Virgin Approaches 100 Women in 7 Days (Shocking Results)

In this video, I want to break down how a virgin Indian guy approached 100 women in seven days. This video was originally on Steven Choys YouTube, and I want to

review his journey with you and give you my assessments as a social skills coach.

>> This is Brendan. He's 28, and he's never dated anyone before. He flew all the way from Montreal to London for one reason, to finally end his dating struggles.

Okay, so over the course of a few days, Brendan, this 23-year-old virgin, okay, very similar to me, except I was a 23-year-old skinny, nerdy Chinese guy,

has to do 100 approaches. And he's doing these approaches with a coach who knows what he's doing, and he's giving Brendan the feedback that he needs to get to the next level. Let's see how he does.

next level. Let's see how he does.

>> Stood out to me cuz it's so professional.

>> That's really What's your name?

>> You have like the fluffiest dogs ever.

Where did you get them?

He did Bryson.

>> Okay, right away I can see that Brendan has really good energy. Oh, you have the fluffiest jog ever. He's very likable.

And you can see right here his posture is completely off. Okay, in fact, I think uh unless he has a genetic defect, the posture here is affecting his interactions with people. Right, this is

the first thing I notice about someone as soon as I see them in person. Um, if

you study the Alexander technique, if you study Fred and Kalis, if you study uh Ida Roof, the Rolf method, his neck is too forward. His hands are like this and he has slightly forward anterior

pelvic tilt. That means that his pelvis

pelvic tilt. That means that his pelvis is more forward than it should be, which gives him this really weird crooked angle that immediately when women see it, they're going to be turned off.

Also, the way he's holding his arms is kind of like this. It's like he's unsure. Like kind of like

unsure. Like kind of like people don't realize this, but you can have the best energy. You can have the right words to say, you can even say it the right way, but if your non-verbals are off, the non-verbals take account

for like 70% of what people are feeling around you.

>> Even Bryson, what's that?

>> See, as soon as he did that, you only have about 3 seconds. One, two, he's standing on balance. He looks a little bit weird. He's like this. And I don't I

bit weird. He's like this. And I don't I can't see his face, but I bet his face is pretty nervous. Like, hey.

Okay, so I'm approaching, putting my hand out, and then I'm going 1 2 3. As

I'm turning, I put my hand out, 1 2 3.

And then I'm making eye contact, and I'm smiling, and then I go like, "Hey, this is going to sound a little spontaneous, but I just saw you from over there, and I wanted to come say hello."

>> Okay, I don't want to hate on other Asian dating coaches, and I have to give him credit. This is, I think, his

him credit. This is, I think, his girlfriend. He's got proof of work,

girlfriend. He's got proof of work, right? There's a reason he's with her.

right? There's a reason he's with her.

He's dressed pretty well. The way he approached was from the side and he basically his difference is he puts his hand out and he says hey I had to come say hello. Okay now I used to do that

say hello. Okay now I used to do that too. In fact we used to do the falcon

too. In fact we used to do the falcon stop. We call it this like you stand in

stop. We call it this like you stand in front of the girl and he goes stop like this. Hey stop I have to talk to you.

this. Hey stop I have to talk to you.

There was a coach who taught the falcon stop. You know it's kind of like the

stop. You know it's kind of like the secret of game. So I did that for a while. I did the way he did it. In my

while. I did the way he did it. In my

opinion, after 15 years, I think the best way to stop a walking girl is similar to what you did in the beginning, but a slight variation. When

you're walking with her side by side, instead of coming on towards her, where you're facing her, where you're confronting her path, you're walking along with her path. And this physical

metaphor also translates to the fact that you're on her side rather than fighting against her when you're stopping her in front. Do you see the difference with calibration? As you get better with game, when you're walking with her, you're going to reach a social

hook point as you talk. And eventually,

she's going to stop and you're going to talk to her. Okay? Sometimes in a busy New York street, I'll say, "I'm going to go two blocks this way as well. If it

gets awkward, we'll say goodbye. By the

way, what is your name?" So, what I'm doing there is throwing out a time constraint to let her know that if it gets awkward, I'm I can just leave, but I'm heading this way anyway.

