh I feel unlucky I might have this victim self-narrative I do believe it's

possible to change your perception of yourself and that's starting with small moments of heroism I think that changing your people skills saying I don't like people and saying I'm going to find a

way to like people saying I'm bad at conversation I'm going to find a way to be good at conversation to say I'm an awkward person no I'm a recovering awkward person if we can begin to take those tiny experiments and change them

one by one we begin to have small moments of heroism and that's how we change our self- narrative [Music]