>> And notice when I do that, my vibe, not like this like anxious vibe, very like relaxed. I'm looking at her.

relaxed. I'm looking at her.

>> Brendon tried a few times. I gave feet.

>> So right away something's wrong with his arm, right? And maybe this is if it is a

arm, right? And maybe this is if it is a genetic defect and I get that. But we

had a client once where we were doing a mock approach and his left hand stays still. You know how people walk? When

still. You know how people walk? When

you walk, you move your hands naturally, right? This guy left hand is still. So

right? This guy left hand is still. So

he's walking and his left hand is like straight, not moving, and only his right hand's moving. Right now something's

hand's moving. Right now something's wrong with his left hand where it looks crooked. I don't know if trigger points

crooked. I don't know if trigger points will release it or roing, but he needs to fix his posture.

>> And he kept at it. You don't need to over compliment her.

>> I actually think this guy is a good coach. He's doing the right things. Um,

coach. He's doing the right things. Um,

he is missing the non-verbal piece which affects the interactions a lot in my opinion.

>> After a couple more of these, Brendan got pumped up.

>> So, when I go into easier setups like a bar, >> something's up with his left shoulder.

>> Friends, dude, that becomes a joke.

>> Yeah.

>> Hey, >> you see how awkward he looks here? It's

kind of like the exorcist when the the girl is haunted crawls down the stairs and his left hand he's kind like a crab going this way. So that immediate 2 3

seconds this girl's scared. She's like,

"Whoa, what is going on?" And it's well lit, but it's night time. And because of the awkwardness of his non-verbals like this, she's not going to give him a time of day even though she's a nice person.

Watch.

>> I know this is sound really crazy. I

just >> see how she took two steps back there.

That's not the reaction you want when you approach someone. Okay? And when you get that reaction, you I'm sorry. I

didn't mean to startle you. I promise

I'm not a random person. I wanted to talk to you because you looked interesting or I liked your style. This

is what's wrong with this. Now, the

distance here, it can never be closed.

>> Notice, dude, I just wanted to say hi.

How are you?

>> Have a great night.

>> Look at the way he's walking. He's He's

scaring people away because of his non-verbals.

>> Excuse me. Sorry to bother you.

>> Never ever say excuse me, sorry to bother you. Excuse me is one of those

bother you. Excuse me is one of those words where if you say excuse me, people automatically stop due to social rules and conventions. But then if you're

and conventions. But then if you're apologetic after that, I'm I'm sorry to bother you. It's not a good Excuse me.

bother you. It's not a good Excuse me.

Hey, I thought you were cute. I wanted

to talk to you. Okay, you got to have a little more dominance, especially if you're an Asian guy or a minority.

>> He engaged a girl walking fast for more than a few seconds. I like that.

>> Hey, I know this is going to sound cool.

>> He's hopping with his arm like this.

Hey. So, of course, with that particular approach, it's not going to go well 90% of the time.

>> Completely random. I just know the screen. I just wanted to say hi.

screen. I just wanted to say hi.

>> The beauty of code approach is that no matter how weird you are, it's a numbers game. And some girls are just going to

game. And some girls are just going to stop and talk to you because they're nice people. She may not give you her

nice people. She may not give you her number, but she'll give you a chance.

And that's sometimes all it takes to stay inspired. Let's say

stay inspired. Let's say >> my goal for today, number one, make sure the fundamentals are strong. So your

stop is >> something I I think maybe this is something with his muscles or maybe the muscular structure maybe the skeleton too that's causing his left shoulder to be up and it's twisting his head and

that's going to create problems later on if he doesn't solve it and I don't know what the solution is but depending on the details it would have to be chiropractic muscle based or it has to be bone based but something's wrong with his posture and it's affecting his

non-verbals a lot >> really strong and >> I'm surprised the coach didn't catch this [music] he said when he talk when he goes up to

the girl he hops like a little kid he's doing this you don't want to do that you want to do smooth hey more smooth it's very choppy right now and by the way if he does have

like some type of defect that he can't change and um I empathize with that but this is something the coach should bring up I think in central London things got real so

many approaches but no hooks bustling streets beats overwhelm Brendan. Some

chaz fizzled mid.

>> His hand here, the way he's holding it is really abnormal. It's like this. It's

like talking to someone like this. Just

move it back.

Even if you have a defect, there's ways you can position your hand where it doesn't look weird. Again, I think he's a good coach, Steven, compared to all the [ __ ] out there. He's definitely

a more younger guy. Um, a more seasoned coach would be able to break it down like I'm breaking it down. But I got to give him props. And I got to give this guy props, too. He flew out to London and he's doing 100 approaches and that's

not easy to do. So, I just want to give props to these guys. Like, this guy is taking action. The coach is giving him

taking action. The coach is giving him feedback the best he can. They're at

least doing something about their lives.

And just for that, we shouldn't be hating on them or making fun of them. We

should actually applaud that. Now, the

comments that I'm making are going to help you take it to the next level, but I just want to make it clear in this video that I'm not clowning on them. As

a matter of fact, I admire them for taking action towards their goals >> way and hit the relationship wall. To be

fair, approaching in such a busy environment must have felt like training for the Olympics. But Brendan kept his head high and kept going. He even tried rising in French.

>> What do you speak? Oh,

[music] >> nice.

>> I keep making the same mistake over again cuz I'm not in the mindset of it being fun for me. I think that's a big challenge >> in the beginning when you're new. You're

you're constantly questioning, is it my mood and my vibe or is it the technicals? And as a beginner to

technicals? And as a beginner to intermediate, you don't know. Huh? You

don't know. And that's the thing that drives people crazy, man. Maybe my vibe wasn't that great, that's why. Or maybe

it's my technical delivery. The word I was using was wrong. And you're just not sure. And this these are moments when

sure. And this these are moments when the coach can step in and say, it's both, or it's your delivery, or maybe your mood is affecting your delivery. A

good coach should be able to tell what's happening here. In my opinion, I believe

happening here. In my opinion, I believe that it's his non-verbals that's affecting his approaches right now. And

because the coach is not correcting his body posture and non-verbals, right?

Then that tool is not available in this uh relationship. So now he has to rely

uh relationship. So now he has to rely on another tool which is like getting his frame right and giving some tools conversationally where he feels strong enough. Brendan feels strong enough to

enough. Brendan feels strong enough to have actually good body language. And

once his non-verbals change and his confidence goes up and up, then he's going to start getting results. That's

my prediction.

>> Says Brandon seemed ready to throw in the towel. He met someone who was

the towel. He met someone who was cheekly matching style.

>> Yo, how was that?

>> That was the best.

>> Yeah, >> let's [laughter] go.

>> Let me just take a moment.

>> Okay. Okay. Okay.

>> A few moments later.

>> Bro, that was insane, bro.

>> Okay. So, with cold approach pickup, there comes a moment in time when you find a really cute girl that you find super attractive and you're talking to her and the conversation's going great and for some reason unknown to you, she

likes you back. She's like, "Oh yeah, you know, that's so cool you came talk to me." [music] And in the beginning,

to me." [music] And in the beginning, you're like, "Oh my god, I can't believe this beautiful girl actually talked to me." And usually these girls would never

me." And usually these girls would never give you the time of day online, right?

Because online dating is just stacked against you. So when you do cold

against you. So when you do cold approach, all it takes is this one what we call breakthrough moment where it's like, "Wow, it's possible to meet girls like this in real life." And that changes your limiting beliefs a lot when

a when a client really experiences that like, "Oh, wow. Actually, this girl is amazing." And they start believing that

amazing." And they start believing that it's possible. All it takes is one.

it's possible. All it takes is one.

>> I can't even believe this. She's into

anime. She's cute.

>> She's 25, so she's younger than me, too.

Perfect. And she laughed like half the set. So what's the takeaway? The

set. So what's the takeaway? The

takeaway is [music] >> notice how his body language is better today too. He's feeling more confident

today too. He's feeling more confident on day two and three. He's no longer like this. He's standing a little bit

like this. He's standing a little bit straighter. So, this leads me to believe

straighter. So, this leads me to believe that this is not a permanent medical problem. This is a problem with his

problem. This is a problem with his posture.

>> As a coach, you bone.

>> Yeah, it's higher, but it's no longer like this. And his neck isn't crooked.

like this. And his neck isn't crooked.

It's actually getting better today. I

know a lot about posture because I was in a car accident in case you're wondering.

>> That is a vibe.

>> Notice how he no longer like talking to girl like this like from the side. He's

standing in front. He looks more stable.

He still has a anterior pelvic tilt.

Before he was like this. Now he's more like this and he's standing towards her.

So just he looks more balanced, right?

And these non-verbals I I believe is what is affecting about 50% of whether or not the girl stays. We're going to create the new style based on my observation and interest.

>> I think Kate is Steven's girlfriend and she's going to take him shopping. I love

that he has a cute girl that's helping out. Um, props to both of them. It

out. Um, props to both of them. It

definitely helps when you have a coach and he's [music] demonstrating not just through code approach, but the fact that he has beautiful women in his life. I

had two clients fly to [music] Thailand and um, I introduced him to one of my female friends and they ended up uh, you know, really liking each other. He would

ask me, "G, where did you guys meet?" I

said, "Oh, I met her at salsa class."

She's this like beautiful blonde Russian girl and he's like I got to start going [music] to salsa class. [laughter]

So a good coach coach who has normal healthy emotions and not like is not super weird. With [music] the proper

super weird. With [music] the proper skill set he's going to have like women in his life naturally as female friends or girlfriends. Um depending [music] on

or girlfriends. Um depending [music] on what he chooses like the girls being in his life is not like a uh just something that happens naturally once you have the skill set.

>> For example, you just went to me and said all of a sudden yeah >> all of a sudden >> she's giving him feedback. He's he's uh doing a mock conversation with her.

Notice how his body language here looks a lot more confident. He's leaning back now. He's chilling. [music] I love this.

now. He's chilling. [music] I love this.

This this type of experience also gives a client the idea that he has friends, right? They're just hanging out. Like a

right? They're just hanging out. Like a

lot of these guys are learning cold approach. I get it. I was there. It's

approach. I get it. I was there. It's

just like you play video games, you're alone, you don't have that many friends, and you just like go on this journey because you're hoping to have a social life. And sometimes a coach's job really

life. And sometimes a coach's job really is to hang out with the client. show him

not only how to code approach, but that it's okay to hang out with me, my friend, my female friends, and this is what's possible when you have the skill set. The two clients that came to

set. The two clients that came to Bangkok, they were shocked. They were

like, "Wow, you have this girl who's willing to demo with us. You have

another girl who came out with this, and you're able to approach new girls." So,

they get a sense of the lifestyle of what it's like to have women and good friends in your life. Okay.

>> Feel like a little dangerous to me.

That's >> What is my head right now?

Look at his non-verbals today. It's a

lot better. He's actually keeping his arms closed, so he's not leaning forward like this anymore. I like that his facial expressions also look a lot more confident, and the way he's saying these words sound more confident. And I love that the results are stacking day after

day. I think he's doing a great job

day. I think he's doing a great job here. I think the coach is doing a

here. I think the coach is doing a decent [music] job, too. Um, sometimes

sometimes when you give the guy enough guidance or confidence or just time listening to them and being present, the non-verbals sometimes will fix themselves. But I would have preferred

themselves. But I would have preferred it if the numbers were fixed on day one.

However, he's doing great so far.

Brendan >> cancer. Okay.

>> cancer. Okay.

>> Hey, I would love to grab a coffee with you. I know

you. I know >> he makes this mistake where he goes puts his hand like this. Like he does has this habit of going like this and [music] it looks very beta, but he's done good so far. He just at the last minute he does this again and he goes

back to a crooked timid beta position.

Um, however, in the beginning he built up enough rapport and attraction where the girl would agree. I if I were to guess, she was going to say yes.

>> Go. But hey, I'd love to keep in touch if that's something.

>> Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Do you have incident?

>> Hey, excuse me, you two. I just noticed you on the street.

>> He's hopping. Excuse me, you two. Again,

sometimes you get have a good day and then you have like some bad days where you go back to your old behavior. I

think right now his non-verbals is his biggest sticking point. Uh because his energy is good and the lines he's [music] using is okay. It's not

detrimental. And he's not the best looking guy, but he's not like deformed or anything. So, I think really it's the

or anything. So, I think really it's the non-verbals. Oh, the same color. Where

non-verbals. Oh, the same color. Where

did you get yours from?

>> Uh, I thrifted it in like Soho.

>> Oh, are you more like a thrifter?

>> Yeah.

>> Very cool. Take care.

>> I like that he lets the girl go. Cool.

Take care. He knows when to exit. I like

clients like this cuz they're they're good guys who didn't win the genetic or social skills lottery, but despite that, they're doing their best to pursue what they want. So, you got to applaud guys

they want. So, you got to applaud guys like that. You can't you can't knock

like that. You can't you can't knock them [music] down. Back in the Me Too era, there was a lot of these infield stuff that got pulled down. Um, some of them were a little bit creepy, a little bit more aggressive, especially with Western uh, [music] white coaches. But

this is good.

>> Okay, what's going on here, Stephen? I'm

seeing the same thing. What's going on?

You know what's going on? The level of conviction. It's not about what you say,

conviction. It's not about what you say, it's about your vibe.

>> I'm grateful for you, bud. You're

definitely right, man. I was complacent today. My conviction wasn't high.

today. My conviction wasn't high.

>> Okay, so here is, I think, where a more intermediate coach makes a slight not a mistake, but an optimization. Oh, it's a mistake. [laughter] So his conviction

mistake. [laughter] So his conviction and his energy, if he's feeling good that day, his non-verbals get good enough where he's not jerky. But when

he's not feeling good, his verbals, he excuse me, guys. Right? But when he's good, he's like, "Excuse me, guys." And

he's a little bit still jerky and he does this a little bit, but it's good enough or it's stable enough. So really,

it's his non-verbals. A great coach would be able to see that and correct his body language and he would be able to fix it pretty quickly.

>> Yeah, I'm strong in Canada. He has a really bad habit here of doing this.

Imagine talking to someone either like this.

>> Face forward. We'll talk like this.

>> Yeah. I'm from Montreal and and this this elbow here is stopping you. It

looks weird and it's stopping you from getting close to him and he's hunched over >> languages.

[laughter] >> I got to say this guy is a joy to be around though. He's got a good energy.

around though. He's got a good energy.

Like he's a fun nice guy. I like that.

>> Spanish with French. Wow.

>> What about you?

>> Terrible. Terrible body positioning.

[laughter] >> Terrible non-verbals. Now, look, even with terrible non-verbals, sometimes if you do enough approaches, the girl will stop. Okay. I also do observe like his

stop. Okay. I also do observe like his voice now and the way he's saying things is much stronger than before. So, it's

overriding the non-verbals [music] for now.

>> Yes.

>> Yes.

>> What do you think when you look at me?

>> Take a tour.

You're very outgoing.

>> After a few shy smiles back and forth, they suddenly started walking to a coffee shop. And just like that, another

coffee shop. And just like that, another date.

>> Nice.

>> Yeah, you never know. Sometimes you just meet a girl who's down and she's down to grab tea or coffee with you and it becomes a we call instant date and you end up on a date. You're alone, you wake up alone, you go out to the mall and then you end up on a date. That's the

power of cold approach pickup. The skill

set I think I believe every guy should learn it. university. Yeah, I'm in

learn it. university. Yeah, I'm in Canada. You got it. So, I was

Canada. You got it. So, I was >> I don't know how they got this footage.

Maybe the coach was sitting here again.

Look, during the cancel me too movement, all of this footage got pulled down.

Guys got cancelled and banned. But this

footage is really useful, right? And

we're not disclosing her identity either. Like, when a guy sees this

either. Like, when a guy sees this footage, he's going to be able to simulate like, okay, this is what I what's possible. And they get an inside

what's possible. And they get an inside view of what it's like. Back in the day, there was a thing called the RSC hot seat. And I never paid for the boot

seat. And I never paid for the boot camps because I always had friends who were coaches. But I would go to their

were coaches. But I would go to their hot seat because on the hot seat, Owen, Jeffy, and all these guys, Alex, they would show their footage, infield footage, and then you learn so much from it cuz you can break down the footage.

It's like a playbyplay, like watching, you know, game footage. And you can break it down what you're doing wrong, what you're doing right. And I remember sitting in one of the RSC hot seats and I'm thinking, you know, what he's doing in that video is not that far from where

I'm at. That's what I remember thinking.

I'm at. That's what I remember thinking.

And I was like, you know what? And it

gives you like the idea that it's possible. So unfortunately a lot of this

possible. So unfortunately a lot of this footage I'm afraid to put up because of privacy issues and you know women sue you like in the west. So uh fortunately it's just like too big of a risk. But I

think I wish there was more footage like this that helped guys because it really gives you a window into how easy it can be if you do the right things in the

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>> Doing like uh presentations in college.

It's crazy how I went from day zero and literally just like like hyperventilating to like saying hi to like two Asian girls who were just

smoking like a spliff or whatever. Not

just like attracting my dream girl.

Hypnotizing my dream bro hits all my boxes. Super super cute. Young. I like

boxes. Super super cute. Young. I like

my girls young. Young. I like YOUR GIRLS YOUNG.

>> FBI, OPEN UP.

>> THAT'S in the tape. I'm done.

>> All right. So, uh, he's probably like in his late 20s, early 30s. He looks very young. He might be even, I would say,

young. He might be even, I would say, late 20s now. Again, this is a feminist thing. You guys are after young girls.

thing. You guys are after young girls.

You're predators. Cancel them. Lock them

up. Throw away THE KEY.

>> CALL 911. OW. LOOK, I can tell you from experience that most of these guys when they were young never got girls.

Basically, they study hard, did well in their SATs, got into a good school. This

is like 80% of my clients. Got a job at a fang or Fortune 500 company. They

blinked and suddenly, you know, life passes by and they're 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 40. And they're like, "Wow, I never

33, 40. And they're like, "Wow, I never really learned how to talk to girls."

So, in the beginning, they're going to want to date young girls because they're trying to recapture that part of their youth that they missed. Okay, now that lasts like a few months and then they realize like there's a generational gap and then they date girls that are more

age appropriate. But before that

age appropriate. But before that happens, they're trying to recapture that moment that they never had. Okay,

that's most of the reason why these guys say, "I want to date younger girls." For

the most part, once you date young girls, you don't want to date them anymore cuz the maturity level is just insane. So, this is a common

insane. So, this is a common misconception between the feminist versus uh guys are actually helping people improve >> and super inquisitive, super thoughtful, dresses really nice. She was hooked. She

was invested.

>> She was and intimate. That was the most important. No, I like intimate like like

important. No, I like intimate like like great like this. I've never experienced this in my life.

>> Okay. I love this guy. He's so positive, right? I got to say most of my clients

right? I got to say most of my clients are great. If they're willing to fly out

are great. If they're willing to fly out to see me, they're usually their attitude is very good. Some clients,

right, with bad attitudes. I don't have them anymore cuz I just don't take those clients. But they'll be like, "Yeah,

clients. But they'll be like, "Yeah, it's okay, Gio. We talked to like 100 girls. Only one of them went on a date

girls. Only one of them went on a date with me." And they see all the

with me." And they see all the negatives. Yeah, but we could have done

negatives. Yeah, but we could have done this. you could have done this and they

this. you could have done this and they start blame game. They just keep blaming [ __ ] They blame themselves. They blame

other people.

>> GET OUT [screaming] OF HERE.

>> This guy is seeing opportunity. He's

seeing, wow, I got a girl who liked me, who had similar hobbies, and we got to sit down and talk. He's seeing all the things that are going right. Okay? You

got to train your brain when you're learning this stuff to focus on the things that are going right. Take the

lessons from the things that are going wrong, but not dwell in the things that are going wrong. Otherwise, you just end up on this downward spiral.

>> You're a master. Both of you grand masters. I don't even dare she barely.

masters. I don't even dare she barely.

>> Yeah. Happy for you, brother.

>> This is dangerous, bro. You're making me dead. That's crazy, dude. I love you

dead. That's crazy, dude. I love you guys, man.

>> Uh, you do become dangerous because once you know how to talk to girls with the code approach, this beautiful art form anywhere you go, you'll know how to hold a conversation. You'll know how to

a conversation. You'll know how to anticipate things. You'll know how to

anticipate things. You'll know how to read if someone's into you. And it just makes you available when the opportunity is there. You'll know what to do. Most

is there. You'll know what to do. Most

guys don't know what to do. They just

rely on luck or hoping some things happen in a certain [music] sequence.

Well, when you know this stuff, you can control the interactions and you can maximize your chances no matter how you look.

>> Two more people.

>> I think two more people.

>> What they >> exactly? Yo, what are you tired with,

>> exactly? Yo, what are you tired with, bro?

>> What are you tired of, man?

>> This is a really good question, >> man. They're like, man, they're vibing.

>> man. They're like, man, they're vibing.

They want to vibe and you're rejecting your opportunity. What's going on, bro?

your opportunity. What's going on, bro?

>> So, he goes to these two girls on his last date and he says, "Hey, I need two more rejections." [laughter]

more rejections." [laughter] and he doesn't care and the girl's like, "Why?" And then they got curious and now

"Why?" And then they got curious and now this starts his whole conversation with the four of them. Beautiful. We do that in the beginning. We call it blowout openers. I'll say, "Give me the worst

openers. I'll say, "Give me the worst opener that you can think of. I'm going

to go use it." And one of my friends, he said, "Oh, I gave him his worst opener."

I said, "Kevin, go say uh, hey, I just got my STD results back and I'm legally required to tell you that uh, you know, it's not safe to sleep with me." [music]

[laughter] and he had to open with that and try to carry the conversation forward.

He didn't do well. Then um the one he wrote for me actually became one of our best openers. It was, "Hey, you guys

best openers. It was, "Hey, you guys look like the baddest [ __ ] in this club."

club." >> Nice.

>> So just having fun with it, you know, just not caring about the result. And uh

yeah, they had got this great interaction on his last [music] day there >> is because >> what's going on?

>> And I'm just tired.

>> Are you trying to date someone or what is your >> That's a good question. Yo, she's she's establishing EC right now. Emotional

connection. Yeah. Let's go. Let's

>> Here's the other funny thing. Like when

you're in field and you're coaching, [music] sometimes I'll like whisper to the guy as he's talking to the girl. And

the girls like women, I don't know, they have this like weird like RA system, reticular activating system where they don't notice these things. Like the

coach is literally breaking down, hey, she's giving you emotional connection.

And the women are just like, huh? And

they just like they don't care or like they don't get it and they just keep the interaction going. This is especially

interaction going. This is especially crazy in a nightclub. I can literally whisper in a guy's ear, do this, do that, next step, and the girl will see you, but it won't register. Now, the

premise again, you know, don't cancel me, feminists. Again, a lot of the

me, feminists. Again, a lot of the infield breakdowns like you could get cancelled for any of this stuff, but what's happening is a woman's perception in social situations is [music] naturally gravitates towards social

value. So, if you can display and

value. So, if you can display and exhibit social value, she pays attention to that. She doesn't pay attention to

to that. She doesn't pay attention to the other stuff, okay? Especially in a nightclub. Day game is a little bit more

nightclub. Day game is a little bit more logical, but that's what's happening here. That's why he's able to say these

here. That's why he's able to say these things and they're not reacting badly.

Okay. Now, obviously, if you stop the entire interaction and say, "Hey, you got to grab her by the waist and do this and sexually harass her." Yeah, that's going to be an issue. But we're not doing that. We're just breaking things

doing that. We're just breaking things down.

[laughter] >> Yeah.

>> Funny how it works, huh?

>> You know what I think? What [laughter] I learned tonight though, funny enough, and then we'll do an overall [clears throat] takeaway, is that, man, I'm getting really good. Dangerous at

hooking girls. Even I'm just like literally reject me. And they're like, "No, >> the you mean no." And then I got mad.

>> So, what are the main takeaways?

>> When you train like an Olympic athlete, going back to any competition besides the Olympics, joke. That's the heaviest weight in the dating game.

>> Everything for me really. The fear of approaching girls. The most important

approaching girls. The most important result I got was getting over 70 to 80% of my fear of approaching girls. who got

me a result that I didn't think was possible in my life. The fact that she was into me completely changed my frame.

There's no way a girl would ever swipe right on me on an app or ever find me attractive. That belief changed from

attractive. That belief changed from like who gives a [ __ ] about an app.

>> Okay, he's absolutely right. You take a even a guy like me who's maybe 8 out of 10 in Asia, right? Maybe in America I'll be a 7 out of 10. I'm also aging out of the market at 42. But you take a guy

like me on a dating app, I don't really have that big of an advantage. And every

now and then I'll get like a eight, nine or 10 according to my standards. But

it's rare and I got to stay on the app a lot and I'm wasting like an hour a day on the app. But you take me to the right venue in Hollywood, a place where we used to hang out. I won't disclose the location. Between 8 to 11:00 p.m. where

location. Between 8 to 11:00 p.m. where

all the classy girls hang out, okay? In

that one venue, there are about 10 stunners. I can talk to probably 78 of

stunners. I can talk to probably 78 of them within the 2 and 1/2 hour time frame. And my close rate is like 80 to

frame. And my close rate is like 80 to 90% if she's single. Okay? So that means I'm probably walking away with four or five numbers of nines and tens. The same

amount of numbers from nines and tens for me to do on a dating app would take months. That's if I get lucky. Now, not

months. That's if I get lucky. Now, not

all of you are like me going after nines and tens. You're [music] probably just

and tens. You're [music] probably just after a cute girl. Code approach is one of the easiest ways to do it. If you

acquire the skill set, it takes longer to acquire the skill set, but once you can do it, so few guys can do it that you have no competition. During the day, night time, you have some competition, but all these guys are drunk and they're

competing on superficial value. So, if

you're not naturally a Chad, learning dating skills is one way that you can live that lifestyle without being naturally [music] born that way. Make

sense? All right. Overall, I thought the coach did a good job. This was a great video. I hope I don't get copyright

video. I hope I don't get copyright strike. I think this video was

strike. I think this video was transformative. I like seeing Brendan's

transformative. I like seeing Brendan's journey. I really enjoyed how much he

journey. I really enjoyed how much he grew in a couple of days, 7 days it looks like. And uh I applaud him, you

looks like. And uh I applaud him, you know, and hopefully you guys watching my video learned some lessons from the insights of a master coach, quote unquote. I've been doing this for a long

unquote. I've been doing this for a long time. If you're curious about how to do

time. If you're curious about how to do it, the step-by-step instructions and the systems, there's some links in the resources below. If you want to train

resources below. If you want to train with me personally, occasionally I offer it, but the first step will be to join our community. The links are also below

our community. The links are also below and we can have a conversation there about that. Okay, I'll see you in the

about that. Okay, I'll see you in the next one. Enjoy.

next one. Enjoy.